Happiness Quotient

What is happiness? Generally two types, "relative" and "absolute". Which one sounds better and more wholesome? 

“Relative happiness – right because it is easy to understand and relate to. “

“I have not heard of “absolute” so don’t know what you are talking?” These are general reactions when I ask this question to people.

Relative happiness comes from material gains and achievements, for instance: buying a new car, got promoted, have a great job, received recognition, team listens to me, share a great rapport with my peers and seniors, so on and so forth.

What happens when any of the above is taken away? Shattered! No purpose of living? Depression…eventually leads to anger and frustration. Then again, achievement of any of the above – again back to Cloud 9. “Vicious circle” – isn’t?

Such happiness is called “relative” happiness dependent on external factors which are generally material in nature. This happiness is also short-lived and easy to disappear. Why not then understand “absolute” happiness?

Absolute is infinite and also a continuous process for being happy. It does not depend on any material or social gains. It is pure. Being happy in every situation – simple but very difficult. Even if you seem happy in a difficult situation or situation which is totally against you then your colleagues really wonder about your mental wellbeing.

Why is that?

Reason being – we supposed to be crying and look upset even if we don’t want to in such a fix situation because that’s a social norm. I would like to share my experience here: at one stage of my career, when we got to know that the organization I work for is going to shut down due to some economic reasons and P&L issues, there was a chaos. People were saying all kinds of things about the management, cursing them, questioning their style of working, etc. But somewhere deep in my heart, I knew that things will work out just fine and eventually they did.

That “deep in my heart” feeling came from my practicing being happy absolutely – whatever may be the situation is. There are many more such examples to learn from other spiritual leaders as I may not be qualified to explain.

Absolute happiness is nothing but a “state of mind” which we can tap through our perseverance and conscientious efforts. 

Don’t have to become a monk, don’t have to join any spiritually guided course (nothing wrong – you can still do it voluntarily), it’s there deep in your sub-conscious mind. Call it – it will manifest – just waiting for your call.

Stay happy – absolutely!