Gratitude:UnFiltered “Kings & Queens” Vol 2 – Full Transcript

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Joshua T Berglan

Oh, I forgot. I was a censored version. What's up everyone. This is gratitude unfiltered. And I'm your host? Joshua T Berglun. Thank you so much for being here tonight. We are live on the three 60 network being broadcast all over the world on Apple TV, Roku, Amazon fire, Facebook live and YouTube. What's up, everyone. So happy to see you guys. We are back using stream yard technology. So I'll be able to see everybody and have a conversation. I realized that I actually really miss you guys.

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Joshua T Berglan

I'm so used to staring at a screen that I don't see anybody. I don't see any chat. I don't see any of that. And now that we're using stream yard, I can see chat again and it's fun. But right now I think we're alive at another place too. And I'm not really sure where that is, but we're also on the <inaudible> page, which is kind of exciting because you know, technology's awesome, but really blessed to have you here. Thank you, Instagram TV. Thank you, podcast audience.

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Joshua T Berglan

Thank you, everyone watching. Thank you for your comments. Thank you for saying hello. Hello, Jessica. Good to see you. And I think there's a little bit of delay, but this is the streaming software. What are you going to do? I mean like everybody's on the internet right now. So if the quality is a little bit bad, please forgive me. But I'm super excited to have you guys here. If you were here last night, you know that it was awesome. We went an hour and a half yesterday and we had a lot of fun.

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Joshua T Berglan

I think the feedback was incredible. You guys were amazing today is the finishing touch. And this is part two. I honestly, we, I think we could have done this in four parts, but we're going to go part two. We're going to get into it so grateful you guys are here. And again, if you're here right now, you watch last night. If you learn something, you feel good about what you heard last night, say what's up say you enjoyed it. Give me some feedback. Give me some love, whatever you want to do. Oops.

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Joshua T Berglan

I don't want to turn that off. All right. I'm excited about this. So we're going to finish the keys to marriage by dr. Miles Monroe. And of course, this is Kings and Queens volume two. And I'm excited about this. I learned a lot about yesterday. It's amazing how talking about the things that are going on. Even talking when we talk about the things that we struggle with or the areas that we're weak or the, where areas that we're working on, or areas that maybe we made a mistake when we share that with other people, and I'm not telling you that you need to start a talk show and then tell the whole world stuff.

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Joshua T Berglan

But when we do communicate about the things that we struggle with, it's really, really amazing are things that we've just overcome. Really just communicating when we communicate, it's really amazing to see how the world starts to open up. All of a sudden you share something and then you have people that you didn't know, or maybe you knew that start coming. Oh my gosh. I'm so glad you talked about that because I am going through the same thing. Now, how many of you have experienced that?

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Joshua T Berglan

Oh, Hey, Veronica. Good to see you. Please tell the husband. I said, hello. Hey. Oh, by the way, Veronica, since I can see you guys today, why don't you guys plug your course? If it's ready to plug, I want people to know about that. You guys do an amazing job. I love Veronica and her husband. They're amazing people. So you guys get to know them. If you don't know already, all right, let's get into keys for marriage. So when we finished off, we were talking about the men were beaten up the men a little bit, but then we started to segue into the women.

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Joshua T Berglan

So here it is. You guys ready? I'm ready. I'm ready to learn about my kingdom woman. Alright, let me go to this last part here, men, as far as God is concerned, you're ready for marriage. When you were able to teach your family, his word, if you don't know the word, you shouldn't, you should make it a priority to study and gain knowledge of the Bible. You can't teach what you do not know. Many Christians love to hide behind God.

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Joshua T Berglan

So they don't have to deal with the responsibility of a face to face human relationship. Jesus said he is the way the truth and the life, but he never said, here's your excuse, excuse to avoid responsibility. Three God-given purposes of a woman are our ladies. You ready for this? And, Oh, here's the thing. It's very, very important that today that if you don't, if you don't, it's very important that if you don't like something, I'm about to say, say it.

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Joshua T Berglan

I want your feedback in real time here. Anything you disagree with? I want to hear it. Let's have a conversation because everything, a lot of this, I'm not just teaching this. Some of this stuff I'm learning with you as we shared yesterday. So I want your feedback. And I don't mind if you disagree, don't mind. If you throw this, guy's crazy. It doesn't matter what your feedback. Good, bad, whatever. Bring it. Let's go. Women. Three God. Given purposes of a woman are enhancer reflector in life giver or incubator.

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Joshua T Berglan

The angel said to the woman, he is risen. He is not here. Go tell his disciples, March 16, through 67. Why didn't God give the resurrection message to men first? They forgot too much. And don't have the ability to incubate. That's real. Hold on. They, they forget too much and they don't have the ability to incubate. So why didn't God give the resurrection message to men first?

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Joshua T Berglan

Is this a joke? He spoke to incubators who could take that message and never start talking about it. Hallelujah. Oh, okay. I get it. Now a woman is gifted with many creative abilities that can assist her loved ones herself in the world. Before we even get into this, think about well, women that are watching you, you can agree or disagree. But I think one of the most fascinating things about a mother or a woman's instincts is that when she becomes a mother, all of a sudden she becomes counselor psychiatrist, doctor, nurse, friend, mom, what else is there friend?

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Joshua T Berglan

Did I say, friend? What else? What other roles does a woman have cook the cleaner. And I'm not saying that this is traditional roles because men step up and clean too. Like there's no such thing as that's a woman's job. This is 2020. There's no such thing as that. Like we've blurred those lines. But, but think about a woman's role. Like everything that she is to a child, it's pretty powerful.

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Joshua T Berglan

So I, when that says creative abilities to me, it's like, yeah, I mom's just pull stuff out of there. Every Orfuss to make it work. It's pretty impressive. I don't know if men have that in them. Do they? I don't know. I don't have that yet. She's an entire research and Oh, here we go. She is an entire research and development department. All in one. She sees possibilities and potential. Maybe that's why so many women have made bad choices. Dating me. She developed, she develops ideas and programs.

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Joshua T Berglan

Just kidding. Just she can seems an invents. She develops ideas and programs. She conceives and invents. So moms does that hit home. Does that sound accurate now? Would you be so bold to say that your husband's the same way? Probably not. Right? Your wife is an inherent incubator. She multiplies everything. She receives you. Give her a smile. She'll give you her heart.

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Joshua T Berglan

All this is so romantic. You give her her sperm and she'll give you a baby. Give her a house and she'll give you a home. Give her frustration, give her frustration and.dot, dot, dot excavation.

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Joshua T Berglan

All hell. Break loose. Hey ladies, cover your ears really quick. I'm going to give the men a secret, cover your ears. Alright? So men, women keep your mouth like women put your fingers in your ears, please. So men, I'm going to give you a secret, like your 50% effort looks like a hundred percent effort to a woman.

