Guided by The Gospel – Issue 169 (Questions of Faith: How Do I Love People Who Don’t Love Me?)
Edward Thomas
??Certified Professional Coach | ????Christian Leadership and Transitional Guidance | ??Founder of Vogue Gift Baskets
Dear Brothers and Sisters in Christ,
Loving those who love us is easy. Loving those who ignore us, dismiss us, or even mistreat us? That’s where the challenge begins. Yet Jesus didn’t just suggest that we love our enemies—He commanded it: “But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you” (Matthew 5:44).
We all encounter people in life who don’t reciprocate kindness—family members who remain distant, coworkers who are indifferent, or friends who have walked away. The natural response is to match their energy—to withdraw, to protect ourselves, or even to resent them. But biblical love isn’t transactional; it’s transformational. It is rooted in who God is, not in how others treat us.
Romans 5:8 reminds us, “But God demonstrates His own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” If God’s love is extended to us in our brokenness, how much more should we reflect that love to others? Loving those who don’t love us doesn’t mean tolerating abuse or unhealthy relationships, but it does mean choosing grace over resentment and compassion over apathy.
It’s not about forcing connection but about being a reflection of Christ, even when love is not returned. Sometimes that means continuing to show kindness. Other times, it means simply letting go of bitterness while maintaining healthy boundaries. The goal is not to demand love but to give it freely, as Christ did.
Practical Takeaway: What Does This Mean for Us?
Reflection and Challenge - Who in your life has been difficult to love? How can you reflect Christ’s love even when it is not reciprocated? If you’ve been holding onto resentment, take a moment to ask God for the strength to love beyond what is comfortable. I’d love to hear your thoughts—comment below or send me a private message if you’d like to discuss this further.
With Hope and Faith,
Edward C. Thomas
Guided by The Gospel
#guidedbythegospel #faith #christianwalk #character #love
Acquisitions, Real Estate Investments and Marketing. Receive an 'AS-IS' offer for your property. Distressed Property? No problem.
6 天前??
Retired
1 周Thank you Edward Thomas. I am learning to deal with difficult people, and to forgive. Forgiveness isn't a one-time thing, it is a constant decision, and I pray for God's grace to help me in this. and you're right, there are times when we need to let go of bitterness and maintain healthy boundaries.