Happiness on Demand
Kaya Ramjee
Executive Coaching & Mental Fitness for Leaders & Leadership Teams | Create Your Career Edge | Coaching Faculty at Mindvalley | Healing
Welcome Warriors,
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Stuck.
Treading water.
In a holding pattern.?????????
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A lot of us have ongoing conversations in our head.
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These conversations, these stories,
Most of the time
They are the same day after day.
And the feelings they produce.
Also the same.
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On average 90% of the thoughts that you have today are the same as the thoughts that you had yesterday.
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Are the same as the thoughts that you had last week.
Are the same as the thoughts that you had last month.
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Sounds tedious right!
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It is.
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Boring.
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So boring.
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Draining.
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Draining because there is an awareness,
You’re going round in circles!
You’ve been over the same things
Many, many times.
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Thought it.
Re-thought it.
Nothing changes.
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Thought it again.
And again.
Still nothing changes.
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I observe it to be why a lot of my clients use words like
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Stuck.
Treading water.
In a holding pattern.
To describe the way, they feel.
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Working with a client recently, we explored what was going on underneath the sensation of ‘treading water.’
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What was causing this sensation of feeling ‘stuck’
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Incredibly successful from the outside.
Charming.
Attractive.
Positive by nature.
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She leads a global sales team.
She looks like an absolute boss.
She IS an absolute boss.
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And yet, her words when I asked her how she felt:
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'That I’m a failure'
'That I’m not doing well enough'
'That I’m bad at my job'
'Imposter syndrome'
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'I notice myself making myself less than, being too helpful, too accommodating and this puts me in a position of weakness.'
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'My confidence has been knocked, I find it hard to articulate or voice anything that doesn’t result the path of least of resistance.'
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I played back the words she’d just said.
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She winced.
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'If I was conscious or more present, I would realise that these things don’t sit right.'
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What do you mean they don’t sit right I asked?
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'I’m not a failure.'
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'No, you’re not.' I agreed.
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'I might not be amazing at my job right now, but I’m not actually bad at it.'
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She paused.
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I waited.
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She stared at me.
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I stared back.
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'Why am I making myself less than?'
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Silence.
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Silence.
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Silence.
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Silence.
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Silence.
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'I’m frustrated with myself I feel like I should do more.'
'But I have a lack of desire to do more.'
'As I’ve got older, I’ve lost energy and drive.'
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Silence
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Silence
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Silence
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Silence
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Silence
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'There’s a storm I went through and now it’s still a bit windy.'
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'I stayed small because it’s safe.'
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Bingo.
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She’s been through something!!!!!
(And now she wants to feel safe)
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A lot of us have.
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COVID.
Fear for the lives of our loved ones.
Lockdown.
Loss of human contact.
Loss of ‘normal’ life.
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Add relationship challenges.
Professional uncertainty.
Health issues with our families.
Health issues with ourselves.
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It’s a lot.
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There’s an emotional hangover.
Things have kind of gone back to normal.
But there is fatigue.
Exhaustion.
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There’s a lot of narratives about ‘enjoying’ life now things are back to normal.
About feeling grateful it’s all over.
About being happy.
NOW
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On demand.
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The things is,
Pushing it away.
Burying it.
Keeps it inside of you.
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We don’t heal things by pushing down on them.
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The harder we push.
The more we hurt.
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We heal things through allowing them to come to the surface.
Allowing our wounds to air.
To be outside, rather than inside of us.
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In our mind we go round in circles.
On paper.
In conversation.
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We can see the patterns.
We can see what the 90% baseline is for us.
We can see our channel.
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And once we see it.
We can question it.
We can change it.
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Only when we surrender, can we evolve.
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It takes strength to stop fighting with ourselves.
It takes courage to stop abusing ourselves.
It takes love to look at ourselves and stop judging.
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‘Should be better’
‘Should do more’
‘Should feel different’
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Just be you.
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You are enough.
You have always been enough.
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I see you.
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I get it.
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12 months ago, I was judging myself.
Fat.
Disgusting.
Unlikeable.
A failure.
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I was my own worst enemy.
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That’s a different story but I promise you,
A lot can change in a year.
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You can change.
The way you feel, can change.
The way you think, can change.
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Change is inevitable.
Personal growth is a choice.
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If you invest in yourself.
Go all in on YOU.
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The ROI, it’s your life.
It’s the way you feel.
Everyday.
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Success is about going ALL IN on ‘The Business of YOU.’
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I’m on a mission to empower high achievers to get absolutely fucking amazing at working every day on ‘The Business of YOU.’
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I don’t offer single sessions or short-term contracts.
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I collaborate with clients on sustainable change.
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To see what that 90% looks like.
And decide to upgrade.
Re-boot.
Re-create.
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If you want to stay on the merry go round.
I am not for you.
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If you want to stay 'busy.'
I am not for you.
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If you want to abuse and judge yourself,
I am not for you.
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But.
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If you’re ready to invest in ‘The Business of YOU’.
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I can help you change your life.
That’s a promise.
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But you’re the one who has to say yes.
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Not yes to me.
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Yes to YOU.
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Yes to change.
Yes to evolution.
Yes to elevation.
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Yes to success on YOUR terms.
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Change is inevitable.
Personal growth, it's a choice.
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Are you ready to UPGRADE your thinking?
Are you ready for personal mastery?
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Let's talk.
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I help high achievers to look into your mind and understand your patterns.
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What are you waiting for?
Message me.
Now.
Let's talk.