HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY 2025
Nada Al Ghowainim
Nonfiction Writer | Book Author | Eclectic Soul | Blogger at Saudi Diva Blog | Creative Entrepreneur ||
Life Update
I took a break from blogging while on vacation in Bali for two months. I just wrote the first blog post on my Saudi Diva blog site and I plan to go back to actively blogging on there.
I’ll be sharing lifestyle tips and stories from my recent trip. Although it was rainy season in Bali, I still managed to do a lot and explore as I always do. So sign up to the Saudi Diva blog for updates.
Apart from that, I want to invite you to get my ebook on manifesting love for the insecure woman. The ebook is a self-help guide with a memoir narrative. I originally wrote it while I had a life coaching business and then I decided to cancel the license and the business.
If you’re struggling with manifesting a healthy and loving relationship, then this ebook is for you. I also share stories and resources from my personal healing journey. You can get it for only $9.99 USD from this page.
Valentine’s Day 2025
Today is February 14 and I spent the day just like any other day. I went for a long walk in my favorite park, followed by a quick coffee and grocery shopping at two different stores.
What was different for me this year is that I didn’t pretend or buy myself a bouquet of flowers.
I know that buying yourself flowers is a form of self-love and self-care and I think it’s OK if you’re in that stage of healing.
I was actually in that self-love phase and buying a peach roses bouquet on V-Day for years! I don’t usually buy flowers for my apartment although I have a nice vase. I just don’t like wasting bottled water on the flowers – especially that I like drinking a lot of water!
But in the past couple of years, I used to buy myself a beautiful peach or orange roses bouquet on Valentine’s Day and I truly enjoyed this ritual. I think it was part of my healing journey and part of me using the law of attraction literally.
I used to apply the LOA principle of ‘acting as if’ to almost every aspect of my life and that included on Valentine’s Day.
I thought that buying myself a nice roses bouquet is a sign that I already have my person and that this is the right energy to attract him.
Again, if you’re still in that self-love and self-care phase, then I encourage you to practice it to the max and enjoy it.
I’m simply not living from that energy anymore. I think something shifted in my Bangkok trip last summer.
It’s not that I made peace with being single, it’s that I got tired of pretending to be with my person and ‘acting as if’.
In that trip, I started eating at food courts and just stopped pretending to be part of a couple.
This Valentine’s Day, I did the same thing. I went to two different grocery stores of the same chain that sell the best quality roses. I used to buy the same type of roses each year and place them in a vase for a week or so.
Today, I saw so many variations and beautiful bouquets. I went around the flower section twice but something was different. I just didn’t feel like buying myself a bouquet like each year. It felt weird and unnatural – like why would I gift myself an orange roses bouquet on Valentine’s Day? Who does that?!
To make this point even more clear, yesterday while I was in the store in Dubai Mall, when I approached the area where all the V-Day flower bouquets were, a staff woman approached me and asked if she could help. I replied that I was just looking, then walked away.
Conclusion
What I want to share in the end is that each person is on their own life path. So just do you and don’t compare yourself or your life with anyone else’s.
For me, I started my healing journey in October 2016 with general and random wellness retreats in Bali.
The years that followed from that time were a rollercoaster of emotions (you can find out more in my ebook) and almost everything that I did was connected to healing. Even my identity revolved around healing.
And that explains why I would buy myself a bouquet of peach or orange roses for Valentine’s each year and not feel weird about it.
This year was different because I’m no longer in healing mode. Yes, I’m still growing, evolving and clearing old karmic cycles. But my identity and life aren’t centered around healing anymore and I’m so grateful to be at this stage.
This is why although I went to two different stores that had a huge variety of fresh, good quality flowers and roses, I didn’t feel like buying anything for myself. It felt weird and out of place.
Instead, I’m taking inspired action towards dating and finding love in the real world. I think that’s where I’m at right now.
Maybe I’m more grounded in reality and less spiritual and I like that for myself.
Leaving you with a photo from a recent photo shoot in Bali, which I’ll write about on my Saudi Diva blog soon.
I’ll be sharing more photos from that photo shoot and the name of the photographer too.
Whichever stage you are in your life, I hope that you will embrace it and accept it. But remember that life is all about growth and clearing the old. So if you’re still healing, take your time but don’t stay stuck in that stage, because it’s not who you are in essence. It’s only a phase that you have to go through in order to live your best life and thrive.
Love,
Leela