Happy Mother’s Day

To all the mothers out there. Here is your day.

This is a day for the world around you to celebrate you for all you have done and who you have been.?

Hopefully, a day of you being pampered and dined.

I wish it was that simple.?

It is much more complex than that. The remembering, scheduling, gifting and winning, and dining is only one part of this great day.?Enjoyment might be partial. Devour it as much as you can.?Your expectations of how you wanted it to be, might not be fulfilled exactly as you imagined.?One of your children might not act as enthusiastically, or even remember, or share verbally how much they appreciate you.?You might even be upset with your mate or your children’s father for not playing a stronger role in enticing your children to celebrate you as you deserve it.?

Remember, you deserve it regardless of whether you are shown or told the way you hoped for.?Appreciate what is being expressed in the way your mate and your children can express it. You might continue to be disappointed if you hold your breath until you get it your way.

If you are a mom who has lost a child, this day might be devastating for you. Sadness, sorrow, and grief might surface. Cherish the amount of time that you were able to be a mom. If you have other children, cherish all who are here with you.

For all the people who have lost their mother to illness and death, this day brings a sense of grief and sorrow. If they had a good memory and good relationship with their mothers, they wish their mom was alive. For the ones that did not have a good relationship with their mom, another painful sorrow adds, the wish to have had one.?It may be beneficial to remember the good memories of your mom and hold on tight to those beautiful memories and be grateful to have experienced them.

For all the people who did not have a mom when growing up due to early death or being far away from them and never experienced being nurtured by a mother, there may be a feeling of void or emptiness. A feeling of non-relatedness with others. This day can be a day of being grateful for people who were nurturing you and mothering you regardless of their gender or their role.?Maybe a family member, a teacher, a mentor, a neighbor, an older sibling, etc.?

Look closely and see who played that role even in small amounts. Cherish it, feel blessed and share your gratitude.

For all of you who have your lovely mom around but are not on good terms with her. Maybe your relationship was never that great, or that it once was, and it changed in time.?This day may be difficult for you. Since celebrating and appreciating your mom may bring all the unresolved matters right up to your face and possibly hers.?This day is a good day to either split off and only focus on celebrating all the good, you can resolve your issues the other 364 days of the year. Or take the time to make sure you can set a time during this day for resolution, while you spend some hours reconnecting and celebrating the positive aspects of

her being in your life.

For all the women who do not have children by choice or by circumstances, you might go through a non-relatedness this day. You may think you are less than since womanhood partially lends itself to motherhood. You might feel left out of an experience that is being celebrated by so many people to this day.?Sorrow and disappointment may resurface a bit every year. Check to see who you have nurtured, pampered, inspired, mentored, and loved. Here you go, claim your times of motherhood, and cherish yourself for that.??

For all the men who at times substituted for the role of a mother in their children’s lives, you also need to be cherished. But we will honor you on Father’s Day.?But you can certainly celebrate your beautiful moms if they are with you on earth or cherish their great memories.?You can also honor the women in your life for their role on this planet.

Motherhood to me is the act of Love, caring, creation, creativity, nurturance, discipline, structure, commitment, and allowance.?I celebrate all of you today for all of what I stated anytime in your life.?I cherish the memory of my wonderful mother – Forouzandeh Arbabi, whom I lost around 4 years ago. She created me, and brought me love, growth, aspiration, and striving for excellence.?I celebrate my godmother, Anvar Ladjevardi, for teaching me unconditional love and service. I thank Melody for allowing me to act as a partial mom. I cherish my husband for bringing the rich experience of his family and grandchildren to my life. I love my fur baby who gives me unconditional love. I thank all my clients for allowing me to be the voice of a nurturing mother in the sessions, and all the therapists who allowed me to mentor them and at times called me their mothers.

Cheers to all who choose lovingly.