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Joshua T Berglan

You know why? Because they're used to you giving 10% that smile, that turns into what was it? What'd it say here, the smile that turns into, Oh, give her a smile and she'll give you her heart. Everything is like times 20. It's like, it's like roulette with better odds. That's probably a bad example. Real life. The point is this, you men that nag about your wife or girlfriend not doing what you want or not being this or not being that I'm telling you right now.

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Joshua T Berglan

Look in the mirror, check your check, your effort, check how much you're contributing. Because a woman from my experience, and this is being garbage. Okay? In relationships garbage until now. And I have people that will attest to the fact that not garbage anymore, but at check yourself men, are you helping? Are you helping make her life easy? What's her love language. Are you contributing anything to your woman's love language?

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Joshua T Berglan

Because if you do that, it's like hitting the progressive slot. Okay? It's thinking ding is jackpot. It's a progressive jackpot. When you feed your woman, her love language. It's not that freaking hard. As I shared yesterday, it's so much easier. If you just go into you, go into a relationship where you share a love language. I know a couple people disagreed with me on that about, well, you should stretch yourself and you know, try a new love language.

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Joshua T Berglan

I don't know. Look at the divorce rate. I'm pretty confident that it comes from people not like matching up their love languages. We don't take the time to learn that it's essential to me. It's second. Or maybe even one a of importance to sharing a vision with your partner. So men, instead of sitting around griping about what your woman's not doing, why don't you see what you can do? Cause any amount of effort you put in is going to get multiplied by 10.

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Joshua T Berglan

That's the rough math, but I'm just saying, okay, ladies, you can uncover your years now. Husbands pay attention. If you take a little idea and drop it into your wife's mind, you'll never get just an idea back. You'll get a detailed plan. Are all women like that? Wives, your ability to think incubate and come up with plans is supposed to help your husband. But what are you using those abilities for?

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Joshua T Berglan

If you're trying to prove to him that you're just as good as he is, then you're not his helper. You're his competitor. How many, how many of you in relationships can like you can relate to that? I don't know I can. But again, when you share a vision, it's a lot easier to people to fall into line into your natural, like the natural role. Like this is what's comfortable for me. I like, I want to play this role, share it. I'm I'm telling you, sharing a vision and sharing a love language to me is like everything.

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Joshua T Berglan

I just, I think that that is the secret sauce. I mean, and of course putting God first, if your husbands do not pray, don't brow beat them by asking why don't you ever get up and pray for me? Pray for him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband. First Corinthians seven 14. When your husband opens up to you, encourage him. Don't knock him down with arguments and negativity, no matter how, right?

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Joshua T Berglan

You think you are a soft answer, turns away wrath, but

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Harsh word stirs up anger,

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Joshua T Berglan

Proverbs 15 one. I wanna go back to something really, really quick.

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Do you do the book who did it?

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Joshua T Berglan

Oh, women. That I liked what that said about, you know, don't beat up your husband if they're not praying, but pray for your husband, but men,

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If you are, you can see

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Joshua T Berglan

Be yourself, a godly man. If you consider yourself a Christian, if you're somebody that's like, I personally think will, regardless of your religion, you should do this. But men, it's your responsibility to pray with your partner.

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It's yours

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Joshua T Berglan

Responsibility to suggest it. And you know what? Admittedly, sometimes I get lazy about it. Sometimes I get in my head about it insecurity, but it's stupid. There is nothing more powerful than a praying couple. And it is. And I promise you men, and maybe you've never prayed with your spouse before. You're the girl that you're seeing or whatever you're into. You want to like turn on your partner, pray with her.

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Joshua T Berglan

Just saying praying together is supernatural. It's so powerful. And I know there's a Bible verse about two or more coming together and praying it works. So I wanna encourage you. Like if you haven't done it, do it. And part of putting God first and your relationship is praying together. Mom is all those things. In addition, we are protectors teachers, Uber driver, hairdresser, makeup, artists, cheerleader, sometimes an absorber of all things negative to brighten their day Rose.

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Joshua T Berglan

That is, or was it Rosa or Rose? That's good stuff. Hey Mary, good to see you. You promised you were already fixed. You promised you were already fixed in our second conversation. I don't know what that means. Let's see who else. I tried to pray for them. We got to keep doing it. You can't give up on praying for people like anybody. Like there's people that I still pray for. And I'm not telling you, like, I'm not lecturing you about anything here, but I'm telling you there's people that I still pray for.

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Joshua T Berglan

That will have nothing to do with me, nothing, but I pray for him anyway. And one of the greatest habits you can do is pray for people that don't like. You let's see. Mary says men and women don't complete each other. They compliment each other, help each other grow to be better versions of themselves. Well, we get into some of that stuff, Mary, thank you for chiming in with that. If your husband doesn't pray, don't brow beat him by asking why don't you ever get up and pray. Pray for him.

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Joshua T Berglan

For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband. When your husband opens up to you, encourage him. Don't knock him down with arguments and negativity, no matter how, right? You think you are a soft answer, turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Your spouse needs to hear sweet words from you. Not the person lingering by the water cooler pleasant words are like a honeycomb sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.

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Joshua T Berglan

Proverbs 16, 24, four. If a man does not know how to rule his own house, how will he take care of the church of God? Many people are running around doing work for the church while their homes are in shambles. If you want your church to be effective, get your home in order first. This is I I think about this all the time, because here I am, you know, I'm teaching with the help of, you know, dr.

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Joshua T Berglan

Miles, Monroe, or just past experiences or taking stuff from the Bible. And I'm doing this program and I'm trying to help outside of one, you know, showing people that truth is powerful, but also, I mean, look doing this gives me a bit of authority and I'm not saying that to brag or like, Hey, look at me. I'm so cool. It's not that I'm not saying it for that reason. However, it does make me an authority. So if I'm talking about how to have a healthy relationship or how to live your life, what's up, do you good to see you?

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Joshua T Berglan

If I'm telling you how to live your life and how to, you know, to do this and that. And I'm doing all that. But at the same time, my own life is a wreck. I have no authority to be speaking on that. You can't teach what you don't know, but do you really know it? If you're not applying what you're teaching? Like if I'm not following my own advice or the own guidance that I give in gratitude and filter it or what we learned together, if I'm not following that or applying those things, what does it say about me?

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Joshua T Berglan

You know, and I thought about this too. Like for a long time, you know, here it is, I'm turning my life around and I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm getting back on my feet and all these things are happening over the last five years, but there was a gaping hole that I can't couldn't talk about. And that was fatherhood, you know, because my daughter at that time was not back in my life. And now it's like in and out and she picks and chooses and whatever. She's 20 years old. And I don't know what else to do about that except pursue her and just kind of let her come to me at the same time.

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Joshua T Berglan

But also if I'm not carrying over, like just the way that I'm talking and teaching about things, the way I show up in relationships, like, am I applying what I'm talking about in relationships, in dating, in, in work, all of that stuff. So, I mean, it does, it does matter a lot. And so being like, so even speaking at the church and things like that, like I have no business talking about things that I haven't done myself, that I haven't applied to my own life.

