It is good to be silly and be free in life

Being silly is a way of being honest with others. Nothing more. Just laugh, smile and maybe contribute a little. It’s bonding like you say. Here’s a trick. Be the best laugher. Be the one who others entertain with their silliness. Laugh loudly, deeply and with a big teethy smile. You won’t be expected to say silly stuff! Your laugh will make others laugh with you. Your laugh makes you the center off attention. Your laugh is a kind of compliment to the speaker. And everyone likes compliments.

?Believe me, I have been laughed at most of my teenage years to the point that I have genuinely thought there was something wrong with me. I could try to blend in by pretending I was “normal” like everyone else and endured many times of being called various names - like stupid, abnormal or plain crazy. Then one day I have decided I had enough trying to make friends with humans and decided to make friends with “books”. It was still lonely until in early 90s I have discovered the magic of video games.

Now, I will be 65 years old (this year). In the past couple of years, I had came across some of my old schoolmates and saw what they end up as well. Most of them were family men (and women). Most of them had boring day-jobs and most of them did the same thing as others did - work, go to pub to drink and go home to their families and pretend they are happy. Some of them have already left the life already. I could see that they did not prepare themselves for later years in life as I did through books and my own personal research. Then it made me realize that it was they who were wrong in their approach in life. If you want to success in life, learn to love yourself and who you are becoming (as you transcend teenage period to become an adult). Don’t compromise yourself just to fit in. It is not worth it.

I don’t mean to sound like I’m somehow the epitome of interesting, because I’m not, but all they do is talk about some dumb and boring shit that makes me just yawn and lose interest almost instantly. They’ll talk about their relationships, their work, their schooling, their kids, their asshole boss, basically any asshole in their life, and almost all of it is just… so uninteresting. Even when it comes to me getting invited to social gatherings. The whole time I keep thinking “Man, why did I even agree to come here?” because I could be having just as much fun sitting at home alone.

People just aren’t very fun to be around most of the time. There are some exceptions because some people are genuinely a thrill to be around because they’re wanting to do the same shit I want to do, but those people are like 1%, but if you are one of those people, you’re a keeper for sure. But the issue is the other 99%.

Always and I mean always be yourself. The people who can't or won't accept you as you are you don't really want or need in your life. The adage of “ to have a friend, be a friend” definitely applies here. Personally I would rather have no friends than the wrong friends. Wrong friends being those that say I have to be like them in order to be their friend. Being yourself at all times will bring people like you to you as friends.

You have something hesitation in your mind. Try to be what you are in real. If you want change, just go for it. Enjoy every moment of life. If people say you are serious, they will consider you serious, they will accept you for what you are. If you do something silly, then people will say you’re silly but they will again accept you for this behavior too.. So don’t think what people will say. It's necessary to become serious but its very essential to become silly sometimes. Pagal panti bhi zaruri hai yr..Cheers!