Gratitude in Action

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“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.” ―?Melody Beattie

Introduction

As we approach this Thanksgiving season, I've been reflecting on a story that captures the transformative power of gratitude. It is the ancient story of the ten lepers who experienced a life-changing transformation but responded in very different ways. Their choices offer profound lessons about gratitude, leadership, and connection, reminding us that how we respond matters as much as the blessings themselves.

Here's the modern version of the story (with AI's help).

The Modern Story

Imagine ten individuals facing an isolating and life-altering challenge that left them marginalized and disconnected from society. They heard about someone who could help—someone known for bringing hope and restoration. Desperate, they reached out, calling for assistance. The helper responded, giving them clear instructions to follow.

As they took action, their lives transformed. The challenge that once defined them was lifted, giving them a fresh start. Overwhelmed with joy, most continued on their path, eager to embrace their newfound freedom.

But one person paused. Instead of rushing forward, they turned back to express gratitude. This simple act set them apart. They not only recognized the impact of the transformation but also honored the source of their blessing. The helper acknowledged this act, marveling at the rarity of such genuine appreciation.

The One Who Returned

While all ten received a life-changing gift, only one chose to return, pause, and express gratitude. This acknowledgment transformed a moment of healing into a lasting connection, offering us profound insights into the nature of gratitude and its impact.

Here are some key takeaways that resonate deeply:

1. Gratitude is Rare

Out of ten, only one returned. Gratitude is uncommon—but its rarity is what makes it powerful. In life and leadership, pausing to reflect and thank those who have contributed to your journey sets you apart. This rather simple act creates a ripple effect that inspires loyalty, fosters trust, and strengthens bonds.

2. The Courage to Pause

The one leper who turned back broke away from the group's momentum to acknowledge the giver. This intentional act and awareness required self-reflection, humility, courage, and presence—qualities we must cultivate by choice. Leadership isn't just about moving forward; it's also about knowing when to pause.

3. Beyond Transactions

The nine who continued may have seen their blessing as a transaction: they asked, received, and moved on. The one who returned understood that gratitude creates a deeper relationship, turning a task into a connection. Those who value people over processes build cultures that thrive on trust and collaboration and will tap into the deep reservoirs of goodwill, inspiration, and possibilities.

4. Impact Multiplier

The one who returned didn't just experience healing—but gained a deeper sense of wholeness. Similarly, those who express gratitude unlock greater potential, creating a multiplier effect that drives engagement, motivation, and innovation.

Gratitude in Practice

As leaders, how do we take these lessons and apply them? Here are three ways to make gratitude a cornerstone of your leadership:

1. Turn Back to Acknowledge Contributions

Who in your life or organization deserves a thank-you? Take a moment to pause, reflect, and express gratitude to those who've supported you in every way (big and small).

2. Recognize Progress, Not Just Outcomes

Leadership often emphasizes results. Gratitude shifts the focus to the journey, celebrating progress and perseverance. Recognizing these necessary steps lubricates the team's engine and keeps them energized and aligned.

3. Model Gratitude as a Leadership Value

Gratitude isn't just a personal act—it's a cultural shift. Leaders who consistently express thanks set the tone for an organization where everyone feels valued and empowered.

With Gratitude: My Reflection

I deeply appreciate the people who have shaped and continue to shape my journey this season. Specifically, to my sponsors, mentors, coaches, and teachers, your input, questions, wisdom, and guidance remain invaluable.

To my colleagues and clients, your trust and collaboration inspire me daily.

And to my readers, this forum/newsletter wouldn't be what it is without you; thank you for reading, sharing, extending the conversations (privately and publicly), and engaging in ways that make us better.

To all celebrating in the U.S., I wish you a heartfelt Happy Thanksgiving with family, friends, and loved ones.

Sincerely,

Dr. Flo

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