Happy Validation Day!
Navin Thukkaram
Helping Founders / CEOs / Investors master their mindsets, enhance their capacity for contentment, and optimize their exits. Exit Coach | Investor | Board Member
Picture this: a former private equity partner on a cross-country flight reading a book called "Real Love." A cringe-worthy title, indeed.
But Sharon Salzberg has real wisdom:
"Feeling incomplete inside ourselves, we search for others to complete us.
But... we can't gain from others what we're unable to give ourselves."
Basically, she’s saying that if we don't love ourselves we can't fully accept love from others. I wondered.. would this premise apply not just to love, but also to validation?
Observation: “External” validation never satisfies most achievers.
Have you ever noticed that wildly successful people oftentimes can’t stop reaching for the next trophy? After endless success, they still want that next title or deal.
For them, Enough is never enough. Sound like anyone you know?
There’s a simple explanation for this paradox…
No amount of external validation can fill an internal void.
So what will quell this hunger? Well, it’s obviously not more outward success! Instead, we must develop our capacity for internal validation, which means basing our self-worth on metrics unrelated to the opinions of society or peers.
At my Valhalla Ascend retreat in April, we'll work with this insight. We’ll experience techniques that improve your ability to be present, reduce outside noise, and unravel the addiction to external validation. ?
For men who understand that the next level has no trophies.
Hard to believe this is the 7th Valhalla Ascend. It's also why we already have 8 joining and 2 spots left.
Dates: April 2nd (noon) to April 4th (noon)
Location: New York City
make it happen,
Navin
P.S. You’ve definitely mastered external metrics. What if you invested 48 hours in the internal game?
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3 周The internal game is where true growth lies :)
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4 周Navin Thukkaram "we can't gain from others what we're unable to give ourselves." This is so important because the inner critic is always there. Taking intentional steps to celebrate accomplishments and doing brave new things is what builds muscle to continue to explore and learn along the way.
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4 周Very wise words and advice, indeed. With the perspective of my eighth decade of life and looking forward to many more productive years, I could not agree more. Yearning external validation gives up the locus of control to external factors / people. While that validation may be nice to get, it should not be needed or sought after. All the best to you in mentoring high achievers on the internal game of life in the pursuit of happiness which, after all, is the goal.
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4 周Let us aim for self actualization.