Happiest people make others happy

Life is so beautiful and people who make us happy make it more beautiful. It does not take even more than a smile you give to your security guard or a policeman on the road, you instantly get the smile back with a bow, what else do you want in life really speaking. But on the other hand you may have also heard that you can’t make someone happy, and in a way that is true. Happiness comes from within, so you can help make someone happy for a moment or two, but if they are generally not happy people, then you are not going to change their life around. However, if someone normally feels good about life and is having a hard time or just feeling upset or down, there are some things you can do to help them feel better and move out of their unhappy state.

And as a bonus, when you make someone else happy, you boost your own happiness. Research has consistently shown that doing good things for other people, as opposed to doing things for yourself or doing nothing at all, increases your life satisfaction. And when you are a happier person, you are a kinder person, so the benefits just keep coming. Here are some experiences from my own life , which , I believe , may help you out in your question :

When you give a sincere compliment to someone many positive things tend to go unsaid. So give someone a sincere compliment today. It can mean especially much if it’s for something that is close to the other person’s heart. Or something he or she has been putting in a good effort with like getting into better shape for the last few months.

Let someone into your lane while you’re driving. It can destress his or her day quite a bit. Hold the door open for a few extra seconds for someone following you. It doesn’t take much of an effort but it can put a smile on someone’s face. Express your gratitude for what is too often taken for granted.We may sometimes take what others do a bit too much for granted. Like the food they cook, how they keep doing their job consistently each and every day or how to they are there to listen when we need it.

Share some of your tasty homemade cookies. Or bread, ice cream or jerky. And give away a piece of your hobby. Like a bracelet or a drawing you have made for instance. Share some of your fall harvest.For example some jam, canned vegetables or dried delicious mushrooms or fruit. Encourage people to work smilingly. The world can be a tough and discouraging place at times. So encourage someone who is in a negative situation at the moment. Add your own perhaps more grounded and optimistic perspective on the situation to lessen his or her worries and perhaps exaggerated fears.

Even when you tell a good or terrible joke people immediately laugh out loud making your day brighter. Or a funny story about something that happened to you last week. Share something funny you found online. Play one of your favorite clips from a stand-up show you love if you are out of jokes and good stories at the moment. Share a Spotify-playlist with the most inspiring and uplifting songs you know. Send it to a friend that needs it right now. Or share it with family, friends or co-workers on social media.

And give a stranger a compliment on her dress, a few things can brighten a day like getting a kind and unexpected compliment from someone you pass by or you have just met. So take a few seconds and give that to someone you encounter today and tell her how nice her shoes, hat or hairstyle looks or ask him where he where he got that cool t-shirt or umbrella. Help out practically with advice. If a friend needs some help then ask someone you know who has been in that situation for advice. Or do a bit of online research to find what he she might be looking for.

On the way pick some flowers. It only takes few minutes but the joy lasts for days. Give a hug. It destresses and it can disrupt negative thoughts and change someone’s mood surprisingly quickly. Use when appropriate though. Cook their favorite food if they have had a bad day. I know from my own life that it can really cheer me up on such days.

Get their favorite take away food may be a pizza. If you want a quicker option than cooking a meal when they are having a crummy day. A variation on this idea is to get just a small piece of their favorite chocolate or other treat. Bring something nice for the coffee break at work. Maybe some sweet fruit, like clementines. Or some fancy and really tasty tea. Or maybe something from the local bakery. This can be big cheer up especially during this often dark and cold time of the year.

Smile. Even if you’re only spending 30 seconds on talking to the cashier in the supermarket checkout line. Run an errand or do one chore for that person. It can be big stress reducer if he or she is having a hectic day. Just listen. It’s sometimes all that’s needed to help someone out of a negative headspace. Bring a cup of tea or coffee the way that person likes it. It only takes a minute while you are already up and getting a hot beverage for yourself.

Hide a secret note for him or her to find. A note of thankfulness. Or a note with a compliment. Or simply a note of love. Hide it in their tea container, lunch box or hat for example. Bring the positivity. If you bring positivity and an open, happy and good energy into a conversation for example then that tends to spread and the two of you or more will have happier lunch break, evening down at the pub or coffee date in the crisp autumn sunshine. Life is really beautiful and it is in our own hands how to make it more beautiful. Cheers!