Happiness Is Not Out There. It’s Something You Create.

Happiness is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it will elude you. But if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.?

Many people have learned a lot about themselves during the Covid pandemic. They’ve reassessed their priorities.

They’ve realized what really matters to them, and what does not.

?They’ve gained fresh appreciation for “the little things” that make life interesting and rewarding.

They’ve fine-tuned their definition of “happiness.”

Lockdowns and social distancing have reminded us that happiness often sneaks in through a door we didn’t know we left open.

How do you respond to people who view happiness as a frivolous concept that has little to do with the strength of society?

Is it silly to ask if you’re happy in your marriage?

Or to ask you if your child is happy in school, or if you’re happy in work?

Obviously, they’re not. The most important idea of the modern age was instead of thinking about the next life and whether we can be happy there.

?What is going to be the quality of our life here on earth?

That is how we should be judging the state of society. It’s the most natural possible way of thinking about the “good society” as one in which we are enjoying our lives and feeling fulfilled.

What do you see as some of society’s misplaced priorities that are hampering the level of happiness?

I think the effect of the consumer society is that too many people believe that having “things” is going to be the answer to all their problems of peace of mind.

You see excessive attention to what people are earning relative to the interest and quality of their jobs.

Happiness is something that people seek to find, yet what defines happiness can vary from one person to the next.

Typically, happiness is an emotional state characterized by feelings of joy, satisfaction, contentment, and fulfillment. While happiness has many different definitions, it is often described as involving positive emotions and life satisfaction.?

When most people talk about the true meaning of happiness, they might be talking about how they feel in the present moment or referring to a more general sense of how they feel about life overall.

Because happiness tends to be such a broadly defined term, psychologists and other social scientists typically use the term 'subjective well-being ' when they talk about this emotional state.

Just as it sounds, subjective well-being tends to focus on an individual's overall personal feelings about their life in the present.??

Two key components of happiness (or subjective well-being) are:

The balance of emotions:?Everyone experiences both positive and negative emotions, feelings, and moods. Happiness is generally linked to experiencing more positive feelings than negative ones.

Life satisfaction:?This relates to how satisfied you feel with different areas of your life including your relationships, work, achievements, and other things that you consider important.

When it comes to living one’s life, one doesn’t in a few months’ time notice what your house or your car are like.

Instead, you go on thinking about the things that you were thinking about before—the quality of your human relationships and your health, which are by far the most important things in determining your happiness.

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Thank you?...I used to wholeheartedly believe that I would become my happiest as soon as I acquired my dream job, was fully complete with school, had a fantastic group of girlfriends, and married to my high school sweetheart.

The more I traveled through life and the more conversations I would have with people who DID have their dream job, and had their best relationship, etc., the more I saw that these people weren’t even happy.

When it comes to living one’s life, one doesn’t in a few months’ time notice what your house or your car are like.

Instead, you go on thinking about the things that you were thinking about before—the quality of your human relationships and your health, which are by far the most important things in determining your happiness.

Happiness is arguably the ultimate underlying theme of everything a person desires, but often the path to fulfillment is not so linear. And now, it seems, research has found that?pursuing happiness may actually make someone less happy.

The idea behind this setup is that it frames happiness as goal one aspires to achieve, rather than a static state of being.

Do you want to add a word or two?....

More money is linked to increased happiness, some research shows. People who won the lottery have greater life satisfaction, even years later.

What really makes us happy?

Faced with this question, many people immediately think of money. How nice would it be, for example, if we could afford everything we wanted?

To be able to fulfil every desire and not to have any financial problems sounds wonderful; in my opinion though, it is not enough for lasting happiness. Wealth is not associated with happiness in all countries. From a global perspective, non-material things tend to predict wellbeing.

Money, in and of itself, cannot buy happiness, but it can provide a means to the things we value in life, such as free time and peace of mind.

Your comments ….

The so-called pursuit of happiness, or thinking of happiness as a “goal,” may actually impair positive emotions. But this doesn’t have to be the case.

Rather, people should take time to acknowledge all the aspects in their lives that bring them joy. By acknowledging all of the different things that make you happy, so you can relish in these joys, rather than taking them for granted.

All of the great and enlightened ones have always pointed us in the same direction when it comes to finding happiness. Seek first the kingdom within and everything will be given to you. As the Bible so elegantly says.

When we stop to think about it, when are we really the most happy?

Well for me, I came to the conclusion that I am most happy when I am giving love to people. Or simply giving something to someone.

I am much happier giving a gift than receiving a gift. Much happier giving love than receiving love.

For a long time it seemed to me that life was about to begin — real life.?But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first,?some unfinished business, time still to be served, and a debt to be paid. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.

This perspective has helped me to see there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So treasure every moment you have and remember that time waits for no one. Happiness is a journey, not a destination.

Even if life gave you at one time everything you wanted – wealth, power, and friends— after a while you would again become dissatisfied and need something more.?But there is one thing that can never become stale to you – joy itself.

In all your seeking among different things, directly or indirectly, you are in reality seeking happiness through the fulfillment of your desires.

Why not seek joy directly??

Why seek it through the intermediary of pleasures and objects?

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