Give more to people than they deserve

We need to give some people more than what they deserve only when we love them more than anyone else, simple! Only love has the power of “ giving “ . When we love, we give give give and give! When the other one loves us back, they too give give give and give. Therefore in a healthy relationship, both parties give their part to make the bond stronger. We give and give because that's how we express our love and of course if you think they are not worthy of receiving it, move silently,no rage, frustration or disappointment. Now you love yourself more and that's why you feel the need to check what you give ! When you feel more pain than love, that's when you stop giving ! This is all fine when you give to your loved ones.

But coming to giving to others we meet in life other than our family and friends, how much we actually tend to give them unconditionally anything? Think about it now and decide upon. Because you have it more than you require and the world is a selfish place, not everyone is as amazing as you are who are concerned to give away to others. Take pride in that & never regret because at one point of time in your life you did exactly what you wanted to do and you will get immense peace of mind when you act kindly and give on your own to those needy people who deserve at least a decent meal every morning and evening.

But when you are giving to others always keep it in mind ,don’t be judgemental if they really need what you are going to give. it is your superiority complex that make you think others are less deserving person, what illusory thought made you believe that you are a person of epitome of good virtues, giver,You are any body but a wise man, correct your perception , be humble, avoid boasting , cultivate kindness and ability to think rationally.

There can be two scenarios here: a) Person knows that he is getting more than he deserves and b) He believes he is important enough. In the first case, person might want to find out your angle. Why are you giving him something extra. There must be something you want from him any favour/kindness/love/.. there always is something. Once he finds out that, he can play you according to the importance of your want or he might just fulfil your want if he is pleased enough and he is good enough to you.

In the second case, person would behave like someone who would deserve that much importance. He would act like a more important person than he actually is. But, deep down your heart, you know he is not worthy. In long run, sometimes his actions may fail to instigate the reactions from you, which he thinks, would have been appropriate. Subconsciously you may misbehave with his definitions of himself which you helped create anyway, while you would think you did fine.

If they don’t deserve then this might not stay longer. Its always give and take that’s it, it should be balanced. Always be good to yourself first and then only you can be good to others. So keep faith in Good and focus on your goals. "Judge not ye yet to be judged". On the other hand, you make yourself so vulnerable to their actions that you give them immense power to hurt you with a trust that they wouldn't. But the fact is, knowingly or not, they do and you cannot even blame anyone but yourself for letting them.

Have you ever admired a person but immediately lost interest once you found out they were a bit more interested in you? Things like this happen to everyone because of a predisposed human condition: a person’s struggle in their relationship with themselves. Most people are often repelled by excessive kindness or loyalty because at some level, this is not what they are used to. They have had to work hard to make friends and be accepted by others. This social conditioning forces people to look down on others who disproportionately value them as, their idealised view of us is not consistent with our view of ourselves. Stay blessed! #kishoreshintre