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Joshua T Berglan

I have no business teaching it because I don't know it. It's kinda like somebody up there beating you over the head, being judgmental saying, you're going to hell if you do this and then that person's doing the same thing he's telling you not to do behind the scenes. That's not cool. Anyway, he who does not love, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait for, for man does not know how to rule his own house.

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Joshua T Berglan

How will he take care of the church of God? Many people are running around doing work for the church while their homes are in shambles. If you want your church to be effective, get your home in order. First, how you do one thing is how you do everything. He who does not love his brother, whom he has seen. How can he love God who has not seen? How do you think you're going to save the world? If you don't work to save your marriage. That's another thing.

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Joshua T Berglan

What good was it to me to be ambitious and have these global aspirations of having an impact and being a part of a global change, being an impactor all over the world. What good does it do? If I'm a piece of crap father and a no good boyfriend, AKA husband, whatever, like we'll get, it makes everything a lie. Everything. If I'm not putting God first in one area of my life, am I really doing it in the other areas?

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Joshua T Berglan

God wants to be first wives don't ever get so spiritual that you stay away from home every night of the week, going to prayer meetings though, you think you're seeking the Lord space. You will be doing the devil and opening into your home. Do not give the devil a foothold, Ephesians four 27, being a Christian. Doesn't give you a license to neglect your spouse. Your first mission field should be your husband or wife. Sometimes the way we can best love God is by finding ways to uplift and help our families.

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Joshua T Berglan

I'm going to go back and say something that I've said before to, to see you, my friend plug your own music. If you'd like, hold on, I'll come back to that. Adam and Eve born or first it was Adam. Adam was chilling. Adam was fine by himself. Adam didn't need anybody.

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Joshua T Berglan

And then all of a sudden, God goes, you need a woman. So created a woman. It was a man's job to lead that relationship. As we talked about yesterday, it was his job to teach her to pray. It was her, his job to teach the family about God. But when man fell and then divorce happened and man got away from the home. So you got to understand the devil. His first plan of attack was removed from the home. Why? Because man is supposed to be the leader of the home.

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Joshua T Berglan

And I'm not listening when men and women are equal. So I'm not saying by saying the man's a leader that the woman is not important or that woman should shut up and make brownies. I'm not saying that I'm saying there was a man and woman's job there or they're equal, but it is a man's job to lead the home, to lead worship, to teach the children, the family about Christ. But what happens when the man leaves the home because a man doesn't want to accept responsibility for his children, what happens?

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Joshua T Berglan

And again, not judging because I've been that douchebag dad. I get it. And I'm not proud of it at all because I can, I can give you in detail, the path of destruction, just from me not being there for my daughter, didn't know about her until she was three years old. Doesn't matter. The fact is there's years that I wasn't there. It doesn't matter what the reason doesn't matter. The excuse. The fact is I wasn't there to help guide her.

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Joshua T Berglan

And you know what? She's dealing with the consequences of that. And I am too. But when that man leaves the home or is not in the home, the baby's had out of wedlock or whatever, it may be the dynamics change. Not only for that child, but the mom, then the mom has to step up and become daddy too. That is not a natural role. Women do it, but it's not a natural role. And that's all the devil has to do is dis by disrupting the home split, think about it, think about how the world was.

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Joshua T Berglan

And I'm not talking about, Hey woman, you better have the brownies on the table at five o'clock or dinner or whatever. And you know, but I'm going to go out and I'm going to womanize and all that stuff. While you're at home taking care of the kids, and I'm going to be a piece of crap. I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about a man playing the role of a kingdom man that man's doing what he's supposed to do. The family stays intact. Remember I was talking about like kingdom principles, work for Christians. And non-Christians look at wealthy families that leave a look.

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Joshua T Berglan

The FA the w well wealthy families that leave a legacy or families that stay together and mind you, there's some serious drama in those homes. There's some serious, like crazy stuff. There's cheating, but they stay together. And you know what that dynamic by keeping the family together is what allows them to create a legacy. It's it's, it's what, in times like this, where like, I'm sorry, but like, say that just things got even crazier than they are now, which you didn't even feel like crazy, but you know what the place to go or with the people that have families that stay together, you can't mess with a family like that.

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Joshua T Berglan

It's different. Blood is different than, than friends and everything else. So that dynamic of keeping the family together is so powerful, but it is a man's job to lead. It's a man's responsibility to keep that together and play his part. Because if the man doesn't play his part the right way, everything else falls apart, everything else is a bigger struggle than it's supposed to be. That's why this kingdom stuff matters. Hello?

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Joshua T Berglan

Baldheaded, idiot. That's sweet of you to say I love hecklers. Hi Aden. That's a really pretty jumpsuit you have on. Thank you. Chaos does happen. Hi, Kimberly. Good to see you. Thank you exactly. First ministry is husband speaking my language. Hey, let's let's all say hi to Aiden. Who thinks I'm a baldheaded idiot. I love hecklers so much. And here's the thing because I love Jesus so much. I'm not going to pick on you and Mike make you make you crazy.

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Joshua T Berglan

But I really want to, I really want to pick fun of you, pick on you and make fun of you, but that wouldn't be a real good expression of how much I love Jesus, but that is the ugliest jumpsuit I've ever seen anyway, okay. We were saying it is not good that the man should be alone. The Lord said I will make him a helper comparable to him. Genesis two eight. The wife's first purpose is to be a companion to her husband. So he won't be alone.

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Joshua T Berglan

Your wife is like a flower that adapts to the soil. You were like the soil. If you don't like what she has been manifesting, then check what you've been feeding. Her nutrients are poison. Do not be deceived. God is not marked. God is not mocked for whatever, a man sows, that he will also reap Galatians six, seven. Let me tell you again. That's what, when you have that authority, when you were given that role and that responsibility of leading your family, that means you're responsible for feeding that family, not just with food, but spiritual food as well.

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Joshua T Berglan

Breathe. What you think about it? What you, this is the most amazing thing I think about women because women have this ability of loyalty that is just mindblowing. And if you do what you're supposed to do, if you feed your, your, your, the, the love, if you breathe life and during speak life into her and build her up instead of big grading her, it is amazing what that woman will do. And let me tell you, men, you don't want to wait till the last minute until you've just pissed her off to the point that she hates your guts, that she becomes the woman scorned.

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Joshua T Berglan

That gets it figured out. You basically how okay. Men that are watching. I want to ask you something, those of you have been divorced or had a bad breakup or something like that. Think about the time that you were like, Oh, that woman, and you were complaining about your girlfriend. She didn't work out. She didn't do this. She didn't do that. And you treated her like crap. You broke up with her. You broke her heart. You divorced her. What happened right after you guys broke up, she got a gym membership.

