"Happiness Comes After Experience"

"Happiness comes after experience, and more often than not our conscious mind thinks that we are happy, or the alternative is that we think we can't be happy because a bad event has happened. I have learned in my personal life that in order for us to be happy or to experience a moment of happiness, which is what I call Snapshot Happiness, we need to fail more than several times in a month or week sometimes. We need to be upset. We need to cry. And through those bad experiences and good over time, we start the official process of lifetime learning. Real experiences facilitate our conscious efforts to want to learn more and progress. Remember, progress in life does equal happiness.

The experiences that we explore through trying new things in our lives lead to new episodes, much like the delight of watching our Netflix series. Sometimes the episodes are really good and sometimes they are not so good, and we feel the emotions of sadness. Episode one could be that you are born, and episode two is that event, and so forth. Depending on what episode it is in your life, then you will find happiness in that moment. Even those really bad episodes that you experience can change overnight as you wake up the next day and something really positive happens, creating an exciting new experience.

However, it's important to realize that, in actual fact, we learn more through failure, which are those bad episodes. To successfully engage in this part of the happiness process, we do need to relax. Put more elegantly, we need to simply enjoy the experience of life.

This week, I have been producing content around success, leadership, and having a baseline attitude to inspire people on LinkedIn. In particular, what was more interesting was the poll around different leadership styles that include transformational, compassionate, servant, and bimodal leadership. Bimodal being a two-way command and control plus soft approach – sometimes you take the steering wheel in teams, sometimes you hand it to others.

That said, they are great and wonderful to use these different leadership styles in a business context. However, for you in your personal lives, your self-leadership is more profound and relevant. Certainly, in my life, looking back, and I have to live with a long-term medical condition NEAD (Non-Epileptic Attack Disorder)."

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