Good behaviour has no monetary value

Honestly I have pondered on the similar lines as well, but I have realised that there are no ‘good hearts’ or ‘bad hearts’ in a relationship. We enter a relationship with different needs or wants on our mind. We are never too explicit about it to each other. So one may be looking for something with more depth and the other would may just be needing someone for chilling or just trying their luck or getting some warmth on a cold winter night.

The phase of figuring out if this relationship is going to work is the critical one, if you're the one who falls first or thinks he/she is the one, you end up showering and pouring everything you have into that bond. In the excitement and happiness you end up letting go of your priorities, boundaries, self respect and start focusing a lot on the other who is just not into the relationship or is just not sure of their feelings.

We go overboard with our love hoping they would realise, but things don't turn out the way it's expected. It's then we begin to feel they have used us or they have a ‘bad heart’ in your term. The truth is you gave them the liberty to play around with your feelings, emotions. You never resisted. You erased all the fine lines that you would have set had it been someone else, because your only intent to win over them by giving them what you think is your best. By doing that we end up putting ourselves in that unlucky position and end up feeling used and hurt. We all make these mistakes time and again, because when we think we love someone we end showering them in love and forget loving ourselves in this process.

The trick to not get yourself hurt again is, make yourself a priority first. In a relationship or not, set the ground rules. Don't ignore signs, mixed signals means a clear no. Don't invest everything in abundance else you will feel drained and used. Keep your options open until you are extremely sure, and even when you're sure don't stop prioritizing yourself and your worth in that relationship.

Relationships are a gamble, all you can do is play it fair from your end and invest gradually. Steer clear from the person if you have the slightest of intuition that something is not right, if you nip it in the bud you will be saved from a heartbreak else it's a never ending cycle of good hearts being plundered and in pain. A tiny tip: Pick someone who loves you unconditionally not the one you love ? You end up closing all your options while the other one keeps all options open. This is when the feeling of Good heart and Bad heart seeps in, because after a point you feel you're being true and the other one isn't.

Honestly when you're with an individual you always get signs or intuitions that something isn't right or something is fishy or they are just not into it as you're or the fact that they are making stories, yet we prefer to ignore that and continue with our belief that everything is fine because we are fixated on that person. What if it’s not that you are unlucky but rather your luck saving you from the wrong people? I’m a big proponent in the belief that things happen how they are meant to.

It could be the universe taking you through the path that leads you where you need to be. Sometimes we have lessons we need to learn to prepare us for the real thing. There’s also a difference between having a good heart and being naive. When you allow others to take advantage of, to mistreat or use you, you will feel that you’re getting the short end of the stick. I say that because I notice most good-hearted people who get hurt in relationships tend to struggle with that distinction.

The key is to find balance between the two. You should have a good heart but you should also be discerning. And find faith in the fact that your journey will lead to the reaping of your rewards - even if it is not on your time, the right person will come along. They have to good of a heart ??, and can be trampled on. These people often pick relationships which they think they heal people from a traumatic past or narcissistic people. In the end they will see how unlucky they are. After giving all they have, they will be passed up for another relationship, and they will wonder what happened.

Time and time again this will happen, and their friends will say how could this happen to you? You are such a great girl/guy. What they need to do if start to pick people who are not needy, and stay away from people who won’t use their good heart. It’s kind of like kicking a dog ??, but the dog keeps coming back. These people are wonderful people and deserve only the best.

They have to learn the telltale signs of not playing nurse, but rather sucking in some sunshine for themselves. Counseling would surely help, but so would making a journal of the what they will not tolerate in a relationship. Learn to love yourself first, so this big heart ?? does not get hurt again. ??Maybe a rich guy. That's what you predicted with this picture. Anyone care about, whether his character is good or not?. Nope. People worries about his character in a last place. People attracted to glittery things. No one has the time to notice one's character. When it comes to relationship money and looks plays a major role. He is surrounded by girls not because of his good character. It because of his money.

Good hearted people are, Givers not takers. They don't like to show off. They don't care about looks. That's why their relationship not last for a long time. That's not means they are unlucky. Good hearted people pair with good hearted people and it's takes time. Because they are rare. So they are not actually unlucky. The unwanted people are filtered from their life. Do you think he is a luckiest person?. I don't think so. I believe he never saw a single genuine person in his life. Cheers!