Have a generous heart that heals

You need to practice forgiving people. You get what you put out, and if you put out non forgiveness, that that is what you will meet. Conversely, if you are able to see that everyone is human and although some behaviours are so bad and unforgiveable, most are forgivable. Then you forgive. And practice forgiving, At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter whether we forgive or not, because not one of us has the power over someone else. The only person we can forgive is ourselves. This is the place where you particularly need to start. Once you can forgive yourself, all the ducks in the row will topple over and you will ‘ace’ it.

Consider all you need to be forgiven for. Honestly forgiving someone means letting go if the bitterness and pain they caused you. It doesn't mean you need to be with them any more. If its someone close, try to imagine what it would be like if they refused to forgive you. Holding a grudge only poisons you. Sometimes the best revenge is letting it go and living your life. People are disappointing and we all make mistakes. No sense in holding onto your grudge if you have the power to forgive. It will make you feel better. sometimes we are stubborn.

?We believe that forgiving is an obligation. Though acceptance and genuine forgiveness takes time, forgiving should be the result of it. Why? Don't we all make mistakes? Didn’t we all, at some point, have done something bad to others, too? So, think of it as that way. You should forgive for you too, make mistakes and wouldn't want to be rejected as you apologize. Now, with the generous part. Think of it as giving the person a chance to be with you, and you know, when you let that person be in your again, it's like you're offering him/her/them help to better themselves.?

Forgiving isn’t easy when we’re hurting. Remembering, though, that “all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God” helps a great deal. It puts a number of things in check. For example, some days I have found myself getting mad at the human race, en masse. Which is not good. I’m working on it.?

I don’t mean every single individual. But, say, a whole bunch of them. Did I mention I’m not perfect either? Which is the whole point. When I get like this, I say to myself: Okay, if you’re going to get mad at humanity, remember when you did this? And then there was the time when you did this. So, you have to include yourself in the mix. And are you also saying Jesus is coming down here and laying down His life for us was a waste? God made a mistake sending Him?

Now, that’s pretty effective in cooling me down. And then, there’s another factor. Sometimes people get angry at the world because they’re worried and anxious over how things are going and what’s going to happen next. So when they see someone do something bad, they equate that with a contribution to the world’s ills. (“It’s because of people like you, that the world’s the way it is.”) Not good. Sounds like it makes sense. But, again, have any one us smelled like roses in bloom all the time??

Therefore, try to balance your anger and stress with empathy and patience and trust in God, and forgive wherever you can. It doesn’t mean leaving yourself wide open (which is another fear). You can still be watchful and mindful. But, I know how many second, third and fourth chances God has given me. Not to offend again. Nope. But to better myself. Leave the judging to Him and make peace with yourself.

Not knowing your faith here all I can do is to answer you from the point of the Christian faith, although I am convinced that it's not a something which is only based on Christian principles but is general, and that even if you aren't a believer, the same applies. A lot of unforgiveness is caused by what people said and did to US, and also the things we thought they should have, but then didn't do. There are many opportunities for offences, but in order to be offended, you need to take offense.?

In other words, taking offense is a choice…either you choose to or you choose not to be.. And if you have been, even unintentionally received, then you need to quickly forgive, Even it sounds unfair or impossible. . I really wish I had known that before all the troubles I went through. Truly this life is hard, it is cruel, it is full of uncertainty and that is what makes us adore it. If life wouldn't be tough, it wouldn't be this fascinating! Enjoy this precious gift in every possible way, and don't forget to help others whenever you can! Cheers!