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Joshua T Berglan

Didn't she, she started working out. She started eating better. Maybe she quit smoking. She quit doing, she started doing all the things that you wanted her to do when you were together, but the way you treated her, didn't motivate her to do that. In fact, it made her shut down and do the opposite. So you went around her back, you cheated on her. You thought you, you know, a lover, whatever it may be, or you just sabotage the relationship.

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Joshua T Berglan

But what happened after she did all those things, didn't she, she did it because maybe she knew in the back of her head that that was something she should do. But now she's the woman scorned. And so now she's going to be that thing that you've always wanted. And guess what? You're going to be tortured for the rest of your life, because now she was everything you wanted her to be. But now she's having sex with your cousin or your brother or whoever you get to deal with it.

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Joshua T Berglan

And that's a reality. You know why it happens to all men. It just does. And that is the lesson. Then that is the torture that you get to live with. That is a consequence for the way you treat her. But like we talked about yesterday, if you want her to do all those things, speak life into her, speak life, love her, be supportive. All the things that I had never been in my life, be that. And guess what?

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Joshua T Berglan

You will have the woman of your dreams because the woman of your dreams, I promise you men or whatever you're into the woman of your dreams is not something you pull out of a magazine. It's not something you see on PornHub. It's not, it's the exact opposite. Anyway. Now I hate my cousin. That's a, we are nurturers by nature. Love us, choose us, cherish us. And we will love you.

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Joshua T Berglan

Like no other. I know women have this amazing thing. Love. It's so great. Think about it. Women love you. And your, your big, hairy back. They don't care about your funky toes. They don't do any of that. If you love him. It's amazing. I wish I found you earlier. Keep it. Oh, that's so nice. Thank you. Yes. Mary says simple respect. Where's that guy that was making fun of me called me the baldheaded idiot. I can't get over this guy. Like I just want to pick on him. I just can't.

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Joshua T Berglan

Oh, Kimberly. You know him? Why is he calling me a bet? Bull headed idiot. Where you tell me that if he's your friend, the husband is the greenhouse for the flower. You found Kimberly. That is absolutely beautiful. What's up my man. Good to see you, Stephen. I really do miss it. The comment section talking to you guys, it's so much fun. It's way more fun than the other way too bad. The camera quality is not as good on this software, but stream yard. We'll fix that. I bet you're okay. Your wife is like a flower that adapts to the soil.

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Joshua T Berglan

You were like the soil. If you don't like what she has been manifesting, then check what you've been feeding her nutrients or poison. Do not be deceived. God is not mocked for whatever. A man sows, that he will also reap. God created your wife to function on love. And if you were not giving your love to her, then you were causing her to malfunction. God created your wife to function on love.

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Joshua T Berglan

And if you're not giving your wow, that's freaking heavy. God created your wife to function on love. And if you were not giving your love to her, then you were causing her to malfunction. There's nothing more frightening. I don't care. You could put me in a room full of jihad. People that want to execute me. I'd rather be in that room than a woman that is malfunctioning.

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Joshua T Berglan

The woman is the glory of the man. First Corinthians 11 seven. Your wife has made weight. Your wife was made to be your glory and expose what you were like. I gotta start over. The woman is the glory of the man. First Corinthians 11 seven, your wife was made to be your glory and expose what you were like when she's happy.

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Joshua T Berglan

That's to your credit. If she's always depressed, withdrawn, sad, or grouchy. That tells me a lot about you too. She is simply manifesting your glory. Wow. You know what? The only evidence I know need to prove that that's true is my history of failed relationships.

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Joshua T Berglan

That's what I got. But looking at my current situation looks a lot different. Thank God God designed you to cultivate your wife like a beautiful tree. If your tree is wilted after a few years, then it isn't her fault. If you've been married for five years or more, and she still hasn't blossomed, then you have a poor track record. Brother, a female was created to incubate everything she receives to reproduce after its kind so bitterness into her.

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Joshua T Berglan

And that's what you're going to reap. So loving to her and you'll root reap fruit. You'll want to keep, Hey, that's why I like Jessica so much. Husbands love your wives and do not be bitter toward them. Clawson's three 19 over and over the Bible commands the husband to love the wife. Why? Because he's a giver. She's a receiver. And when he gives love her, she comes alive.

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Joshua T Berglan

It's true women. And seeing a woman in law is really, it's a special event. It's a special event. Never really cared about things like that until recently. But yeah, this makes sense though. Your husband may not be able to provide you with a castle right away. You should take whatever he provides for you and give life to it, paint it color to it, or add color to it.

00:36:13

Joshua T Berglan

Place flowers in it. God blessed you with the ability to make that house a home. That is really true. If your husband doesn't know what to do or how to do it, you need to help him, help him by pushing him into his position. Not by taking it away from him. Never emasculate your men. Ladies, did you hear it? Don't Oh, I still have that screen up. Steven. I'm sorry. Let me take you down. I know you Joshua, a woman.

00:36:44

Joshua T Berglan

Doesn't accept you for who you are. There's a problem. We wouldn't have to change. We shouldn't have to change to earn their love. No, but you know what? Men get to be honest about who they are. I want this frame and hung on my house for you to read it every day. Mr. Curtis. Good to see you. My man, God bless you. This is heavy. Your wife is a reflection of the environment that you put her in. I'm telling you. I do love. I do love you women. It's not too bad, Steven. Thank you. It could be better.

00:37:17

Joshua T Berglan

You're malfunctioning. You're not malfunctioning. I love the comments. You guys are the best. Okay? Yeah. Oh, that's another thing. Men. Remember women have different brains, men, different brains. Sometimes they're not even on the same equator that it makes sense. Whatever LA longer tattooed latitude, whatever.

00:37:50

Joshua T Berglan

It doesn't matter. So like women, here's the thing. Men sometimes are just clueless and women. I mean, men really do want to make you happy, but sometimes they don't know how, that's why I stress the importance of, you know, the, the shared live language, because it comes easier for you men. And maybe it's lazy for me to tell you men, to find a woman that has a love language like yours, because it's easier for you cheat code, but here's the thing they want to make you happy.

00:38:31

Joshua T Berglan

Okay? Because a lot of them want the nookie. They want a happy home, whatever it may be. They want dinner. I don't know. They want you to rub their feet, shave their back hair, wax it. I don't know. That's what they want. Okay. So they want to make you happy. So if they don't know how to clean the right way, because you know, we don't, men are not the, we peel the toilet. Okay. It happens. And we always clean it up afterwards. So if you want your man and he's wanting, trying to help you run the house, listen, you can't be great him because he sucks at cleaning.

00:39:02

Joshua T Berglan

Maybe he just doesn't know. Maybe he doesn't know how to meet your expectations. So if you lovingly go, Hey honey, you clean like a drunk third grader. So can I, can I show you a little trick? It'll really, really help. And it will mean a lot to me. You say that to your man. Guess what? He'll probably put on a thong and clean the house for you. You may not want to see your man in a thought and cleaning the house for you. But the fact is this. He will jump through hoops like encouraging.

