Have you ever been ignored?
Sha Nacino, Lead with CARE
?? One of the Top 30 Motivational Speakers in the World (Global Gurus) l The sole Filipino & Asian in the list. ??Keynote Speaker on Human Connection & Compassionate Leadership ?? TEDx Speaker ??Author of 15 books
I remember when I was dating this guy.
He would pick me up and drive me home.
He would plan our dates and make necessary reservations.
We were so interested in getting to know each other, so keen on listening to what the other had to say.
One day, he asked me how my schedule would look like on a particular day.
After a few hours, he sent me an email and showed me the tickets he bought for us.
“I remembered you like attending seminars and that you like this particular speaker. So, I bought us tickets to his seminar.”
I felt so?kilig?(giddy with excitement) that he remembered that detail which I shared briefly a few weeks ago!
That was so sweet and thoughtful of him.
Quality time and words of affirmation are my dominant love languages, so I really feel seen and heard whenever I am being listened to.
What is your love language??
In his book “The Five Love Languages,” Dr. Gary Chapman shared that there are 5 love languages.
It is important to know our love languages so we know how we want to be loved.
Whether your love language is physical touch, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, or words of affirmation,?our basic needs are to be seen and heard.
When we’re not being given full attention, we may also feel unseen and unheard.
Oftentimes, we are like that to ourselves. We ignore ourselves.
We eat while looking at our phones.
We use our phones while walking.
No wonder, we didn’t notice that beautiful flower.
While doing something, we’re already thinking of something else to do.
We’re always listening to something or watching something or looking at something.
We’re so distracted.
This is why sometimes, after a meal, we forgot what we ate.
Or at the end of the day, we forgot how our day went.
We were not paying attention.
We didn’t hear what our hearts wanted to say.
We didn’t hear what our body was whispering.
We didn’t see that we were already so tired from hustling.
We didn’t see burnout coming.
We were too busy being busy.
We didn’t see our own gifts because we were busy glancing at other people's gifts.
We didn’t see the child in us that wants some love and attention.
We didn’t see the beautiful sunset God prepared for us.
We didn’t see the new leaf from our plant.
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This is an excerpt from Chapter 5 of my latest book?Love Yourself Today.?
I shared in my book why it's important to love ourselves, how to love ourselves, as well as 12 easy-to-implement daily self-care practices backed by science and research.
When was the last time you had a date...with yourself?
Maybe it's time to take yourself out on a date.
Maybe it's time to really, really listen to yourself.
Maybe it's time for us to be more mindful with how we spend our time and how we live our lives.
Sometimes I wonder why a topic as important as "self-love" was never taught in school.
This is why I wrote the book?Love Yourself Today.
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May this book help you "see" how lovable and amazing you really are.
I wish you love, joy, and peace today and everyday :)
Cheers,
Sha
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