Going downhill can be a blessing in disguise

We have all heard the rags to riches stories of a person who has struggled, gone through so much shit in life, from dealing with; losing their home, business, being homeless etc. Through persistence and believing in themselves, they came through and lived happily ever after.

Do you think this is a coincidence??

Absolutely not and I will explain exactly why; when they were going through shit, they knew they had mistakes to correct, lessons to learn and things won’t be easy along their journey, but that didn’t stop them being consistent in their journey.?

They didn’t stop for a moment to feel sorry for themselves, nor gain pity from others, nor validation.

Quite the opposite, these are the individuals who use their strengths supposed to their weaknesses, which they work on becoming stronger and taking control of their life even in their darkest moments.???

Some would question this and say to me, 'but Helena, say if your health is shit, then what'?

Good question to ask;

I have seen endless videos on YouTube with men and women who have no arms, some no legs, they are doing pull-ups, some painting amazing paintings with the use of their feet.

These individuals have excepted their disabilities and use what they have to their advantage to continue living a normal life.

Even terminally ill patients that know they have little time left truly appreciate that precious time and realise their faults and set off to correct them in that little time they have.

Supposed to others who don't have terminal illnesses and go on a life time never acknowledging their faults, let alone correcting them and allow themselves to grow.

You have to also respect that everyone’s story differs from others

My story, which I am happy to share that gave me that green light to sort my shit out and get up started like this;

I won’t give you the I lost my house, I had to declare myself bankrupt, or I lost the love of my life story with a violin intro attachment.

My health was suffering at the time, that got really bad in the duration of 10 years on and off. To make things worse I had severe depression and yes I wanted to end my life.

For a short while, I was prescribed anti-depressant pills,?which didn’t work for me. Instead, I would vomit them back up because they didn’t agree with me like most medications because I have a sensitive system.

I saw dark and only dark paths with no escape.?I was negative I didn’t want to get out of my bed.?

I couldn’t wait till the day was done, not realising the next day would arrive, and I still felt the same. I didn’t know how to change these feelings I had and as time went by, it simply spiralled out of control, affecting my health in the process.

This all stemmed from once being obese, weighing 15 stones and hating the skin I lived in. I though losing the weight I would feel good supposed to feeling repulsed by the skin I lived in. How wrong was I!

Because I was so focused on my body image, I was actually suppressing other negativities within me, like:

Did I love myself at the time? No.

Was I happy within? No.

Was I confident? No.

Did I believe in myself? No.

Did I address my insecurities within myself? No.

Did I realise I needed to address my weaknesses in order to turn them into my strengths? No.

To this day, I believe strongly this was all brought on by having a negative mindset that I clearly was not addressing.

It took me a while, but I realised that, I actually had a choice and I chose to turn it around and inspire others that self-working on oneself needn’t be an unpleasant experience.

I learned that In fact, it was a process of oneself to grow if given the opportunity and not to give up and most importantly not to resist during the learning process .?

Trust me when I say this; you mentally get stronger, adding that any adversity that comes your way you know you got it and have a choice to turn it around.

It is ironic though that as humans, we have had to endure a lot of crap in life before we finally say enough is enough.

It needn’t be like that though, but unfortunately, it takes that experience to progress to the next stage.?

The beauty of it you get a taster of what serves you, and what doesn’t and along the way gain valuable experience placing you in a position to avoid what is not suited for you and what is.

I guess you can call it the moment of when the student is prepared to learn; the teacher appears, and it’s precisely what happens.

Remember: no one said it would be easy, but you have to understand you have to keep going and that self-working on one is a lifetime commitment, as you never stop learning.

I know this more to be true than ever; I have, just like many others, reached that dark path, but I also know there’s more than light at the end of the tunnel if you are willing to place the work in and reach that destination.

Now sit back and graciously thank all of them shitty situations that have caused you to fully crash down and go downhill and understand these are blessing in disguise.

Remember: the comeback is going to be far greater than the setback, so don't resist the process, you to can be stronger than ever before.

You are in control of your thoughts right down to will you allow them to be fear based contributing to procrastination?

Or

Except what is, learn and acknowledge you deserve happiness, abundance and love in your life?

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