00:39:35

Joshua T Berglan

Especially if you want something from him. Yes. We talked about that yesterday. Steve and men are from men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Love is little things you do for love. Not the big things, because the little things are harder to do, man. That's wisdom, brother. You know what? Trish, you are going to find a good man, because you're a good woman. You know that that's going to happen.

00:40:06

Joshua T Berglan

She does him good and not evil all the days of her life. Proverbs 31, 12 wives. You must always ask before you act, will this do him good? A good wife will help her husband become all he's supposed to be akin, shared vision shared vision. Because when you share a vision men, you're, you're driven to be the, the, you know, the provider you're willing to go conquer the world. You don't need a woman holding you back.

00:40:37

Joshua T Berglan

You don't need a woman going now while you're working right now, quit that you don't need a woman. You know, home at five o'clock, especially if you're driven. No, man, if you remember you water your woman, she's going to be that support that you want. A good wife will help her husband become all he's supposed to be in men. When your wife goes, Hey, you know, maybe we should trim up your neck hair or like, maybe we should get the hair out of your ears.

00:41:07

Joshua T Berglan

Or maybe you should tuck your shirt in. Or maybe you should iron your underwear. Whatever crazy idea women have. Look, the thing is when you, when you trust your woman, you just kind of don't care like you, she goes, Hey, you probably should not wear socks with your sandals. Cause that's a little weird. You should probably listen to her because you know what? If you take a good woman, your queen is going to like want you to be the best you can be and be all you're supposed to be a good woman. Doesn't look down on a man because he can't read the Bible as well as she can.

00:41:41

Joshua T Berglan

I can barely read, even if he reads slowly. And mispronounces his words, which we do everyday on the show, she doesn't feel insistent to correct him, but keeps his dignity and tack us men. I know that we can go caveman and we can beat the crap out of something. We can knock down walls. Some of us can change tires, not all of us or change the oil, not all of us, but we're cavemen with big load. You don't stick. Right? But you know what? We're also a bunch of sensitive boobs.

00:42:13

Joshua T Berglan

Our egos get bruised easily. We have a lot of pride. So you gotta be careful about how you do that because you can really, really hurt your man to saying, even if you read, okay, we got that part. She opens her mouth with wisdom and on her tongue is the law of kindness. Proverbs 31, 26. Her children rise up and call her blessed her husband also. And he praises her Proverbs 31, 28, Proverbs 31 woman.

00:42:44

Joshua T Berglan

Look it up. Husband. You ought to always praise your wife. You look pretty, your butt looks good in those jeans. I really appreciate it. You look so beautiful. When you cook dinner, you look so beautiful. When you're digging weeds, you look so beautiful when you change the diapers, whatever, compliment her, lift her up, speak well of her esteem. Her highly lift her up with your words, brag about her magnify, the little things she does by making them bigger than life. Here's the thing. Some of you, men are always looking for the big thing, but it's really the little things that keep you, keep you to keep it together.

00:43:22

Joshua T Berglan

I'm going to give you an example. So I've had two back surgeries, right? So I'm a big guy, a big strong, I got big muscles. Not saying this to brag, but do you know what? My minor muscles, the ones that supported my spine, they were weak. There sucked. It was horrible. Disc was constantly slipping out of my back. All kinds of problems. Back, back problems into my football career. Back problems basically made my life hell. Most of my life I've had two back surgeries.

00:43:54

Joshua T Berglan

I think I said that. The point is this, I wasn't strong. Like the big muscles were great, but the things that keep you stable, the things that keep you <inaudible> keep the foundation strong. It's when the tiny support muscles that wrap around your spine, wrap around your, your ligaments and things like that. It's that's what makes you strong. It's that? What gives you endurance? It's that? What gives you stability?

00:44:24

Joshua T Berglan

It's the same thing goes with a woman. Pay attention, be aware, be present because when you're present, you're going to notice a little things that she does. And the little things will make you fall in love more than those big things. Because the fact is this. I don't care. If, if somebody shows up at your house with a brand new car, I don't care. What kind of car it is that that excitement's going to wear off after a week.

00:44:54

Joshua T Berglan

I don't care if it's a Lamborghini and I don't care if it's a Pinto, the fact that somebody gifted you a car, that excitement is going to wear off eventually. So the big things that we're always looking for, like she doesn't shoot, nevermind. I'm not going, Ooh. I almost went completely shocked. Jock when everybody, Ooh, forgive me for that. The little things, the little things are what keep you stable.

00:45:26

Joshua T Berglan

The little things are what builds the foundation. Not the big things. Plus little things are easier to do. And the more consistent you don't flower, you don't like, you know, trench, downpour, monsoon the flour, right? A little bit at a time. Anyway, husbands, the words you speak to your wife will affect her emotionally wives. The words you speak to your husband, provide him with information.

00:45:56

Joshua T Berglan

Your husband is not looking for emotions. When you want to talk to him, you will have to tell him what you think first before you express what you feel. That's powerful. Listen, the words you speak will affect her emotionally. I hope they get into something about, you know, communication and giving honest feedback, because this is where men get trapped. And I don't know how many of you will agree, but one of the things that I gotta keep doing this, get the screen off.

00:46:32

Joshua T Berglan

A lot of times, this is what I mess up with a check. Cause I keep changing screens and I leave someone's comment on there too long. And anyway, happy to have you here. Good to see you, Sharon. Thank you for being here. Kay. Good to see you. Love is priceless and worth more than millions of cars. That's true. Okay. So one of the traps that men get into in relationships is that they fear being honest because they fear the consequences because they don't want to upset you.

00:47:06

Joshua T Berglan

As we talked about before, they don't, no man wants to disappoint you or upset you or hurt your feelings. So there's gotta be an, I hope this goes into it. And surely it will. But like honestly, like outside of just being insecure, boobs, men are afraid to be honest sometimes because they're afraid of the backlash. And there is a lot of backlash sometimes. And this issue comes up with a lot of different things. Like I didn't take out the trash or, you know, you asked me to throw away the candy wrapper, but I stuffed it in the couch.

00:47:40

Joshua T Berglan

Or you, you know, like you, you, you asked me to sweep, but I swept it under the rug. Or maybe you want your toes licked, but you're afraid to say it. Whatever point is, men are scared to be honest with women and that's got to change. But if we're being emotional about everything, we have to look at our emotional intelligence and emotional maturity. And maybe that's lacking just saying what your wife is thinking is often different for what, from what she's feeling and saying, you need to be patient and work through her emotions to find out what is truly on her mind.

00:48:25

Joshua T Berglan

Ooh, should say that again. What your wife is thinking is often different from what she is feeling insane. You need to be patient and work through her emotions to find out what is truly on her mind. Patient, which men art boy, how about life? Just being full of paradoxes. It's like do the opposite of what you think is like, if you think that's the thing to do, do the opposite, but we're not, we're not naturally patient, but patience is a fruit of the spirit.

