Haters Mean GREATNESS

THE BIGGER EFFECT YOU HAVE / THE BIGGER MOMENTUM YOU MAKE / THE MORE OF A CHALLENGE YOU PUT OUT INTO THE WORLD / THE MORE SUCCESS YOU HAVE, THE MORE THE HATERS WILL COME OUT AND YOU HAVE TO UNDERSTAND HATERS CONFIRM GREATNESS – quoted by Alex Charfen

With the escalation of cancel culture Alex Charfen’s ‘Haters Mean Greatness’ quote above speaks volumes for those pioneering, trailblazing a vision in the world.

I often choose leadership and or mindset mastery topics that may not be popular for I believe there needs to be more written about the not so popular aspects of leadership and how to navigate one’s mindset to achieve a level of mastery – WHY because I A/Genuinely care and B/Am driven by teaching sustainable solutions to mastery in both area’s given that these are the area’s I specialise in.

Alex further states:

- Those who are committed to AVERAGE will always judge those who are championing a different reality

- If those who judge you, shame you then they have not resolved their drama and they will attack you

- When you are polarising enough, when you are shocking enough, when you are different enough then not only do you cut through the noise to the people you do want to attract but you cut through the noise for the people who are polarised by you - that is when you know you are making massive change in the world!

I think you will agree these are powerful distinctions.

The statement ‘Hatred Means Greatness’ is oxymoronic.?And yet it comes with the leadership territory when you become high profile and or challenge status quo.?Having ones character assassinated and or defamed takes something to navigate as a leader – the 3 main reasons people hate you that is highly documented and researched are (1) They see you as a threat (2) They hate themselves and or (3) They want to be you!

• Politicians experience it
• Celebrities experience it
• People of influence experience it
• Thought leaders disrupting status quo experience it
• I have experienced it

Those of us who have experienced it not only have to navigate the experience when it occurs but also have to ongoingly navigate it if those behind the assassination published in written form their hatred on the internet.?This written defamation has a life of its own.?Public shaming is a big part of the haters strategy. When narcissists cannot control you they will control the thinking of others.

So what do I recommend: - Top 15 Recommendations-

1. Read and or watch the recommended links below they are almighty powerful
2. If you live true to your values you can sleep well at night and do not have to justify yourself to anyone
3. Spend time in silence, engaging with this low level consciousness serves no one
4. If there is written defamation of character that lives on the internet be upfront, do full disclosure with those who meet you, so that you are clean with your exchange
5. You cannot control what others think of you, you can only control how you deal with it
6. Realise that others judgment of you speaks more about them than it does about you – remember 1 finger pointing out, 3 fingers pointing back
7. Read Why Me, Why This, Why Now by Robin Norwood
8. Judgment = Mastery of Compassion – Have compassion for your haters for what must it be like in their shoes in their quiet moments that they project their hatred onto you to the degree they do
9. When faced with this experience the main questioned asked is ‘Why’, why would people hate you when all you are trying to do is do good in the world. STOP the analysis paralysis.?Take the equanimous view - Deal with ‘what is’, not how it could have been, should have been, want it to be…
10. As Alex Charfen highlights learn from those who have overcome this experience
11. You are never given anything you can’t handle, if you have been given an experience of this nature know you have what it takes to overcome it – time to deepen your connection to your faith – whatever that is for you
12. Do ‘the work’, get the healing required to forgive those who perpetrated the attack for the only person who loses out of the inability to forgive is the person that cannot forgive
13. It’s all very well to have the PR support, the legal support, the communications support, BUT the most important level of support you require is learning how to recalibrate, rebuild, and reinvent YOU and come back better than you were before!?
14. Ask yourself these series of questions, "If I understand that this is happening not TO me, but FOR me, what is the blessing and opportunity here? What if the Universe has an exquisite plan for me, one that is so beautiful it would blind my eyes, what would that plan look like??How is this a beautiful Divine Redirection??What have I been asked to surrender completely to? What scary move have I been ignoring or delaying that is now possible because I am at Tabula Rasa?"
15. I recommend listening to the following video called The Crushing, and read TD Jakes Book

THE?CRUSHING?– JD Lakes interview with Steve Furlick

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CzP23Zti-YI

it speaks to what you write above….that it’s in perfection for the next stage of evolution.?

“Crushing?is not the end.”? The?crushing?process is the beginning of a transformative experience with God. Everything you have gone through, whether it tried to crush your heart, mind, body or spirit, will be used to strengthen you for next level in your purpose. Before Jesus could fulfil his purpose, He too had to be crushed. He was crushed for our iniquities in order for us to be healed (Isaiah 53:5). The?crushing?has purpose. The enemy tried to use it to kill you, but God is going to use it to bring a metamorphosis into your life. This change is preparing you to endure what may come against you on the next level. There is special anointing for those who have been crushed. This anointing will help you to withstand all that may come against you. So, stand firm and know the?crushing?is just the beginning

Other helpful links:

Overcoming Tough Times - Bill Edstrom - TD Jakes - Les Brown - Steve Harvey

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1sIxQYyOm-I

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Article about How To Survive A Character Assassination by Huffington Post

https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/ryan-pannell/character-assassination_b_6017046.html

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Video of Brene Brown – Why Your Critics Don’t Count

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8-JXOnFOXQk

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Listen to Robin Sharma podcast/video - Why Love Your Haters

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YxRnbrc5stc

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Should you be interested in or know of someone who is in need of support who has been publicly shamed, character assassinated or cancelled reach out via https://scandalcoach.com/