Go From Dateless to Dating

Men aren't quite into the art of romance. And, women aren't necessarily looking to take a man home to mom. The casual sex revolution has changed the dating game which leaves you stranded with no idea where to start.

You feel like everywhere you go in the world, women are already in relationships, or have too much trouble going on in their lives. This problem gets worse and worse as you get older.

No matter what you do (and feel you do a lot socially), you can't find a date.

You're too old for the clubs and too young to be alone.

Relax! There is a process to getting back in the game and finding the "right one."

Be honest about what went wrong in your past.

Accept responsibility and don't repeat your mistakes.

Assess yourself. Admit you are not perfect and need some work.

Ask a friend to tell you the truth about your personal strengths and weaknesses.

Make a list of changes and just do it!

Updating your style can help you start the physical transformation that gets you noticed.

Guys: Get a personal shopper in a department store to help you update your style. Buy new jeans, a new jacket and new casual dress shoes. Your new style and confidence will get a woman's attention.

Ladies: Your best work outfits will not help you compete in the dating market. There are three women to every man in the United States over age 18. It is a competitive market. Wear clothes that help you stand out from the crowd.

That doesn't mean showing all your goods. It means what you wear makes an impression. Men are attracted to color so add a pop of color and accessories to all of your outfits.

A potential date isn't going to come knocking on your door and join you on the couch. Since your divorce, you no longer fit comfortably in your former social circle, so don't push it.

Sometimes letting go is a good thing. But, where do you go to find other like-minded people? The answer is simple. Get out of your comfort zone!

Develop a winning approach.

Women hate pick up lines. Men fear rejection. That's the ultimate reason why there are 103 million single people in the U.S. and most aren't talking to each other.

Your old pick up lines will be laughed at. Buying a girl a drink isn't enough anymore; she buys her own drinks. Playing coy doesn't get a man's attention -- it pisses him off. Being sexually aggressive doesn't work either; keep it simple and smile.

 Don't play games. Find 20 seconds of courage and change your life. Be you and use the following introduction, "Hi, my name is ____, what's your name? "

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Thank you …Ladies: Don't give a man your resume. He wants to know if you are interesting, fun, warm, caring, and loving. Guys:

The right woman wants to know if you'll be good to her, respect her, support her and emotionally take care of her. Make sure you say and do things that communicate all the above points.

Divorces crush your confidence and leave you wondering if there's something wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with you. There are millions of people in your shoes.

What will set you apart is if you make a conscious decision to move forward. After all, you miss having someone to come home to, talk to, have hot, good sex with and most importantly, share magical moments.

Don't wait! Do something about it, and do it now!

There’s something to be said about the ability to go out on your own on a Friday night to drink a a happy hour cocktail, meet people, and generally be a social human.

And sometimes you may just want to pretend to be a French spy and slip some guy your number—you can be anyone you want to be!

It was fun to be spontaneous and not feel the pressure to impress someone by acting better/prettier/less loud, is someone who loves pizza and beer and watching Twin Peaks on Netflix so much that it warrants the “Are you still watching Twin Peaks?” message, and having the time to be that person is kind of priceless

Want to add word or two?

What’s with the rush? 

There’s a time in everyone’s life where I think they should enjoy the life of dateless dating.

There’s no pressure, it’s a fun way to hop around town and meet people, and you never know where it might take you—

Your comment ….? 

SHE’S A PERSON, NOT A “TARGET”

I still hear some pickup-artist types talk about women as “targets” to be conquered.

She’s not a target. She’s a person.

At one seminar, the instructor told us in the audience that if a woman at a bar felt uncomfortable with our advances, we should use a “statement of empathy” to defuse her negative reaction. That’s treating her like a thing, not a person.

How about being highly attuned to a woman’s feelings so that she never, ever feels uncomfortable—even for a single second?

Instead of a statement of empathy, how about, you know, actual empathy?

THE ENEMY IS WITHIN

Self-doubt is the villain. If you’re like most men, you feel you’re not enough to date amazing women and get your dream girl. Not rich enough, not tall enough, not good-looking enough… not SOMETHING enough.

Self-doubt is kryptonite for your confidence. And it’s what stops you from approaching, it puts you in the friend zone, and it makes you settle for less, or for loneliness.

You must know who your enemy is, so you can defeat him.

THE HERO IS ALSO WITHIN

The great news? You have something inside of you that women find magnetic: your authenticity. Your mom was right: girls like you for YOU.

DATE WITH TOTAL INTEGRITY

I met far too many coaches who lacked integrity. So here’s what the word means to me.

Total integrity means that I like and respect women. They’re not trophies. A woman is a person of divine perfection—just like you are. And she should be treated that way, just like you should be.

Total integrity means that, unlike most dating gurus, I use my real name (Google me!).

I’m not a pickup artist who uses tricks and tactics. (I don’t look good draped in shiny medallions.) I teach cutting-edge self-development for men who want to date like gentlemen, and I’m proud of it.

Total integrity means that I’m looking out for YOU. I would never let you do anything that’s not in your best interest. I’ve got your back.

Here's ways to get a girlfriend

Clothing store: Ever seen those beautiful women who work in clothing stores at shopping malls?

 Now you'll know how to charm these women and get their phone numbers in minutes. Plus, you'll discover the rarely-known secrets to making women like that want to be your girlfriend.

Classes/Courses: Whether you're doing an adult learning class, or you're still at college – these techniques will make you stand out as the attractive, 'cool' guy. You'll have your choice of the single women there…even if the one you like happens to be teaching the class!

Speed dating: A lot of guys try speed dating, but have no idea how to talk to the women and get them interested. Using our proven techniques, you'll make such an amazing first impression that women will forget about all the other guys there and just want to date you.

The Gym: There's a lot of 'looking' that goes on at gyms, but most guys don't have the balls (or know how) to approach women in this environment. Use our tested conversation techniques to pick up the hottest women at your gym, without it actually looking like a 'pick up' to the people around you.

Through Friends: Meeting women through friends is one of the easiest ways, if you know what to say and do. By the way: If you don't have any beautiful, single women in amongst your friends at the moment – don't worry – you'll be making heaps of new friends.

College/University: Many universities have courses for people of all ages. This place is a hotspot for singles and the fact that you have something in common immediately makes it easy to chat. Use our proven techniques for this environment to start dating & having sex with as many women as you desire.

Bus tour: There are many different types of local and national bus tours available around the world. The one thing is common is this: Single women who want to have fun and are open to being approached and meeting new people,make you stand out from all the other guys and get the hottest women on the bus tour.

While buying lunch: How many times have you seen a beautiful woman behind the counter when buying some food – and wished you could get her phone number? Your next lunch may just come with a tasty dessert.

Mixed sports team: Probably one of the easiest ways to meet women, if you know how to establish yourself as one of the 'cool guys'. This not only leads to more dates and sex, but you also make more new friends and improve your lifestyle.

Cultural events: Whether you want to meet women from your own cultural background, or you feel like it's time to try some women of a different flavor to get phone numbers, dates and more while attending cultural events in your town/city.