Good people are always remembered

One day a professor entered the classroom and asked his students to prepare for a surprise test. They waited anxiously at their desks for the test to begin. The professor handed out the question paper, with the text facing down as usual. Once he handed them all out, he asked his students to turn the page and begin. To everyone’s surprise, there were no questions….just a black dot in the center of the page. The professor seeing the expression on everyone’s face, told them the following: “I want you to write what you see there.” The students confused, got started on the inexplicable task.

At the end of the class, the professor took all the answer papers and started reading each one of them aloud in front of all the students. All of them with no exceptions, described the black dot, trying to explain its position in the middle of the sheet, etc. etc. etc. After all had been read, the classroom silent, the professor began to explain: “I am not going to grade on you this, I just wanted to give you something to think about.

No one wrote about the white part of the paper. Everyone focused on the black dot – and the same happens in our lives. We have a white paper to observe and enjoy, but we always focus on the dark spots. Our life is a gift given to us by God, with love and care, and we always have reasons to celebrate – nature renewing itself everyday, our friends around us, the job that provides our livelihood, the miracles we see everyday…….

However we insist on focusing only on the dark spots – bad thing someone did with us and ignore all the good deeds, the health issues that bother us, the lack of money, the complicated relationship with a family member, the disappointment with a friend etc. The dark spots are very small compared to everything we have in our lives, but they are the ones that pollute our minds. Take your eyes away from the black spots in your life. Enjoy each one of your blessings, each moment that life gives you. Be happy and live a life positively!

The answers you have so far above were related with karma and stuff. I don’t mean to be rude about some people’s beliefs, but there is no “fairness” rule in this world. That is just wishful thinking and lip service to make people feel better in the moment. The truth of the matter is, this is survival of the fittest and people who do shit and get away with it usually have more power in some way-whether it is physically, in a financial way, status-wise, or connection-wise. That power allows them to have a safety net to get away with a lot of things. In other words, often times people who are victims to such “bad guys” are often at their mercy.

Of course, there are always exceptions to this, but in the most part it’s true. Knowing that, you have to be clever to work your way around this or to even get away from such people if it is futile. If you want to gain more power than those people, you have to work on yourself really…but it doesn’t mean working on revenge…but just working on your own happiness and success in what ways you can. Or if you can’t defeat them in their power, you can at least try to find a way to find your place where you do fit in.

And quite frankly, people like that often times have personality disorders, no empathy, and no “play-by-the-rules” type of mentality. This allows them to do things without feeling remorse and asking them in reasonable ways to stop or playing to their emotions does not work in such cases. A lot of people believe that children are born good and innocent. They believe it is the world that corrupts them as they get older. I disagree.

When I taught Sunday school, I worked with many toddlers. When toddlers saw something they wanted, they immediately stole it from another toddler. They were selfish, although no one taught them to be that way. Often, when a toddler was stolen from, they hit the other toddler who stole from them. I guarantee you, no one taught that toddler to hit and hurt someone. Humans, I believe, are born selfish, unkind, and uncaring. Kindness is learned. And, to be kind, you must fight against human nature. That’s why kindness is so impressive.

We do not. We avoid the majority of correct judgment with prejudice. Everyone makes mistakes. No one is perfect. We are all equally different.it is easy for an ignorant person to believe he knows enough to make snap judgments. It is easy to feel that emotions represent truth instead of reason and empathy. Spend your life condemning and forgiving and you will not have one day of human happiness. People do not do good deeds.

They are not dependent on the opinions of others to judge their behavior. An adult takes responsibility for his own actions and develops an independence and moral conduct as he learns. Forgiveness, to pardon or absolve implies the renouncement of anger or resentment.What basis do you have for dispensing absolution or exhibiting anger? By what authority do you judge another? We only idealize and immortalize a man’s great deeds when it fortifies our sense of pride and current state of security.

Why? Because nature has made sure that we will only survive and thrive in life when we are optimizing our natural talents to identify threats to our sustainable longevity. Those cave men wouldn’t have concerned themselves with ‘toxic people.’ They didn’t have the time or resources to be self-righteous. They didn’t have the freedom to empathize women’s rights. They didn’t have the social excess to explore human rights beyond survival.

If a subject or idea wasn’t conducive to life and immediate survival of your functional social network, it was a serious distraction and misapplication of time and energy. Any member of the clan that couldn’t see this facet of their reality was ultimately viewed as intolerable, to the point of condemnation and exile. The evolution process takes much longer to ‘adjust’ and it would seem that our cognitive intelligence outdid itself.

Thus, we are left with a void of energy and focus on ‘what’s wrong’ all around us - and a diminished community of minor-to-nonexistent threats. We have nothing left to effectively utilize our still-active minds. So how does this play out? We start judging anything and everything around us and over-analyze aspects of life that really just don't matter, at the end of the day. Cheers!