Happy Father's Day: Lessons from an Older Parent Like Me!

Happy Father's Day: Lessons from an Older Parent Like Me

Having my daughter at 50 and watching her grow into a young adult approaching her 24th birthday has been an incredible journey. Here are the lessons I've learned as an older parent, especially in navigating the transition to parenting an adult:

Patience is Key: One of the most significant gifts age brings is patience. I’ve learned to approach challenges calmly and thoughtfully, which has made a substantial difference in our relationship. (most of the time)

Cherish Every Moment: Time feels more precious as you get older. I've learned to cherish every moment, from her first steps to her recent milestones. Every phase of her life has been a unique joy.

Experience and Wisdom: My life experiences have equipped me with the wisdom to better guide her from her youth to now as an adult. I understand the importance of listening and providing thoughtful advice rather than reacting impulsively (most of the time)

Letting Go of Control: I've learned that I can’t control everything. Allowing my daughter the freedom to make decisions and learn from her experiences has been vital for her growth and our relationship.

Appreciating the Present: "Having a deeper grasp of life's fleeting nature has given me a newfound appreciation for the present moment.". I’ve learned to be fully present with her, enjoying our time together without the distractions of life's worries.

Health and Vitality: Staying active and healthy has been essential. It’s not just about keeping up with her physically but also being mentally and emotionally present.

Balanced Parenting: My approach has shifted from loving discipline to balanced parenting, focusing on providing love, support, and guidance. This balance has helped nurture a robust and respectful bond.

Transition to Thinking Partner and Coach: My role has evolved as she has grown into an adult. I've learned to shift from being a traditional parent to becoming a thinking partner and coach when requested.

This means offering advice and guidance only when she seeks it and being a loving listener. It's about respecting her autonomy and supporting her in her decisions.

This has led to a consistent and open dialogue, sometimes every day, for a short moment to share a bit of her day and mine -- or a little more time-- while she walks to get her train home.

We support each other as mutual mentors (reverse), which is an excellent lesson for intergenerational bridges!

Loving Listening: One of the most valuable skills I've developed is loving listening.

Being there to listen without judgment or the need to solve her problems has strengthened our relationship.

It shows that I respect her ability to navigate her life while providing a safe space to share her thoughts and feelings.

Celebrating Her Achievements: Acknowledging and celebrating her milestones and achievements, no matter how big or small, has been essential.

It reinforces her confidence and lets her know that her efforts are seen and appreciated.

This positive reinforcement builds a strong foundation of self-worth and encourages her to strive for her goals. I get to be connected as a thinking partner and DAD!

These lessons have shaped my journey as a father, making it an enriching experience.

To all the fathers out there, whether young or old, every moment is an opportunity to learn and grow. Happy Father's Day!