00:49:00

Joshua T Berglan

So you need to be patient and work through her emotions to find out what is truly on her mind. Many men have great difficulty verbalizing their emotions, especially when they are hurting, depressed or sad. A wife needs to create an environment that will enable her husband to be free enough to tell her what he is feeling, not cultivate an environment so negative that he won't ever risk revealing himself. I'm going to go extremely negative for a second.

00:49:34

Joshua T Berglan

Like yeah, this would be a negative. Like I think this is okay to do wait. Many men have great difficulty verbalizing their emotions, especially when they are hurting, depressed or sad. A wife needs to create an environment that will enable her husband to be free enough to tell her what he is feeling, not cultivate an environment so negative that he won't ever risk revealing himself. Men want to reveal themselves people that keep secrets and live a double life.

00:50:09

Joshua T Berglan

Don't really want to do it. You know why? I know cause I did it. My double life had a double life. If you can imagine the confusion, I had a regular life and I had a double life and that double life had a double life. Yeah, it was wicked. So the point is I wanted people to know my double life and the people that I was like when I go in the shadows and do all my sex and drugs and all that stuff.

00:50:44

Joshua T Berglan

I wanted to talk about what was going on with me. I wanted to talk about the confusion. I wanted to talk about the struggle that I was having. I wanted to, I needed to because no one needs in wants to keep secrets. It does it, it is toxic. It's poison. It feels like poison. No one wants to do it. So ladies, your man really does want to talk to you and another thing too, and I'm going to make a lot of men mad on this.

00:51:20

Joshua T Berglan

Do I want to do this? Yeah. I'm not going to do it. What do I care? I don't have secrets anyway. So I'm going to go ahead and talk about this. You women, if your husband is not paying attention to you or your man is not paying attention to you, he's distracted with something. Okay. Let's just start there. We don't need to go into things like, Oh, they're living a double life or they're cheating or they're doing this or doing that.

00:51:51

Joshua T Berglan

Women have really good intuition and women, not enough of you. Trust your intuition. You should trust your intuition. It's right now where your intuition gets a little scurry is if you've been in a relationship with a narcissist and they basically made you crazy to confuse you. The slight of hand trick what's above is really below. And like all that. There's like a slight narcissist have a great way of messing you up. And they just do it's.

00:52:20

Joshua T Berglan

But if you're in a relationship and you don't feel like the person you're with is a narcissist. And if you're with a narcissist run, now they have a lot of work to do before they are ready for anyone in society. But if you do, you're in the early parts of a relationship, okay? And this is going to be harder for some of you that are harder for some of you that have been in relationships for a long time. But this is what you need to know. Ladies, if you suspect something or you feel something's off the most loving thing in the world that you can do, honey, Joe, Bob, whatever.

00:52:58

Joshua T Berglan

You're the partner. His name is Billy Joe, Sue, Tommy boy, whatever. Hey Tommy, I'm just want you to know. I really care about you. And I've noticed that, you know, you've been a little bit off and that's okay. You know, I know you have a lot going on, but I just want you to know that I care about you and I'm here for you. Like there's nothing that you can tell me. That's going to make me turn my back on you.

00:53:31

Joshua T Berglan

I may not like what you have to tell me, but I will not turn my back on you. I will stand by you and whatever's going on. We will get through it together. Listen, he may not go, okay, this is what's going on. You may not do that right away. But if you're consistent with that, I promise you his wall because it's in his heart to not keep secrets.

00:54:01

Joshua T Berglan

I don't care how black his heart is. I had the blackest heart. You can imagine, I just don't want it need, I not want it. I needed to talk about what was going on with me in when a man knows he is safe with you, woman. There's nothing he won't do for you. Especially if you've dated or you're dating or you're with somebody that has a past like mine.

00:54:32

Joshua T Berglan

Like you, you know you, a lot of women think you can fix men. You can't. But a lot of you think like you see these projects like, well, I could love him enough. Okay? You, you need to know going into this. So you're setting yourself up for a lot of work, but it's going to require patience. It's going to require you being willing to understand, and also being tolerant to the fact that he's going to make some mistakes because he didn't know. I'm very fortunate in my situation. Cause I think I'm like an eighth grade, maybe ninth grade.

00:55:03

Joshua T Berglan

Now when it comes to relationship maturity, which is really good because just a year ago, I was like age four. So like I'm, I'm working my way up. Not all the way where I want to be yet, but I'm getting closer, but it requires patience. And it requires understanding. It requires a willingness to be able to work through and communicate the things. But women, a man doesn't know that being vulnerable is good. He doesn't know that he can be safe. You create that safe place.

00:55:34

Joshua T Berglan

You will have a partner for life. You will get what you so badly desire from a man just saying so many men have a great difficulty verbalizing their emotions, especially when they are hurting, depressed or sad. A wife needs to create an environment that will enable her husband to be free enough to tell her what he is feeling, not cultivate an environment. So negative. He won't ever risk revealing himself.

00:56:04

Joshua T Berglan

They want to reveal themselves. You get Amanda talk and open up whole. My God, he'll be afraid to go anywhere else. And if you don't think I'm serious, try me try me. I stayed in the most abusive, toxic, awful relationship. You can imagine because I had opened up and shared my heart with her. I felt safe. Even when she made me feel like crap, the way my brain worked, she was the only one that could love and nurse me back to health.

00:56:42

Joshua T Berglan

But that's what being able to expose myself. So to speak, share my heart, get all the secrets out and share that with somebody. That bond that was created was so strong that it would stood hurricane like violence. So I'm not condoning that relationship. But what I'm saying is you set the PA path. You set the foundation, you set the table for open communication and a safe place.

00:57:14

Joshua T Berglan

You're going to have yourself, a man. But the minute he tries to take advantage of it, you kick him in the nuts. Metaphorically speaking, women, remember that when your husband is talking, he's not telling you what he's feeling. He's telling you what he's thinking. Therefore don't draw any conclusions without first discovering what he's feeling behind his thinking. I got to think out loud all the time.

00:57:44

Joshua T Berglan

And Erin, if you're watching, we're going late. Okay? Sometimes you got to think out loud. Sometimes the first thoughts, not the real one. So yeah. Patients helps here conversing attentively with your wife's conversing attentively with your wife's with your wife, fulfills, fills a need within her. Listen to her and show interest in what she's saying.

00:58:17

Joshua T Berglan

I know I'm getting better at that, but I'm not perfect at it. And it makes a difference. Something else, men, I'm going to throw this out there. Some of the men cook, but I learned something that was pretty cool. I didn't know this, but I guess if your woman is somebody that cooks and you go hang out with her or help her when she's cooking, it means a lot. I don't know if you've ever done that before, but it seems to matter. It's worth trying conversing, attend to attentively with your wife, fulfills a need within her.

00:58:51

Joshua T Berglan

Listen to her and show interest in what she's saying. Never think by fulfilling a want, you're satisfying a need, a mink coat, maybe something your wife wants, but it doesn't meet her need. She needs you to talk to her and tell you she's somebody important, special, unique, and everything you've dreamed of men take care of your wives. Caring means that you go out of your way to make sure that she has everything she needs, needs, needs not wants.

