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Hello, my friends!

Today I wanted to share with you about the greatest gift that we, as human beings, can give to one another.

And, as you might guess, this greatest gift is linked to the greatest challenge we face.

So what is this challenge?

The greatest challenge that human beings face is to feel their feelings.

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Every single human being has to contend with a core pain.

This core pain is linked to love and survival.

We hurt because we feel separate from Source, from one another and from the world.

And we compound this hurt by trying to earn acceptance or guarantee safety, by protecting ourselves from these feelings and trying to stuff them down where we can’t see them.

Where we forget that we’re feeling them.

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We compensate for our internal pain with so many distortions: greed, jealousy, unhealthy pride, and more.

We try to protect ourselves from challenging feelings by numbing out, or bypassing, or distracting.

But the feelings never really go away when we try to run from them.

We may push them back into the dark corners, suppress them so they’re out of view of the conscious mind.

But while these emotions are suppressed, they call the shots from behind the curtains.

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So, most of us are walking around with a load of suppressed emotions, in pain, uncomfortable, and hardly aware of it.

The greatest challenge that we face is to overcome our self-protection and actually feel these feelings.

So how about what we can do for one another?

The greatest gift we can give one another is love.

When you can meet the other with acceptance, compassion, and love, you give them something that they desperately need, often without even realizing it.

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Just think of it. Think back to a time you were met with acceptance and love.

How did it impact you? How did you respond to being met in this way?

If we’re able to receive it, moments like this can release feelings that we’ve been holding on to unconsciously, sometimes for years.

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The thing is, we’ve never been taught to meet ourselves in this way.

We’ve never been taught how to process our emotions and hold space for ourselves.

We’ve learned that it’s weak to cry or to show our pain, our fear or sadness.

But that couldn’t be further from the truth!

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Every single human being goes through these bits of sadness and fear, insecurity and pain.

Every single human being needs to be met in this space, with acceptance and love, without judgment or condemnation.

We run from our feelings in every way that we can, never realizing that they will never go away until we give ourselves space to process them.

But it’s so hard to learn this lesson, to surrender to the feelings that we’ve been fighting, running from, trying to escape.

We need to be shown how to do it.

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This is the gift that we can give one another.

When you hold a space of acceptance, compassionate and non-judgmental, you show someone on a very deep level how to meet themselves.

This was the greatest gift I have ever received. When I was met this way the first time, it was like a lightbulb came on in my head. I finally got it.

I began to realize that expressing my feelings offered a release.

All the fighting, running, and escaping just made the emotions harder to deal with. Harder to connect with, even as they shaped everything in my life.

Only by getting still and allowing my emotions to catch up to me, only by holding space to allow these things to process and clear in their own time and way, was I able to really move beyond the hurt and sadness.

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And, more than that, I’d thought that it was weak to show my pain, or fear, or sadness.

But what I’ve learned is that it takes immense strength to allow ourselves to be seen, with all of our flaws and shortcomings.

It’s much stronger to be unapologetically ourselves, than to try to present an image of strength to others.

I learned how to hold space for myself, to feel the feelings that came up, to process these things so that they no longer called the shots from behind the curtains.

This approach offers a depth of strength and resilience that I never believed possible.

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What’s more, I began to see that every other human being is faced with the same challenge.

We all carry a core of pain and sadness, and when you are able to hold a loving acceptance space for another, you give them an opportunity to see how to meet themselves.

We all need this so badly, that we all respond to it, even if we’re not aware of how badly we need it.

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So, just to recap, the greatest gift that we can give to one another is connected to our greatest challenge.

Our greatest challenge is to truly feel our feelings.

And the greatest gift we can give another is to meet them with love and acceptance, without judgment, holding space so that they can make peace with themselves, one teeny bit at a time.

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So that’s all I wanted to share with you today.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this!

If you’d like to explore this more deeply, I teach about emotional intelligence and conscious relating.

This is the big stuff. Learning how to take the beautiful lessons that we have learned and bring them into our emotional space, letting them inform our relations.

Emotional intelligence is one of the cornerstones of my 16-wk Pathways in Consciousness course.

Our emotions are a huge part of our lives, and when we bring consciousness into the emotional space, every single aspect of our lives transforms in amazing ways.

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If you’d like to know more about this, let’s have a chat.

Drop a line in the comments and I’ll reach out to you.

Thanks and blessings, beautiful beings!

I wish you an amazing day!