Halloween is over but the Ghost are still here

Commentary Columnist-Sherry Holliman

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Do you believe in ghosts? Some people do while others don’t. There are two types of ghosts, the supernatural paranormal and the human flesh. Yes, the human flesh. Keep reading this article for clarification. Instead of a figure lurking in the dark, this “ghost” is a person you once trusted, connected with, or depend on. Most people love a good ghost story, but not when the narrative is about them. However seeing a ghost either way can leave an individual feeling unsettled and distraught. When people hear the word ghost they automatically think of the supernatural ghost described as having translucent appearance, revealing themselves to certain people, a roaming lingering deceased person refusing to leave the earth, and some of them don’t talk, they just reveal themselves. They bring a deep sense of mystery and, for some, even fear, much like the flesh and blood ghost never showing their true self,

?The supernatural ghost reminds us of what we can’t control or understand, stirring your emotions about the unknown. Most ghosting happens during dates after elections. The date is perfect, the vibes are right, and things seem to be going well as you keep seeing each other. Then, after that hookup, everything changes. Gradually, he or she starts fading away, responding less or not answering?your text and phone calls until poof they are gone without a trace. What happened? Did you see a ghost? Not exactly. But you could consider yourself ghosted. Being ghosted is when someone you’ve been seeing cuts off all communication without warning or explanation. No calls, no texts, no replies. It’s as if they disappeared into thin air, leaving you to wonder what went wrong.

Ghosting can feel deeply unsettling. It often leaves people feeling confused, rejected, and insecure. You’ are left with unanswered questions and may even doubt yourself or the connection you thought you had. The sudden, unexpected silence can be like riding an emotional rollercoaster, forcing you to face an abrupt end without closure. What Kind of People Ghost? Ghosting is often done by individuals who may struggle with confrontation or fear emotional responsibility. Sometimes, they lack empathy or simply don’t care about the impact of their actions. In other cases, they might be unsure of their feelings and choose avoidance over clarity. They “vanished without a trace, leaving and they never show their true face and will leave you with an empty space.”

This ghost is not bound to graveyards or haunted houses; it shows up in relationships, friendships, and even professional spaces. The emotional impact of being ghosted can be embarrassing and hurtful. Flesh and blood ghoster's are similar to the supernatural ghost that both brings fear of the unknown, ghosting in relationships brings feelings of rejection, confusion, and betrayal. The act is cold, abrupt, and unresolved, as one is left without closure or understanding. Human ghosts will leave in silence, creating a haunting emptiness that feels very personal. The supernatural ghost and the act of ghosting share similarities in their impact. Both types of “ghosts” are tied to feelings of incompleteness and lack of closure. Supernatural ghosts are believed to have unfinished business, while human ghosting often leaves a person looking for answers, wondering why things ended so abruptly.

The difference lies in the supernatural ghosts are known by forces beyond your understanding, but human ghosting is an intentional act. In the end, the deliberate decision of human ghosting disappearing without explanation makes this act more difficult to accept. While you may never fully understand supernatural ghosts, you can choose how to handle the flesh and blood ghosts you encounter in your everyday lives. Always understand that ghosting shows more about the other person’s deliberate plan to ghost you to avoid a trusting connection rather than appreciate your worth. Accepting it is them and not you can help you release the rejection feeling. Whether supernatural or flesh-and-blood, ghosts are reminders of unresolved situations. During Halloween season, always remember that spooky spirits may go away after October ends, but flesh and blood ghost are here for good. Don’t you be afraid of no ghosts! You have the power to release the emotional hauntings that linger year-round.

Once you accept being ghosted don’t take it personally because being ghosted says more about the ghoster issues than about you. Forget about seeking closure or knowing the reasons. If they don't communicate their emotions in regards to the direction of the relationship, why should you care? Also it might help you to share your experience with others to help you process the experience. But the main thing to do is focus on self-care. Participate in activities that make you feel good and help you feel valued. Don’t blame yourself but rather learn from the experience. Being ghosted can hurt, but believe and understand that anyone who doesn’t respect you enough to communicate honestly is not worth your time. Always know your value, and remember you deserve someone who is transparent instead of playing disappearing acts. Seeing ghost can make you question your belief. But in the great words of Maya Angelou, When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.