The Great Indian Gift-Off: "A Humourous Spin on Desi Gift-Giving Etiquette"
Satinder Kaur
Founder of Skaur - Service Consulting & Research Firm, Customer Experience Strategist, Seasoned Banker, Podcaster & Mentor
Welcome to the fascinating, sometimes baffling, world of Indian gift-giving, where every present comes with a backstory and a potential future story!
Gifting is that age-old tradition where we express our love, appreciation, or sometimes just our ability to remember an occasion. Let's embark on a light-hearted journey through the wacky world of presents.
?First, let's talk about the 'Dil Se Diya' (Given from the Heart) gifts. This is where we channel our inner Bollywood hero and gift with all the drama and emotion of a three-hour movie. Be it a hand-knitted sweater for Auntie Ji or a box of homemade laddoos. It's the thought that counts, right? And if that thought is "I made this at 3 AM," so be it. (But remember, if the sweater is itchy or the laddoos too sweet, the family WhatsApp group will hear of it). ???????
?Then we have the 'Status Ka Sawal' (Status symbol) gifts. This is a high-level strategy, folks and a tricky one too. If your rich friend has a fancy new flat, do you opt for a chic home appliance, a gold-plated something or a traditional painting? Or will a heartfelt hug do? And for your cousin in a smaller town, maybe something more practical, like a nice set of bed linens? Or splurge to make them feel special? It's like playing social chess with gift wrap.
?The 'Gift Recycle Yatra' (Journey of Regifting). ' Ah, the thrill of passing on a gift you never wanted, to begin with. This is where the mysterious vase from Auntie Ji's wedding reappears at your cousin's housewarming. It's the gift that keeps on giving, moving from one drawing room showcase to another, gathering stories (and a fair bit of dust) along the way.
?Now, onto the legendary 'Shaadi Ka Ledger' (Wedding Ledger) or ‘Reciprocal Record-keeping’. A true relic of Indian gifting culture!
Families used to keep meticulous records of who gave what at weddings, treating it almost like a sacred text. "Uncle Ji gave us 500 rupees at Raj's wedding in '92; we must return the favour with interest!" "You gave us a blender in 2010; we owe you a toaster." It's like a stock exchange.
?But nowadays, with smaller families and decades between weddings, the ledger is more of a nostalgic artefact than a practical guide. Today's youngsters are more likely to Google Pay their gift and forget about it!
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Finally, there's the 'Samay Se Badhkar' (More Valuable Than Time) approach, more in friendships. Because nothing says "I value you" quite like spending time together. In the hustle of modern life, sometimes just showing up and sharing a good laugh over a cup of chai is the best gift. It's about creating memories, even if some of those memories are just laughing about how bad you both are at gift-giving. After all, memories are gifts that don’t need any storage space, except in your heart.
?In conclusion, whether you're navigating the nuances of 'Dil Se Diya,' strategising 'Status Ka Sawal,' participating in the 'Gift Recycle Yatra,' contributing to the 'Shaadi Ka Ledger,' or just enjoying 'Samay Se Badhkar,' remember: Indian gift-giving is not just an exchange of presents, it's an exchange of emotions, traditions, and sometimes, hilarious anecdotes. Happy gifting, and watch out for that travelling vase!
Here it is from-The Big Bang Theory
Sheldon: No?Penny, I know you're thinking you're being generous but the foundation of gift giving is reciprocity. You haven't given me a gift, you've given me an obligation.
Penny: Honey, it's okay, you don't have to give me anything in return.
Sheldon: Of course I do.
Let’s hear your gifting story.
Freelance Consultant | Educator | Project Finance Specialist | Ex-Asst Vice President at SBI Capital Markets
7 个月Very well written. And so true
Satinder Kaur Nice Read!
Independent Director ; Former MD & CEO at SBI-SG Global Securities Services Pvt. Ltd.
7 个月Very well penned