Give importance to your 'emotional investment'

Emotional investment is the development of what you are, simply put all life with a nervous system feels emotion, not abstract as we do but the more simplistic animals still relate to their environment by emotional expression. A fish could never feel solace burying its contemporaries and even if it could though the fish learns to survive bit by bit every generation or something greater, probably every thousand generations and the fish will adapt to its changing environment. We all do the same, only we adapt as individuals. The time needed for individuals to modify their activities is much less than the fish.

And still it's the same process, old emotions become harmful and are replaced with new emotions that better fit the environment. Unlike the fish it's not automatic and what used to be pleasant thing is now deemed to be problematic as the the old tyrant can see change is needed, so he invests in a rationalization of his emotional opinions and they become his emotional expression. Because of this change people familiar with the bully are likely to say that he turned a new leaf.

It is similar concept to your financial investment, just think it's nothing but putting your trust in someone. Trust that they'll be the ones cheering u on in your triumphs, trusting they'll be there to help u back on you back on your feet when you fall. Trust that they will be faithful and honest. Trust that you are able to show them the most honest, vulnerable, parts of yourself and that they will defend you and help make you stronger. Trust that you can show them the ugliest parts of yourself and they will always be there to make you feel beautiful and wanted and Valued.

Of course we need to select the right blend of people to invest emotionally with. It should not happen that you were so emotionally invested to people that you became depressed and emotionally unstable all the time whenever some miscommunications between them happens. You might be a very emotional and sensitive person to the point your emotions can easily penetrate and attack at the most despicable times. What you need to do is to limit and find inner peace. It can take time to find out for yourself on how to toughen up and not care much. Another way to do that was also to let myself experience more and more pain and take that pain as a guideline to a better me of tomorrow.

Emotional investment is something I had sincerely believed that I will never be able to stop but one thing is that it can be reduced. I was always the type of person who thinks about others before me and at the end when I had troubles I was left alone with no one really caring and thinking about me besides the real one.

Therefore, I would rather say yes invest emotionally on people but on your real family and real friends if you have any which is quite rare these days. Otherwise think about yourself and think about ways that you are not hurt despite helping others. Helping others and emotionally investing in them is not bad it rather make us feel better but don't let them bring you down and make you regret your actions. Be strong and face them as you are the good one.

Because it might be so hard as your parents may have to worry on how much you let others get the best of yourself. You may also see your mom cry on how emotionally invested I was in people who care less on what you feel and do. It takes time and patience— a solid hard work. You need to discipline yourself and it takes a mindset to achieve such goal. Build up some walls to at least keep the negativity of being emotionally invested away. It could ruin you if you let it in too much. Know how to limit. Cheers!