Got Haters? Me Too.
Got haters? Welcome to the club. It's a sign you are on the right track.
You can be the kindest, the most generous, the most humble. But people will still have feelings about you, and those feelings will likely have more to do with them than you.
You succeeded but they didn't.
You won but they didn't.
You got the prize but the didn't.
Why? Did you steal it from them? No. You just had the audacity to go for it, while they sat in the corner keeping score.
And so they hate on you. But you have a choice: let that eat you up, or keep on winning.
There is an African proverb that goes something like, "The lion doesn't turn away when the small dog barks."
Recently I’ve had a few people — people I know talk smack about me behind my back — finally unsubscribe from my newsletter. And all I can think is how utterly, madly, beamingly proud of them I am for finally kicking me out of that rent-free space I’ve been living in their brains for years and years and years.
Living well is the best revenge.
So, THE ONE THING you need to do this week is to not turn away when the small dog barks.
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4 个月My experience is people whoe hate on other people are usually battling issues we know nothing about. It doesn’t make the things they say or do OK. But it kind of puts it into perspective. So, I always wish them well and hope they heal. Then I keep doing my thing and hope to help others along the way. ??
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4 个月“Tall poppy syndrome (TPS) refers to the belief that poppies should grow uniformly without standing out and that if one grows too tall it should be cut down to size to maintain the status quo….”
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4 个月Interesting to think about. On the one hand you don't want people talking about you, but on the other, if no one has anything to say about you, have you really done anything? I KNOW there are people who don't like me, and at least a few who like me less the more I get things figured out. I'm glad I give them something to talk about. But for the most part I don't pay much attention to it. And for the most part no one thinks much about me. Which is fine, normal. What do I want, hope for, in any relationship? Hopefully, I left you with a smile. If not, hopefully it's not because I was a jerk. I have been, so... If I was a jerk to you, I apologize and I'll try not to do it again. For everyone else, enjoy the weirdness and let's make the most of whatever is going on in this crazy world.
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4 个月Thank you for opening this conversation. I have one person who has stabbed me (falsely) in the back. It has impacted me with a few people. I have ignored her and just kept going. Same with jealous people who put me to the back of the list for travel (admin), etc. early in my career. In one instance where I was backstabbed, we were in yet another recession. Both up for same job and I got it. She screamed at me on the phone and expected me to renege on the offer. I said no. She cited two children, single mother, however, very significant assets. I had the same sort of bills. Women need to support other women and find that place where one can be happy for the other. Sometimes it is hard.
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4 个月Sometimes it’s like you’re in my head. Thanks for this reminder just when I needed it!