Be Grateful & Let it Be

Setting expectations is a constant criteria we deeply attempt to identify at every stage and aspect of one’s life paralleled with fears of failure and rejection along with them. Those fears hijack our mind and push us regularly and unconsciously to compare the level we attain versus those expectations.

Worrisome comes a result, anxiousness becomes built in, and jealousy versus another bursts out. We enter into a dynamic of comparison whether with one self or with others, to find excuses for either our failures or the bottlenecks that keep us away from achieving our dreams.

This overall bouquet of emotions makes us not only a victim by choice but also ungrateful, blind sighted to the blessings we have.

How many times do we fall into this trap? Countless times we do. At every aspect of our life, be it a target to reach at work, a confrontation with a peer, a relationship with a partner or any type of challenge or situation we have to face, the first conscious question is “Why me”?

Imagine our days revolving around this theory, trying endlessly to shut the mind down and convince us with the beauty of life when we are constantly wearing the wrong eyeglasses and seeing gracefulness as bitterness. It becomes impossible to enjoy the bliss when our mind is the decision maker and our spirit is imprisoned behind steel bars watching silently and incapably. Our inner peace will dissolve slowly; hatred fills the gaps and blocks any opportunity of forgiveness to one self and other.

Many uncontrolled reasons could gather around making us a victim but the only answer solving this riddle is “Love” where its power might be demeaned by some who have not decode it and resisted to do it because it will vanish the reason we chose to play this weak role at the beginning.

This energy is the cure to our pain, the song to our bitter symphonies and the light passing through our bodies elevating us from the physical state to a floating state where objects don’t exist, space and time have no value, hatred dissolve, fear disappears, and serenity takes over.

Plant love and you will harvest it.

The main light shed to that road is to contemplate into our story with detachment from emotions, and full gratitude to everything we take for granted. When was the last time we celebrated life by acknowledging the breath we inhale or the fact of waking up every morning? When time passes fluctuating between unfairness, to challenges, or to success and happiness, we always let our mind decide the emotions we settle for, but when we realize that every encounter or struggle has purposefully happened to make us learn and grow; then we shall be ready to patiently wait for the hidden hope embedded in between days waiting to be discovered.

Our positive attitude and graciousness to life’s miracles is the beginning of the journey in building the immune system to understand that fears are the result of our imagination as we tend to construct to serve us as block barriers from enjoying the present in its roughness and purity.

If we take the time in rewinding our life tape chronologically as observers, we will realize that every event was a pre-requisite for the other to happen, in the favor to make us learn from our mistakes or to celebrate success and sense of usefulness. Why do we tend to forget the moments where we were the happiest and we always remember the harsh times only without focusing on the lessons learned and engraved in us? For what it’s worth, if downfalls didn’t take place; we might have ended up in a darker tunnel than we think we are, or we still are stuck there because we chose to. 

Life offers us choices and we are the only decision makers in picking our roles and being held accountable for them. Always remember it’s our choice not anyone’s, so repercussions should be our responsibility and not anyone’s.

Ending up using my favorite childhood game “Super Mario” which gladly enough it came out to be a great lesson to my life, as now I see life pictured in the screenshot I captured while repeating the same level until I have learned jumping over the bushes and moving on to the next one. And life works within the same dynamic; acknowledge the difficulties, work hard to learn, let go of past pains, and be fully aware to embrace the present with all what it has to offer without being tangled in delusional fears.