Guilt vs. Shame: The Leadership Trap and How to Break Free (Your Thursday Three Things for October 24, 2024)

Guilt vs. Shame: The Leadership Trap and How to Break Free (Your Thursday Three Things for October 24, 2024)

Jon Macaskill here, back with your weekly dose of wellness and leadership tips. This week, we’re tackling something heavy but super important: guilt and shame—and why it’s crucial to know the difference between the two. Trust me, understanding these emotions can have a massive impact on your health, your leadership, and your ability to move forward with purpose.

Guilt vs. Shame: What’s the Difference?

Guilt and shame are often lumped together, but they’re not the same. Here’s how they differ:

  • Guilt is feeling bad about something you did. It’s specific to an action. For example, “I feel guilty because I missed an important deadline.”
  • Shame is deeper. It’s not just about an action, it’s about who you are. For instance, “I’m a failure because I missed that deadline.” See the difference? Shame becomes personal, attacking your sense of self.

Why Does This Matter for Leaders?

As leaders, we all make mistakes—it’s part of the job. Guilt can be useful in small doses. It nudges you to reflect and course-correct. But shame? That’s the killer. Shame makes you feel unworthy, incapable, and paralyzed, which not only affects your well-being but also impacts how you lead your team.

Here’s how guilt and shame affect your health and leadership:

  1. Guilt Drives Change; Shame Stifles It Guilt can be productive. It’s that voice


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Bill Barnhart

Sales Maverick\\ Fractional Sales Ops\\ Sales Coaching. Serving The SMB Mfrs. and Wholesale Dist. In The Contractor, Hardware, Industrial Markets. Faith-Based Coaching For Business, Sales, Ministry and 12 Step Leaders.

3 周

Jon, your wisdom is “dead nuts on” here. Guilt and shame are in the top 5 challenges in 12 Step work.

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Kathleen Reily

Presensing For Men, A Method For Peace

4 周

what a magnificent article!! those two energies are the biggest chains i tell you!! what freedom to be done with those emotions :)

Sally A.

ICF Executive Mindset Coach I Leadership Development Strategist I Author I Podcaster I Speaker I Mentor I Coaching executives to cultivate high-perf teams through mindset coaching grounded in emotional intelligence.

4 周

Very informative.

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Chris O'Byrne

CEO of Jetlaunch Publishing | 17x Bestselling Author | COO of Strategic Advisor Board | Jetlaunch Publishing | Building Million-Dollar Book Businesses

4 周

I like how you point out the difference between guilt and shame

Dante Girolimon, MBA

Director Investor Relations | Executive Director MarketSense | Global Exchange Traded Derivatives | Global Business Development | Director Agribusiness | SVP, Sales | Legacydads

4 周

The unholy trinity of fear, shame and guilt…

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