Gratitude, Resilience, and the Art of Living: A Thanksgiving Reflection on the Lived Experience of Disability"

Gratitude, Resilience, and the Art of Living: A Thanksgiving Reflection on the Lived Experience of Disability"

As the world navigates increasingly complex challenges, the lived experience of disability offers a profound guide for reshaping our understanding of emotional intelligence, gratitude, and what it truly means to live well. Far from being a narrative of limitation, disability reveals resilience, interdependence, and the essence of human connection. In the decade ahead, this perspective has the potential to motivate individuals, communities, and institutions to chart a course toward a more inclusive and emotionally attuned society.

?For many people with disabilities, emotional intelligence isn’t an abstract skill, it’s a daily necessity. Navigating a world often designed without their needs in mind requires remarkable self-awareness, adaptability, and empathy. These qualities emerge not from choice but from the constant interplay between personal experiences and external realities.

Disability fosters a deep understanding of emotions, both one’s own and others. Advocating for accessibility or accommodations, for example, requires vulnerability, courage, and an ability to communicate effectively while building bridges with others. Similarly, experiencing exclusion can nurture a profound empathy for the struggles of others, creating a perspective rooted in compassion and shared humanity.

?These lived experiences hold valuable lessons for leadership and collaboration. In workplaces and communities, there is an embodiment of emotional intelligence modeled by those with disabilities where adaptability, empathy, and a willingness to listen allow for the creation of environments where people can thrive. Disability shows us that leadership isn’t about dominance or perfection but fostering relationships and understanding complexity.

?Living with a disability often means finding joy and value in small moments that others might overlook. Whether it’s the satisfaction of overcoming a logistical challenge or the appreciation of supportive relationships, disability teaches gratitude as a way of life. This gratitude isn’t about blind optimism, it’s about choosing to see beauty and meaning even in imperfection.

?This perspective resonates deeply in a world where stress and uncertainty have become pervasive. Gratitude, as demonstrated by the disability community, is a powerful tool for resilience. It shifts focus from what’s missing to what’s present, fostering a mindset that embraces the fullness of life, even amid struggles. Practices like mindfulness, increasingly popular for mental health, reflect this ethos: the deliberate acknowledgment of moments of joy, no matter how small.

?The lived experience of disability challenges traditional notions of success and quality of life, asking society to consider: What truly makes life meaningful? It shifts the emphasis from material achievement and relentless productivity to connection, purpose, and authenticity.

?Disability underscores the value of interdependence over individualism. Many people with disabilities rely on networks of care, not as a sign of weakness, but as a testament to the power of human connection. These relationships, rooted in mutual support, reveal the richness of community and the beauty of shared responsibility.

?Moreover, disability often reframes purpose as something more profound than productivity. Advocating for accessibility, fighting ableism, or simply creating space for one’s authentic self becomes an act of leadership and creativity. This perspective encourages society to redefine success, not as the accumulation of wealth or accolades but as a commitment to equity, inclusion, and meaning.

?In the decade to come, the disability community’s insights can guide the world toward a deeper appreciation of life’s possibilities. Universal design and inclusive policies are not just about removing barriers, they reflect a broader commitment to ensuring that everyone, regardless of ability, can contribute and thrive.

?The lived experience of disability offers a profound blueprint for building a world rooted in emotional intelligence, gratitude, and purpose. It challenges us to see beyond surface-level metrics of success and embrace a richer, more interconnected way of living. Far from being a story of deficit, disability illuminates the strength and creativity that arise from navigating life differently.

Looking toward the future, the lessons of disability can reshape not only how we treat one another but also how we define what it means to live a good life. By centering these experiences, society can grow more inclusive, compassionate, and resilient, ensuring the next decade celebrates the beauty of diverse ways of being.

?As we in the United States celebrate Thanksgiving, it’s an important moment to reflect on what truly matters and to express gratitude for the relationships, experiences, and perspectives that enrich our lives. The lived experience of disability reminds us to find beauty in connection, strength in resilience, and meaning in even the smallest moments of joy. This season, let us be thankful not only for what we have but for the wisdom we gain from embracing life’s diversity and the lessons that help us create a more compassionate and inclusive world.

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Sara Shunkwiler

Disability Belonging & STEM Equity Advocate | Teach Access Fellow | Engineer, Adjunct STEM Faculty, ID at Johns Hopkins University

3 个月

Puneet Singh Singhal I thought of your poem, "If Everyone Were a Little Bit Disabled"... Thanks for sharing that yesterday Priti Salian.

Sara Shunkwiler

Disability Belonging & STEM Equity Advocate | Teach Access Fellow | Engineer, Adjunct STEM Faculty, ID at Johns Hopkins University

3 个月

Jonathan J Kaufman I'm printing this to tuck inside my copy of Julie Harris' Boldly Belong: The Power of Being YOU in a Disability Society. That book finally hit home for me in ways that no amount of lectures from my doctors and therapist ever have. They have been quick to point out that I use work to numb out pain. I've often said myself that the impact my colleagues and I make gets me out of bed when I feel too awful to otherwise. It has truly been a tough year with my disability, but the connections I've made and the newfound ability to give myself grace and find those lessons are beautiful. I'm keeping this essay and I'll be pulling it out again next year (and many more). By the way, I watched "Out of My Mind" last night on Disney+. So similar to my non-verbal niece with cerebral palsy and spastic quadriplegia. She looked so much like the actress, as well, that it was like being back in time. We lost Mary at age 8, but she had just gotten a talking device and we were starting to hear her voice. Looking forward to continuing to hear YOUR thoughts this coming year!

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