Happiness is a Choice!!
Gerrit Grundling Ph.D.
Customer-Facing Leadership & Business Development, Speaker, Seasoned Communication Strategist
“I will be happy when_______________!”
Now travel back to a memory of your youth and think back to your answer. Chances are that, at this point, your Happiness would depend on finding your first boyfriend or getting accepted for a degree you always dreamed of, or even making a special trip.
What happened after you got those wishes? How long did this Happiness last until you refilled the blank with a new desire? A new job, a new car, a vacation, a promotion, children's success, losing weight….
What fills your blank in the present and do you believe is the cause of your Happiness? In fact, this belief is the main reason why you may not be accessing your real Happiness in the here and now. The good news is that you don't have to wait….
Although life is a permanent challenge, our happiness does not depend on the circumstances or the things we have, it just depends on how we deal with it and the self-talk we repeatedly verbalize. I will share with you how you can unlock your Happiness with an example of how changing your self-talk can change your emotion….
Negative self-talk about yourself, others, and your circumstances:
“I can't be happy now, look at the life I have, and the bad choices I have made. My relationship is not healthy, I have no money and I am not even recognized at work! ”
Positive self-talk about yourself, others, and circumstances:
“I am an imperfect person like everyone else, I will focus on all that is good and have fun improving every day a little, and I am sure I can turn any circumstance or event into an opportunity! ”
Which one will help you most to improve and succeed in the long run? Which one helps you stay happier along the way?
I love this quote from Milton that clearly summarizes the message I want to convey:
The mind must not be changed by time and place. The mind is its own place, and within It can make a hell of heaven, of heaven of hell.
Coming out of an infernal and blocking state of mind was one of the secrets of my Happiness and I believe we can all have heaven in our minds!