Glowing Up 101: Dress With the End in Mind

Hey girl hey,

How'd you like that last article?

I received some amazing and supportive feedback that really and truly boosted my spirits and motivated me to keep going. We talked about starting over and fresh starts---no matter how many times you need to do that. Whenever we make a fresh start, it's so important that we create a firm foundation for our new beginning.

That means sitting down with yourself and determining what that looks like and how it will make you feel. This involves consciously redefining yourself, being able to strategize that, and turning that vision of the best version of yourself into the real-life version of yourself. Did you know that our Intentional Style Audit does just that regarding your personal style? It's your starting point, style kit, and foundation for your current style journey.

One of the first questions I'll ask you is what has stopped you from looking and feeling like your best version of yourself? I want to know how you really feel. Most of the time when we create a new elevated and refreshed version of ourselves, we need to do a heart check. If you've grabbed my workbook Styleology, you know that this is one of the most important parts of my Styeology styling process, setting style intentions. Your transformation on the outside will not matter unless you start it on the inside.

Asking yourself questions like:

• What do you admire most about yourself?
• What features do you love most about yourself (cheekbones, collarbone, long legs, thick thighs, etc)
• What bothers you a little when you look in the mirror?
• What kind of energy do you want to put out when you walk into a room?
• Do you care about your appearance?
• Do I enjoy wearing the stuff in my closet?

I told you my 30th birthday is next month (whew, lawd!), so I've been thinking a lot about my own transformation of elevation before I start this next decade of my life and how I want to translate that into my style.

So I've come up with these style intentions for 30:

• limit the distractions in my closet (add them to my styling closet) and focus on what styles and statement pieces align with who I am now and where I want to be.
• I'm not caring about trends (like officially done with them lol), but dressing and doing whatever truly feels good for me. Not for anyone else's gaze but my own. The ones who get it, get it. The ones who don't, don't.
• I don't need to dress a certain way because I'm turning 30. 30s mean the roadway to freedom to me, so I will start implementing that mindset that I listed above. No slit too high, no plunge too low. ( I truly believe 40 is where it's at!),
• Mix my feminine and masculine energy
• Carefully curate every outfit I put on my body and shop for pieces that fit and flatter the body I have now.
• Push myself more creatively and with styling and repurposing items to elevate my style and really make things my own. (did this so much when I was a little girl, so excited to do it again!)

What do I want my wardrobe to say about me?

• in my best Beyonce voice "I'm a GROWN woman"
• "I'm confident and fierce"
• "Oh she's a boss and a baddie, she knows she's a 10."
• "The details tho."
• Fearless fashionista goddess energy.
• creative, artistic, a visionary.

Additions to my closet:

• more sneakers (Nike and New Balance)
• more gym sets and fits (since I'm officially a gym girlie now, coming up on 1 year of consistency in October)
• Invest in more baseball caps, hats, and scarves.
• midi and maxi style skirts and dresses with a bodycon or fit and flare fit
• I want to invest in statement jewelry again like necklaces, bracelets, rings, etc. Preferably from thrift shops and second-hand boutiques.
• more bootcut/bellbottoms/flare jeans
• mesh tops with fun colorways and designs
• Necklines
• asymmetrical, cowl, square, scoop, strapless, crew, racerback
• more tops!

My Commitment/ Style Statement:

• Edit my closet and get rid of the distractions and add them to my styling closet.
• 2 big shopping hauls for Spring/Summer and Fall/Winter for quality basics and unique pieces.
• Stop getting dressed with the gram and trends in mind. Officially let them go. Being trendy is boring to me now.
• Experiment and explore all the possibilities in my closet.
• Be bold, don't even think about toning yourself down or dimming your light for others.

This is a little bit of the groundwork that I'm putting into my outward transformation to match the inner transformation and the same groundwork that I put into our Intentional Style Audit. & I'd love to personally walk you through it!

I'm bringing back my Intentional Style Masterclass as a workshop that I'll be hosting live on Monday July 29th at 12P and Tuesday July 30th at 7P Est.

Use the link above to sign up or register for free on Eventbrite! I can't wait to see you there.

Xo Tori