Giving Space and Understanding is really important for People we love & Care.

It’s easy to form opinions about others based on surface impressions, but we often forget that people may be struggling with their own battles. The fear of navigating difficult situations can lead to misunderstandings, broken trust, and shattered promises. Instead of judging, we must strive to see things from their perspective.

A person’s past traumas and hardships don’t define their true character. Just because someone has stumbled doesn’t mean they can’t be trusted or be a leader. In fact, those who have faced adversity and still show up with honesty and vulnerability are often the most loyal. They speak from a place of depth—heart and soul.

When trust is broken, it’s not always a reflection of deceit or betrayal. It can stem from the fear of being misunderstood or the burden of past pain. These individuals, who continue to stand by you even when things fall apart, are the ones who deserve our understanding and faith. They may be flawed, but they are genuine, and their loyalty shines through in the darkest moments.

True strength lies in recognizing the courage it takes for someone to bare their soul despite their scars. Instead of condemning them for their past, let’s honor their resilience and believe in the integrity of their intentions. Everyone deserves the chance to be seen for who they truly are, beyond their fears and mistakes.

In the silence of my prayers for her, I found understanding. Her pain, her struggles, and the burdens of overthinking became clearer to me as I reflected on her health, her mental stress, and her anxiety. There were moments when I desperately wanted to speak to her, to show her that I was there for her, but I couldn’t express my support directly. Instead, I prayed from a distance, believing that this was what she needed for her peace. Through this, I came to understand that her actions, the boundaries she set and the distance she created, weren’t meant to push me away but were a way for her to protect herself from the overwhelming chaos in her mind.

She was dealing with so much internally, and her silence and space were her ways of seeking safety. What I learned from her is that boundaries aren’t about rejection; they’re about self-preservation. For the longest time, I didn’t grasp that fully. I thought setting boundaries meant turning your back on someone, but through her actions, I learned that boundaries are an act of self-love. They protect your energy, they allow healing, and they are necessary for survival. Her actions were not about rejecting me; they were about caring for herself, because sometimes, you need to prioritize your own well-being before you can care for anyone else.

Here’s what I’ve come to understand from her point of view, which is now shaping my journey of understanding love, mental health, and boundaries:

"For the longest time, I could never understand the how behavior works we adapt some habits that are not ours they are sometimes created due to the surroundings we create we need to change at times make a shift in the way we are reacting I believed that setting boundaries meant pushing people away. I thought it was selfish, that I’d disappoint those I cared about if I ever said no or stood up for my own needs. But as time passed and i was in situations where i was the reason for someone's difficulty to understand me due to my own issues i wanted to handle situations manage problems but my vulnerability was always neglected just the way someone shared their life to me and i just felt every moment of her pain was my pain but it was so overwhelming that i did not realize what impact it was leaving on my head and heart ,I genuinely cared for someone so deeply that i my self was under situations of what if this is gone happen how will i manage even though i was so strong to face the challenges and would do anything to make it right for her never let any one say anything but that courage was gone when I realized something incredibly important: setting boundaries is one of the most loving things you can do for yourself. It’s about protecting your energy, valuing your time, and, as I once read beautifully, having the courage to love ourselves, even when it might not make everyone happy. she and her actions made me understand its true definitions and her pain.

We live in a world that often glorifies over-commitment and self-sacrifice. We're taught that saying yes to everything is a sign of strength, of being dependable, of being liked. But here's the truth: you can’t pour from an empty cup. If you constantly give to others without protecting your own energy and well-being, you will eventually burn out. that's what was happening to her she was a giver always so supportive but she deserved the same in return like i was doing everything for my family and at work i use to support everyone but it was leaving me with nothing just disappointment.

I remember a time in my life when I felt like I had to be everything to everyone. At work, I’d take on more work than I could handle, afraid that saying no would make me look weak. In my personal life, I’d bend over backward to accommodate others, even if it meant sacrificing my own needs and hurting my self On the outside, I seemed successful, busy, and well-liked. But on the inside, I was exhausted and disconnected from myself i saw her as a person to understand me for the first time in my life but i messed it all.

It wasn’t until she made me understand and learn why its so important to set boundaries firm but kind ones that my life began to change. At first, it was uncomfortable. I felt guilty for saying no. I worried that I was letting people down. But over time, I realized that every boundary I set was an act of self-love. Boundaries aren't about shutting people out they're about creating space for yourself to thrive.

When you set boundaries, you show others how you deserve to be treated. It’s a form of self-respect. And while you may worry about disappointing others, you’re also teaching them that your well-being matters. The people who truly care about you will respect your boundaries, and those who don’t may never have had your best interests at heart.

If you’re someone who has struggled to set boundaries, know this: you deserve to protect your peace. You deserve to take time for yourself, to say no when something doesn't serve you, and to prioritize your mental, emotional, and physical health. It’s not selfish it’s necessary."

This is what I’ve learned from her: she wasn’t shutting me out; she was creating a space for her mind to breathe, to protect her heart, and to take care of herself. I respect her deeply for that.

It’s incredibly difficult to see she’s in pain, and all I want is to be by her side not just watching from afar. But I’ve learned that respecting her privacy and space is one of the most meaningful ways I can support her. Even though I long to be with her, I know that giving her the room to heal in her own way is just as important.

I made mistakes along the way using the wrong words, choosing poor actions but I understand now that those mistakes were the result of the challenges I was facing within myself. These mistakes led to misunderstandings and created problems in our lives, but I’ve learned that focusing on the problem won’t help us move forward. Instead, I’m committed to finding solutions together.

We’ve both must have made mistakes, but that doesn’t mean we should give up on each other. Boundaries are important, but they don’t mean walking away. They mean understanding how to grow individually while still being there for one another. We must help each other heal, to offer support when it’s needed, and never break the bond we share. It’s about standing by each other, even in silence, and ensuring that we don’t just survive these challenges, but come out stronger together.

One of my biggest concerns is that my mistakes whether in words or actions may have caused her pain. My true intentions have always been to love and support her, even if that love has sometimes gone unheard or unnoticed. I am in the same pain as her, even though we haven’t been able to communicate. Every morning while leaving for work and before i sleep every night, i visit her place to see her with a hope she is doing fine searching for my old days when is use to call and she use to be there I just think of her and place is small diya for her health and safety in front of my god reading the prayers. I believe that this time apart is preparing me to become the person she truly deserves and meet her expectations.

I hold onto the hope that through this silence, I am growing stronger and more prepared for when we can finally be together—stronger, healed, and more understanding of each other’s hearts. Let’s use these moments to grow, not apart, but closer in spirit, building a foundation of trust, love, and mutual respect.

No matter what, I will never stop praying for her or hoping for our future together. We can learn, heal, and grow together.