Guilt is your BEST FRIEND.

No, I'm not telling you to go and do a load of terrible things and sit in the guilt for the sake of your empowerment.

What I am saying is...

If you're the kind of person who is:

??You constantly say yes to sh** that you are 100% a no to but don’t want people to not like you

??You’re sick and you go to work because you don’t want to let the team down

??You’re exhausted and DO NOT WANT TO GO OUT but you made plans… so you go and hate every minute

Your way out of this and into a blissful life of space to live the life you’re destined to live (and which is currently being stopped by all your misplaced 'yes’)...is... you guessed it:

GUILT

For the people pleasers amongst us, GUILT is exactly the feeling we are trying to avoid in all of our 'yes''... we say yes to avoid feeling guilty and to avoid the voice in our head that says:

??You're selfish

??They aren't going to invite you again now you said no

??You're being so rude

But let's be honest, the hell of the perpetual frustration that comes with saying yes to stuff you DON'T want to say yes to is a lot worse than the pang of guilt you'd feel for 10 mins if you muttered a quiet.. 'No'.

So..

??Say no and let yourself feel the guilt

??Cancel and let yourself feel the guilt

??Call in sick and let yourself feel the guilt

And remember...

Guilt, for people-pleasers, is a sign of HEALING, not something to avoid.

L x

P.S. I have ONE spot for a courageous woman who is ready to step into the empowered lady she was born to be, the woman who isn't afraid to have the hard conversations, to say no so that she can say yes when she really means it and show that she cares, the woman who is committed to becoming the best version of herself in this lifetime.. if you're intriiiigued and want to have a no pressure chat - book a call here