Goodbye Good Girl Biz Tips - Edition #12: You can only do what you can do...not more

I'm learning a big lesson these days. It's no fun, but I really need to have the results. Big time. You see, I'm a perseverer. A trier. Someone who loves to run out there to meet a goal and crush it.

Our society loves this. They praise it. They advertise it! "Just do it!"

So from the word "go" I went out and just did it. Or tried. And I brought a lot to the table. At 16 I was typing 60 words per minute on a manual, non-electric typewriter. Yeah, a typewriter - back in the dark ages for some of you. I went on over the years to add major abilities to my list of skills: graphic design, video creation, copywriting, technical writing, presentation writing and design, training, communication coaching, business coaching. I became an entrepreneur "on the side" and I failed a lot and I tried again over and over.

Eventually – after four decades – I figured out that I needed to find work that was good enough for me and then work it while I worked on the stuff I loved even more on the side.

But that hasn’t been working out so well…I’ve been looking for work and I’ve also been doing contract work in offices needing help with the kind of work I did back when I was 21: Administrative Assistant work.

So, while I do the work of my past I find it difficult to look for work in my present. Still – because I am a perseverer – I persevere!

Interviews, informational interviews, networking, etc.

I had to wonder: could it be that I’m just not cut out for office work at all? No. I love being with people and I love having a regular paycheck, thanks! I just need the right kind of job – one that actually allows me to be me while bringing innovation and infrastructure magic to the company.

And then something extraordinary happened.

Something came into my life that I did not anticipate. After many unsuccessful entrepreneurial tries I found myself invited to a platform that put together everything that I love:

Community, financial promise, the opportunity to sell my own courses, podcasts, books…get free salespeople (affiliates), earn a portion of the entire company’s profits, and reach around the world with the help of AI translations that mind-blowingly make it look like I am actually speaking different languages!

And when I talked to the right person about it, I got seriously excited about building my business. Because I wouldn’t be alone in it. Because my team leader’s whole self-assigned job is to help us with daily meetings to teach us things, and do videos and graphics for us, and help us get our YouTube channels right, and, and, and….!!!!

So guess what Lori wants to do? She wants to stay home all day and work on this!

Instead, I’m working a contract job. With a great company and cool people, granted, but ordering lunches and restocking supplies is not really my life’s dream, right?

In the evenings, I attend the meetings and work on my business, and I am trying to move fast!

And that’s where the lesson I’m learning comes in. You see, I’m driving myself too hard. I’m exhausted and I’m a little panicked when I think that I’m not going as quickly as other people in that business.

But that’s not how ANYTHING works!

For anything to work, it has to be in alignment with your internal beliefs, thoughts and emotions that allow the paths of least resistance.

Translation: you gotta be either chill or 100% happy/excited!

An example: There is a man I knew some 40 years ago and reconnected with briefly a few months back. He is very wealthy. He was in plumbing – ‘nuff said? And he was shocked that I was not wealthy. I said to him, “You have no holdbacks when it comes to sales or wealth or anything. No mental blocks, right?” and he thought a second and then went, “Nope.”

That’s what it takes. And if you do have blocks, it’s a major pain in the butt to try to push through those blocks. What has to happen is either to do something that has no blocks for you, or soften those darn “cubes” so that you just walk right through.

In any case, pushing is for me a very very bad thing. It simply doesn’t work. A whole lot of outgoing energy and no ROI!

I realized it last night when I wanted to kick the wall. I said to myself, “THIS ain’t workin’; gotta do this differently…”

So I am learning that for me I have to fold in my own tactics into those that I am being taught. I have to use my own interpersonal connecting skills and start having conversations with people about the team I want to bring together.

Why is this so difficult to see? What is closest to us IS the hardest to see. But when you can feel your way into – feel what it does to your emotions and to your nervous system – then you are growing your self-awareness and bringing yourself the opportunity to make new choices. New successful choices!

It feels odd, I know, if you’re one of my fellow self-drivers. But if you want to harness the energy of your highest, happiest, cleanest path-of-no-resistance personal magic…you’re gonna have to let go of the reins…

The horses will find something to do. Believe me.

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