Happy Mother’s Day To All The Imperfect Mommies

I am sending love to the unhealed mothers, the co-dependent mothers, the diagnosed Mental health disorder mothers, socially accepted substance dependent or workaholic mothers, low self-image mothers, the mothers in unloved marriages just for the kids or financial stability, the mothers struggling to parent healthy due to childhood trauma, neglect or abuse and last but not least my narcissistic mothers where y’all at? 

Often times we forget about praising these sides of motherhood. We live in a society that praises perfectionism embodied in women suffering in silence, self-sacrificing behavior and remaining in unhealthy relationships. We live by cultural standards that act as if these sides of motherhood don’t exist due to fear of rejection and judgement. The reality is you can be a great mother and still internally struggle. These sides of motherhood do exist and need space for acknowledgement. 

What we do not acknowledge we cannot change. We are all imperfect humans motherhood is included in that space. Shame rooted in denial perpetuates these unhealthy cycles leaving children to inherit and normalize unhealthy lifestyles. 

So with all that being taken into counsel.....

Happy Mother’s Day to all the imperfect mother’s who seek help, recognize their flaws, say sorry often and are willing to do the internal work to heal their brokenness or toxic ways. 

I see you. I honor you. You’re doing amazing. Keep going. It ain’t easy. Your great-great grandchildren will thank you. Keep releasing, replacing and healing. Motherhood is complex, messy and not easy. Remember to take time-outs for self-care. Motherhood last for a lifetime. Take a deep breath and pace yourself. You got this.