This Habit Hack Strengthens Family Bonds
Jeri-Ashley Bremer, M.S. Ed.
Mindful Parenting Expert | Trauma-Informed Trainer & Speaker | Specializing in Leadership & Well-being for High-Performing Women | CEO, The Mindfulness Co.
As an impact-driven leader, you're no stranger to giving recognition at work—whether it’s praising a colleague’s contribution in a meeting or acknowledging a team win. But when was the last time you intentionally highlighted a strength or contribution from your partner or child during family conversations?
In the rush of daily life, it’s easy to focus on what needs to be done rather than what’s already being done well. Yet research shows that recognizing strengths fosters deeper relationships, boosts confidence, and creates a more supportive home environment. And the best part? It takes just minutes a day.
In this article, we’ll explore how to seamlessly integrate this mindful habit into your daily routine and why it’s a game-changer for family connection.
Why Recognition Matters at Home
Just like in the workplace, feeling valued at home can strengthen bonds and improve communication. Here’s what happens when you regularly highlight strengths in your family:
? Boosts Confidence – Your child or partner feels seen and appreciated, reinforcing positive behaviors. ? Encourages Open Communication – A culture of appreciation makes it easier to discuss challenges constructively. ? Strengthens Emotional Connection – Small moments of gratitude deepen relationships over time. ? Creates a Positive Cycle – When recognition is a habit, family members naturally start uplifting one another.
How to Implement This Simple Habit
Step 1: Choose a Natural Moment for Recognition
Habit hack by picking a time that already exists in your routine—family dinners, bedtime, or even during the morning school drop-off. No need to create extra time; simply weave it into daily life.
Step 2: Be Specific in Your Praise
Instead of a generic “good job,” highlight a specific strength or contribution. For example:
?? “I really appreciate how you helped your sister with her homework today. That showed great patience.” ?? “I noticed how hard you worked on your presentation. Your dedication really paid off.” ?? “I loved the way you made us all laugh at dinner. Your sense of humor brings so much joy to this family.”
Step 3: Include Your Partner in the Practice
Recognition isn’t just for kids—your spouse or partner also thrives on feeling valued. A simple “Thank you for handling that tough conversation with such patience today” can go a long way in strengthening your relationship.
Step 4: Make It a Family Habit
Encourage each family member to share one thing they appreciated about someone else during a set time—like at dinner or before bed. Over time, this practice fosters a culture of gratitude where recognition flows naturally.
Pro tip: Model this for younger children by saying a statement that shows appreciation to another family member. This could sound like, “Thank you sister for letting me play with your toy!” or “Thank you dad for making us pasta last night!”
Step 5: Stay Consistent (But Flexible)
Like any habit, consistency matters more than perfection. If you miss a day, don’t stress—just pick it back up tomorrow. The goal is to make recognition a natural part of how your family communicates.
Tips for Success
?? Keep It Short and Genuine – No need for long speeches. A simple sentence of appreciation is enough.
?? Notice Small Moments – You don’t have to wait for big achievements. Recognizing everyday kindness, effort, and thoughtfulness matters just as much.
?? Model the Behavior – Your kids will mirror what they see. When they hear you acknowledging strengths, they’ll naturally start doing the same.
The Power of Small Words
In leadership, recognition fuels engagement and productivity. At home, it strengthens bonds, builds confidence, and creates a more connected family. By simply taking a moment each day to acknowledge the strengths of your loved ones, you’re not just shaping their self-esteem—you’re shaping a home filled with appreciation and warmth.
So tonight, take a moment. Recognize. Appreciate. Strengthen. It only takes seconds, but the impact lasts a lifetime.