A good heart gets hurt very badly expecting good things from people

We know that this mean world is full of good hearted people. Let's first understand more about what are the characteristics of these so called "Good people", that they are being nice to people all the time, they always care for everyone around them, and they give due respect to others and strongly believe in humanity. But in this world is it enough to only being good? ask yourself this question.

 We know there are so many examples are not related but I am trying to show you that our life is not only result of our deeds (Karma) but it's the outcome of the deeds (Karma) of the environment were we are living in. Essentially it shows that we are living in an inter dependent life , were results depends on the emotions of all the people connected with us and not only one's individual emotions. So , I think good person and bad person both have lot's of problems faced in their life because of their deeds or either their surroundings.

We always give more important's to your strength and in this world everyone have different life values so don't think too much and just focus on your life values. Let us now try to understand current situation as it is and understand and try to learn human behaviours by simple expectations from others. The root cause of all problems is we are expecting too much and don't try to understand someone else situation.

This is the best thing we can do to any situation is learn from successful people how they succeeded in life after being a failure. Do you know that Jack ma failed in high school, entrance exam also and was not even selected in army or also in KFC but first three year in business he could not earn single dollar for himself. Think about Abraham Lincoln he was born into poverty and he faced with defeat throughout his life. He lost eight elections, twice failed in business and suffered a nervous breakdown.

Even great contemporaries like Elon musk and Jeff Bezos faced the business problems initially and both had to divorce their wives. There are lots of other great personalities who faced the lots of personal and professional problems but they did but they could never get stuck with problems and they kept learning from their past mistakes and now just ask yourself how many times you completed your expectation ? So how can we expect someone else to be like our mindset.

Human being are all self-centered and selfish. If we weren't we would never survive. When I give a homeless person money or donate money to charity is it to really help them or make myself feel good? I would believe the latter. Would that make me a good guy? Now let's examine the question. Why do good hearts always get hurt? I'm betting this has to do with a relationship. Here's a suggestion. Stop being a good guy and start being a good man. What does that mean? Here are some examples:

A good guy pretends to put others needs before his own, which is total bullshit. A good man understands that if he puts others needs before his own that he can't be trusted. A good guy never makes real decisions because he's to worried about upsetting someone or not getting their approval. A good man will make real decisions because he knows that it’s necessary even if others don't agree. He knows that his thoughts and emotions are his own responsibility just as the thoughts and emotions of others are their responsibility.

Lastly, when it comes to good guys and women, there is something that really needs to be understood. No matter how much human beings “evolve” or how much equality there is, a good guy kisses well a good man sincerely compliments if it's warranted. A good guy will alter his personality to make others perceive him for something other than what he truly is.

A good man accepts himself for his good and bad qualities because he knows that only by being true to himself, can he be true to others. Whether that makes him a “good guy” or not does not matter to him in the slightest. To summarise, do not stop being a just “good guy” and start being a good man. If you don't know what that means, that would explain why you’r asking this question in the first place. Cheers!