Goals: Set Them and Forget Them
Neil Gabbie
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Last month I completed my Better Man Seminar Series. I have to say I had a great time doing it, met some great people and learnt so much about myself as well as the attendees during the six week period. So much so, that I'll definitely be holding another on in the near future. Keep an eye out for news on that in the coming weeks.
Session 1 in the series was about setting goals. Goal setting is a critical part of ANY endeavour that you set out upon. How else will you know what you trying to achieve, and whether you have achieved it or even got close? Goals can be big or small, they are equally important to your endeavour.
And yet, so many of us omit this step when going through life. Sure, "I'll lose some weight", "I'll get fit", "I'll find a good man", "I'll get a better job" are regular phrases we'll use, maybe more often at new year when the resolutions come out. And like most resolutions, they are destined to end in failure and disappointment.
So, the best way to set proper goals is actually another story, today I want to share with you another critical idea about goals: set them, and forget them.
The idea here is that once you've set you proper goals, you need to immediately move on to a plan to get there. It's the execution of that plan that really matters, that's how you succeed and achieve, so once you've set your goal, get going with the plan.
So, when I say 'forget about your goal' I really mean to 'put it out of your mind'. But the goal is still there, still important, so here's another crucial step: Write it down.
?So when you do forget, you can bring it back as needed, to keep you on track. It's amazing how effective this is. For me, my goals are written, printed and framed on my bedroom wall. A nice reminder as I set out every day that I must execute my plan.
Try it, and see the difference it makes.
Quality & Risk Professional within the Medical Device, Automotive, Polymer & Gas Network Sectors in US UK and Ireland
4 年Think of it like a map. Setting a goal is like planning a journey between two locations. You focus on the particular journey and you ignore the rest of the map and then the issues arise.
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5 年Really love this post. I’m a huge fan of vision boards (similar to on your wall) and make one in jan and June usually. Love your goal setting ideas. Goals are not intended to be used as a stick to beat yourself up with, but more to have there as a reminder. One other thing I do when setting goals is to add ideas on what is going to make this my best year yet ????. Sometimes this involves stopping a few things!! Here is to a fab 2??0??2??0?? all. Happy New year. Keep the posts coming Neil.
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5 年I agree Neil. When we set a goal or intend to do something we do need to separate or detach from it because while it's important to start with the end in mind...we have to remember the path that gets us there otherwise we become anxious about the future instead of aligning our actions to the present time...asking ourselves 'what can I do right now'...as you say the execution state. I always say thst it's not just enough to to know what we want we have to do the actions and enjoy every part of the'being' and becoming process..for me that's how goals get achieved!
Heartmath Clinician, Nurse, Life Coach, Author, Hypnotherapist. I help people with wellbeing and resilience .
6 年Dear Neil, In answer to your question, you'd have to read chapter 3 What Do You Want? in my book Unleash Your Authentic Self ?? Elaine
People Development Coach
6 年Makes sense to me Neil. Similar to climbing a mountain. You know you want to reach the top, but by focusing on the small steps ahead of you, as opposed to letting the distance between you & the top intimidate you, the journey itself becomes more achievable -?more enjoyable - and the learning between start & finish becomes almost as important as the goal itself. Short, to the point - I can learn a thing or two from your writing style!! Brilliant Neil.?