The Guilt of Not Doing Enough

Do you know that feeling when your brain is stuck, spinning in the thoughts of I'm not doing enough, I should be doing so much more. Oh, if you are not familiar with those thoughts, please talk to me in the comments below because I would love to hear your secret and how you’ve overcome this thought pattern.?

How you show up

That nagging feeling that you should be doing more? You are triggering your thoughts and feelings of not doing enough. Do you wonder how that causes you to show up??

As an example, are you showing up in a hurry? Is it causing you to show up distracted? Consequently, is it causing you to show up distant and preoccupied with the long list of other things you should be doing more of?

As a result, you're not fully present at that moment.?

Where is your mind trap??

I want you to go ahead and take a step back and look at your thoughts. What areas in your life do you feel as if you are not doing enough and you should be doing more??

Undoubtedly, we get into the mind trap of I'm not doing enough. I should be doing more—all of those guilty thoughts spin in your mind.?

Meanwhile, you're thinking I'm not spending enough time with my spouse, my partner, or my significant other, whoever that is for you. Questioning, am I spending enough time with my children? Maybe you’re holding onto the guilt of not spending enough time with your parents??

You’re likely an adult child with a very busy family of your own, but still, you hold onto that guilt that you are not doing enough. Nevertheless, those thoughts cycle through your brain on repeat.

Recycling the thought of Not Doing Enough

They're constantly recycling. I can guarantee when you do that; you are not feeling all warm and fuzzy inside.

Nope.?

When you recycle those beliefs, when you have them on repeat in your head, they're going to leave you feeling stressed and probably guilty.?

Why, for what purpose do those negative thoughts and feelings serve you? What if, instead of circling the drain question, am I doing enough. What if you decide to believe that it is enough for who you are right now and at this time in your life. It is okay, give yourself permission and decide you are doing enough.?

Maybe in the future, you'll be able to give more. However, you are completely tapped out at this time in your life.

You have nothing else to give to anyone else. Trying to give and give is causing you to attempt to pour from an empty cup.

And we all know that we can't do that.?

We can't pour from an empty cup. We need to take care of ourselves first before taking care of others.?

And it never turns out well, as it's impossible to keep that up for the long term, you may be able to do it for a little while, but in the end, at some point, you have to decide it is enough.?

And let me tell you, once that decision is made, yes, this is enough.?

This is enough. I don't need to do anymore.?

We show up differently. We feel lighter, happier, and more present. Think about how much better you'll feel when spending time with your family, spouse, children, or parents.

Fully Present

You will be fully present for them because you know in your heart that you are doing enough for who you are right now at this moment. Because now when you show up and spend time with them fully present.?

Rather than guilt, you come at it from the feeling of pure happiness and joy because now you are allowing yourself to truly, genuinely enjoy those precious moments with your loved ones.?

So the next time, friends, you find your brain begins to swim, swim in the thoughts that I'm not doing enough. I want you to pause and step back. Instead of thinking of how you are not doing enough, I want you to give yourself grace.?

And I want you to decide that what you’re doing right now is enough.?

If your life feels like it's spinning entirely out of control and you're in that constant cycle of I'm not doing enough, I should be doing more. I get it. I got you. So together, in six months, we can talk about all of these things and stop that endless spinning for you. Yes, your life is meant to be enjoyed. I invite you to apply for my private coaching. Here is the link. I'll see you back here next week. Thank you so much for your time. I appreciate you, and you have a great week.