00:59:27

Joshua T Berglan

Caring means that you leave everything you're doing just to make sure she's okay. Anticipate her need and meet it. That is love. I think that's pretty special. May you ever be captivated by her love Proverbs five 19 husband, husband being captivated by your wife's love is the decision you must make. Allow your wife's to law. Allow your wife's love to enthrall you wife delight completely in your husband's.

00:59:58

Joshua T Berglan

Love the male by virtue of his purpose. As a teaching capacity, the worst thing to do to a teacher is to make him believe he doesn't know anything. When you start making the teacher feel like he has nothing to offer, you're threatening his very nature. The best thing you can do for a man is to keep saying, tell me more. Even if it seems like foolishness, ask him about it, encourage him to talk and share his thoughts. By listening to what he's saying.

01:00:30

Joshua T Berglan

You're not the way you are because you were married. You were married the way that you are any man who goes outside of his marriage to find the woman he wants is an infidel and an idiot. He will perish from lacking the knowledge that God created him to cultivate his wife into becoming all she can be. And all he'll ever desire. That's a man's job. Never underestimate the value of being supportive of each other's goals, aspirations, and dreams.

01:01:00

Joshua T Berglan

That's both of you. It's both man and woman. They provide the wings for your spouse to soar like an Eagle. And truly they provide the wings for your spouse to soar like an Eagle and truly accomplish all things. One of the most ridiculous and dangerous things to tell your husband is why don't you be like so and so every man is his own being and he has his own image of himself. Your job is to be supportive, supportive of him and not the clone.

01:01:31

Joshua T Berglan

You think you should be? That is a bad one. Like seriously ladies don't ever. Why don't you be more like Bob he's he's at home at five o'clock and he loves to know Joe you, because you know what that's like saying to a man, I wish your penis was bigger. Just saying that's what it is. Anytime you're in a relationship with a man and you say, why don't you be more like so-and-so, you're basically saying your penis is small and I want somebody else.

01:02:07

Joshua T Berglan

It's the same thing I hope. And here's the thing. I'm only saying this and repeating it because I know you women do it. Not all of you, but you do that is okay. I think I can do this. Yeah, I can do this. So you're in marriage, right? You ever wonder like sometimes why your man doesn't want you anymore?

01:02:42

Joshua T Berglan

Well, sometimes it's Tim, but the way that you talk to him matters because if you're comparing him or saying, why don't you be like, so-and-so, that's going to show up when you're having sex or the attempt to have sex. When it goes all wrong, it shows up in a way that's not good. Because if a man gets in his head about something like that, you've lost him.

01:03:13

Joshua T Berglan

Like getting him back is tough. Nick Harris is here. How about weight? What does it say? How, how about, how about to impress you woman? Your wife, are you at, Hey John, are you asking how to impress your wife? Cause I don't know the answer to that. Maybe you need to do a night, every week dedicated to the stuff.

01:03:44

Joshua T Berglan

So you thank you, Nick Harris. Good to see you. My man, always good to see Nick Harris here. Well, we're going to do part three of this because this is actually a way longer than I thought, but I want to do all of it. Why don't you be like so and so every man is his own beam and he has his own image of himself. Your job is to be supportive of him, not the clone. You think you should be. When you tell your husband that you don't need him, you are doing more than just wounding his feelings. You are killing the very heart of his nature.

01:04:17

Joshua T Berglan

He was designed to sustain and provide for you. It's the essence of his manhood, because sometimes we've got to keep that manhood in check too, because sometimes our manhood can go to the ego and then it's like, we're just conquering everything. Yeah. There's there is a balance there. The husband is designed to fulfill his purpose. His purpose determines his nature. His nature determines his needs. If you want your husband to function effectively, then discover and learn to fulfill his needs.

01:04:56

Joshua T Berglan

Don't give you, don't give your spouse what you need. You both have totally opposite needs and will only frustrate each other by assuming the other should be satisfied with what satisfies you. And that's even if you could share the same love language, by the way, husbands and wives must work together to address one another's needs. Jesus's great example. It is more blessed to give than to receive.

01:05:28

Joshua T Berglan

It's vital. That's acts 20, 35. As you give and meet the needs of others, you will be blessed whenever you stand praying. If you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your father in heaven may also forgive you. Your trespasses Mark 1125, forgive and continually keep on forgiving. Unforgiveness. Not only can kill your marriage, but it's stench can also cause your spiritual relationship with God to rot and die.

01:06:02

Joshua T Berglan

That speaks for itself. It doesn't matter how serious you are about God. This is true. Pay attention, godly men and women. It doesn't matter how serious you are about God, how much you speak in tongues or how much scripture you have memorized. God's reception of your worship, whether it is in giving praise, administering the kingdom of God or operating in ministry gifts is contingent upon your relationships with other people, especially your spouse.

01:06:38

Joshua T Berglan

We can talk about the kingdom of God, bringing heaven to earth, spiritual fruits and all that stuff. But you're never going to have healthy fruit. If you have unforgiveness in your heart, if you have resentment in your heart, bitterness, lack of forgiveness, any of that, you'll never have good fruit because think of unforgiveness, anger, rage, greed, resentment, jealousy.

01:07:09

Joshua T Berglan

Think about all of that is black paint. When you're beating heart in your heart, if your heart's not right, nothing's right, you manifestors out there. You don't manifest in your brain. You manifest in your heart, call your wife every day and check to make sure everything is okay. Some men check on the sports scores or the Dow Jones average more than they check on their wives. They have the right spirit, but the wrong target.

01:07:44

Joshua T Berglan

It is shameful. When men continually distance themselves from their wives and interrupt their help and reaching out as being distressful or a nuisance, such men are ignorant of both their wives, purpose and their own needs. So this is I really, I like this a lot. Yeah. Sharon says bad seed equals bad harvest. Molly, Trotter, Pingdom greens, please plug your, your Molly.

01:08:15

Joshua T Berglan

You do a fantastic job. His nature determines his needs. Thank you, Molly. Let's see. Where'd you go? I've missed so much. I watched the beginning later tonight. However, I'll continue to listen now. Good to see Julie, Julie, I thank you for your wisdom. You always drop knowledge and I'm really, really appreciative of that. So what was I saying? Oh, I don't know. So men that are really, really ambitious or even women too.

01:08:48

Joshua T Berglan

Cause like Molly, Molly's a world changer. Molly's going to be somebody that speaks on stages all over the world. Like her and her future husband. Like they've got, I love him to death. Like they have the best they're terrific. Anyway. And they're, they're like leaders like they're, they're, they're Marley was a leader on her own, but like as a couple they're powerful. But one of the things that I've noticed is like with these power couples or people that are on stage and the travel and the world changers, one of the things that I heard from miles Monroe, and this is always in my heart's desire of something I wanted, but it became more and more clear.

