Goodbye Good Girl Biz Tip #7: Stop Pitch-Slapping!

I have had it!

This is fair warning: If anyone from here on in drops me a direct message that says any version of, "Hey, Lori! I looooove what you're doing! Would you like me to show you my 5-step blah-blah-blah to get you more clients?" there are only two things that might happen:

1. I will write "Nope!"
2. I will block your ass!

In case you can't tell, this kind of thing really angers me. Why? Because it is the very definition of lack of care, laziness in building a relationship first, and I don't do business with people I don't know, don't respect, and who clearly don't respect me.

Okay, I get it. A lot of these people just don't know there's another way. And to be honest, I did a similar version of this at one time years ago. But it never felt right so I stopped pretty quickly. These days - these AI days - I keenly feel how much further we all keep drifting away from one another, and it frightens me to see what is happening to further erode our society and our human interaction, which is where life lives!

Hence, the anger.

"Pitch Slapping"

"Pitch slapping" is a term I borrowed from a networking group I am a part of. It's called H7 and it's an amazing place. A loooooot happens there, and it starts from the building of relationships. Okay, some of the people there haven't gotten the memo (the training, really) and still pitch slap. But those folks are few and I don't have anything to do with them after that first experience. Clay Hicks, the founder, is awesome. Really helpful, dedicated to relationship and service first - he calls it the CSA Method (Connect, then Serve, then Ask) - and I have met and made friends of fellow entrepreneurs. We support one another in growing our businesses.

Here's another thing I "get": We all need money. I know. It's easy to freak out and to panic. But coming from a place of panic is going to net you absolutely nothing, so stop being so damn American and let yourself relax a little. Look, it's frightening to stop pushing so hard - I am the poster child for how to push so damn hard you get absolutely nowhere; that's why I have been reworking that little parlor trick for 10 years+ and doing more allowing, connecting, networking...

...and things are starting to happen in my business in a way that nothing ever did before in years...

...but when you start the stopping of the pushing, it feels like you have let go of the reins and are now in some kind of freefall in which without your frantic activity it feels like you are doing...nothing.

I'm just tired of so many people thinking it's okay to write and market themselves to me when I have never met them in my entire life. I am a Communications professional and an Interpersonal Communications savant who can read you, read a room, read an emotional underpinning, so I have NO interest in savvy bull****.

Plus, I can almost guarantee you that a good 80% of people or more who get this garbage in their DM's ignore them. So what was your effort worth?

Nada, friend.

Stop being a pitch-slapper. It does nothing for you, and nothing whatsoever for your brand as the human you are without the panic!

You are human first. Don't forget that. It's kind of critically important if you want to build a business - and any kind of relationship - on firm ground.

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