Be a good self-monitor. Give good self-care.
Why don’t I feel like myself? Is it any surprise given the contributing factors;
- Extended time off
- Change of routine
- No defined daily plan
- More time on socials
- More alcohol
Christmas break should equal mental downtime —a time when you're not actively focusing on and engaged in the outside world. Simply letting your mind wander or daydream and it becomes re-energised in the process. Not for me.
10 days into a 14-day break and I can’t shake the feeling of loneliness, hopelessness and general lack of motivation. Chilling out every day with Netflix in my PJ’s, a glass of wine or a box of chocolates on tap. Lounging on the sofa may be some peoples’ idea of bliss, for me, it is affecting my mental health. I perform best in day to day life with routine, keeping busy and being with others in person (not socials).
Usually, I would be busy at this time of year creating new choreography, marketing my business and getting prepared for the year ahead. Instead, for the first time in 25 years I was doing nothing and the negative effects were being noticed by myself and worryingly by my family too.
Others would say, just chill and enjoy doing nothing. Me, I feel down all the time. I feel like crying. I feel lonely, despite the fact that there is more family around than normal.
On day 10, I self-monitor and realise I can change how I feel. I need to keep my mind busy. I need to organise my thoughts and actions. I need to set goals. I need to exercise. I need to be around people out with family.
Here are my top 5 tips -
- Get your pen and paper out
- Shut off socials
- Try new things
- Create action plan
- Human connections
Day 11. I feel mentally stronger, back in control, happier and ready for 2020.
Everyone's mental health needs nurtured in different ways. By caring for your mental health as you do your physical health, you can create more harmony, happiness, resilience and clarity within your life.
In summary;
I’m not good at doing nothing.
Know when it’s time to change.
Be a good self-monitor.
Give good self-care.