01:09:24

Joshua T Berglan

The closer to God I got the more kingdom life that I was following, but I don't want to have, I don't want to be in a marriage that my wife is not with me when I travel. That's for safety. That's for protection. That's because men are dumb sometimes, you know, like it's, it's a little bit of everything, but like, I would think that a kingdom relationship requires the family to stay put no matter where you're at and mind you, I know there's some times you can't help, but like, ideally for me, I want my queen with me wherever I go, because I don't want to be known without that.

01:10:03

Joshua T Berglan

Like mind you gratitude and filtered things I do individually. But like, I want to go somewhere. Like if, when I'm in Paris or all Sydney, Australia, and I'm taking pictures and doing all that stuff, I want people to go, where's your wife. I'm like, Oh, she's powdering her nose. Like I don't want her to not be there as the point. Yes. I love your King too. Okay. So by the way, you guys can check this out Mondays at 6:00 PM Pacific, you guys check out their show.

01:10:37

Joshua T Berglan

So it's missed it, but put a reminder and you guys want to watch that. It's amazing stuff. Yeah, you do. You're offered tremendous value, Julie. So you guys, all you guys all network. So here's the thing. Now that I'm in control of comments. Now you're all at my mercy. When you comment, I'm gonna start calling you out and telling you guys to network because that person is somebody you should network with Molly, someone you should, Nick Harris, same way Jessica to Julie. I've already said you anyway, you guys get the point, okay, here we go.

01:11:11

Joshua T Berglan

And we're almost done because we're going to do a part three, which I'm sure some of you are so upset about that. It is shameful when men continually distance themselves from their wives and interpret their help and reaching out as being distressful or a nuisance, such men are ignorant of both their wives, purpose and their own needs. If your wife asks, where are you going? What are you doing? Why did you take so long? Those were all honest questions to ask me back in the day, because I would disappear.

01:11:41

Joshua T Berglan

She isn't being nosy. She is the way she is because of why she is what could be so secretive that your helper can not help you with it. Think about that. I that's something I've got to like, I wish I had a mirror right now because that's important because you know what? Anytime my ex wives would call me, like, obviously I'm in the middle of something and what I was in the middle of probably wasn't that important.

01:12:14

Joshua T Berglan

Not ha, not more important than that. Keeping a happy home. If your wife can't help, you she'll find something else to help ever wonder why the church is filled with so many women they're hurt. Their husbands. Don't have a vision for their homes. Therefore the woman go to the churches and help the ministers fulfill their visions. And then of course that's when your woman starts banging on the pastor and then, then you've got a scandal.

01:12:46

Joshua T Berglan

So you know what men make your home, keep it happy. A lot of women are filled with bitterness that their husbands wait. A lot of women are filled with their bitterness. Their husbands have been pouring into them over the years, guilty unless their husbands repent and shower them with an abundance of love, to wash away such poison. They'll reap what they have. Sown husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them.

01:13:20

Joshua T Berglan

Klossy ans three 19. What season is your wife? Then when it's summer, the sun is at high noon and hot. When autumn comes, things have cooled a bit when it's winter, you're out in the cold, but suddenly spring comes in. Everything starts growing again. Now you need to understand that sometimes you may be ready, but it's a winter time for your wife, valuable information. Have you ever thought about why a man spends hours involved in a sport?

01:13:54

Joshua T Berglan

He must be fulfilling some need through it instead of fighting against what he finds befuddlement in, you should find out what he's interested in and in and of possible become a part of it. So I like that. Look, I really believe it's good to have time alone. And it's good to kind of have your thing. Like I love watching my mom and Robbie, like they do their own thing, but like when they come together, it's like, they have attention.

01:14:26

Joshua T Berglan

It's cool to watch. It's a cool friendship. It's cool room. You know, it's, it's sweet and all that. It's a great example for someone like me. And I, I love that, but it's good to have something, but share something in common. Like if you have a hobby or sport teach, like teach the person because you know what? They may like it. They may discover that they like a new hobby, like painting or whatever, or painting their toenails, whatever it may be.

01:14:57

Joshua T Berglan

But women, men like show an interest in what your partner does and try to get involved. And if it's just not for you, then, Hey, you know what? That's okay. But it's worth trying. It's really is worth trying. Because if you're always looking outside of your relationship for entertainment, what are you going to do when the next virus hits? And you're stuck inside for three months, I would think it's better to start investing in doing that. Now just saying wives, bless your husbands.

01:15:33

Joshua T Berglan

By getting involved in their recreational activities. If you likes to play tennis, learn how to play tennis. Of course, I would know some people that brought up golf, they may have a different opinion. If he likes football, learn how to throw and catch the ball, play his game and you'll win your game. Oh. And by the way, there is nothing sexier than a woman trying to throw, like, if say a football is your thing. And like she wants like your woman, she genuinely wants to learn how to throw a football.

01:16:04

Joshua T Berglan

Take the time to teach her. It's like an investment into like some kind of future foreplay. You never know. Just saying like some of this stuff is kind of fun. You know, teaching your woman how to play golf, teaching her how to swing. You know what I mean? Like, come on, come on, use your brain boys. Like it can be fun. It can be fun to take the time to teach. Don't get caught up in the fact that she whiffs and doesn't hit the ball, enjoy the intimacy and the practice.

01:16:34

Joshua T Berglan

It's not really about the outcome. It's about in the moment what you're doing together. Okay. I'm going to end after the verse. Okay. When a woman asks you to hold her men, she doesn't want to go to bed. She wants affection. So wait a second. So like sometimes you just want to be held. Just kidding. I know that those are the thing. Now, if you hold her long enough, you may just get rewarded.

01:17:09

Joshua T Berglan

Hubba, Hubba. A lot of women get sex over with quickly because no affection was involved. The spit on it method. They feel as if their husbands have used them like a piece of meat. I say to you, men may that never be so among us. I wish I could share this example, but it's so filthy.

01:17:40

Joshua T Berglan

But there is no way. It's an example for my former life. I really want to use the six. So, but men's idea. Oh, we're such caveman. Sometimes men pay attention. Affection and sex are not the same. If you're not sure how to be affectionate, ask your wife. You will be amazed by her responses.

01:18:14

Joshua T Berglan

So husbands ought to love their own wives is their own bodies. He who loves his wife, loves himself for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it just as the Lord does the church. All right. Wow. Wait, what does this mean? No, don't Julie. I don't know what that means. Sadly. Showing interest shows you care and you value them. Yes, absolutely.

01:18:44

Joshua T Berglan

Okay. So we're going to start that stop there. This has been, this was a little naughtier than I thought it was going to be, but it was fun. Thank you guys for being here. If you enjoyed this broadcast, please, for the love of God, share it with somebody. Please subscribe, follow, share alike. Subscribe where possible, whatever network you're watching on right now. And of course I want to give a thank you to, I am Conchita cosmetics.

01:19:17

Joshua T Berglan

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