“happiness doesn't come from material possessions”, “happiness comes from within”.

Are you waiting until your life is problem-free to be happy? If so, you could be waiting for a long time—like forever.

It’s common for all of us to tell ourselves during times of stress, “When I finally have ______ (fill in the blank), or when ______ (fill in the blank) is over, then I can be happy.” That first blank could be “a home of my own,” “a committed relationship,” or “a better job.” The second blank could be anything from, “the home repair,” “the illness,” or just a particularly busy time.

But the idea that you can’t be happy unless and until some condition is met can itself be a huge barrier to happiness. While it is certainly normal to wish that a period of unusual stress would be over, you could be losing a lot of your precious life by giving in to excessive misery and unhappiness. (I would like to clarify that I am talking here about the relatively predictable crises of everyday life, not catastrophic events.

I’m not suggesting that you fake-happy your way through the day. Within your challenging context, I’m suggesting that you find real happiness, if only for a few minutes at a time.

Try these 12 ways to become less miserable—and even happier—right now:

• ??Recognize the unhappiness you are experiencing, research indicates that accepting your negative feelings such as disappointment, anger, and sadness will reduce stress.
• ??Offer yourself some compassion, talking kindly to yourself could bring moments of comfort. You may not have many people in your life right now who can give you the deep empathy that you need, but you do have one person—you.
• ??Give yourself permission to be happy, when possible, tell yourself that you don't need to feel guilty for wanting moments of relief, happiness, and joy in your life.
• ??Give yourself permission to be happy, you can better allow yourself the experience of small pleasures—a walk, a cup of coffee, a chat with a friend Music, books, and films can provide contentment.
• ??start to self-care, eat right, connect with friends, and get plenty of sleep.
• ??Seek out creative and meaningful activities, pour your feelings into a hobby or a creative activity. Writing in your journal can help you focus and may even be therapeutic,
• ??Compartmentalize, If the source of your unhappiness is work, put your work struggles in the "work compartment" of your brain. Leave them there when you're at home so you can enjoy your home life. Taking a mental break from your troubles may even help you envision new solutions.
• ?? Realize that everything changes events change, feelings change. However you feel now, you are likely to feel differently in the future.
• ??Change one small aspect of your situation. "Do one thing different,"
• ??Ask for help You may think you are admitting defeat by asking for help. Reframe this destructive idea.
• ??Help others While it may sound odd to suggest helping others when you yourself need help, research shows that helping others will make you happier,
• ??Be grateful for what you can Gratitude is the cousin of happiness.

?? Remember, you alone have the ultimate responsibility for your own happiness.

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