Girlfriends We Did Not Know We Have..
You know Gents I think we're our Daughter's first Boyfriend, I think we model how she will relate to a man in the future, how she loves and engages in relationships in general meaning we're also mostly the first guy that breaks her heart.
Often times we're obscured from the fact that we're their first encounter with males as such they formulate their general opinion about men based on their father, and/or father figures that are around in her formative years. This in itself is a calling for us to behave in a responsible manner if there's to be any hope of her turning out a good woman, worthy of cattle;)
My worst fear is for my daughters to look for me and not find me, be it in the audience for her choir performance, on the grandstand for her netball match or at home because I have gone astray. All they look for is you, your presence is all that matters. I have been without means to do for them but that did not make them love me any less, they have freed me from that fear, spared me that shame and embarrassment. In the worst of circumstances they'd feed on old memories for a chuckle and a smile
A child that was raised well will not accept substandard treatment from a deformed partner, for they know of a better place, basic love and respect they saw from Daddy. Many a woman that stay in abusive settings do that because they do not know any place better, for they would know to leave the moment the place they called home all of a sudden grew horns, they would leave the very moment the monster revealed it's canines.
You know Gents even in the most difficult of stretches, those Nazo meals at 麦当劳 are 30bucks, Ice Cream ko Milky Lane still 12bucks you know parks in Joburg are still free to walk meaning with under 50bucks you would have treated this little person like a queen in a day, it is the very little moments they remember I mean unless you're those supercool dads like me really(lols), when I get my private jet my daughters and I will do those Pretty Yende shows in the Teatro alla Scala , catch the Black Swan in the Bolshoi Theatre, Moscow you know? strictly Daddy-Daughter dates. She can only know that she is a Princesses because Daddy treats her like one.
We are the ones that lay the foundation upon which they build they person they are to become. I shave seen a woman live her life waiting to be disappointed, carry on with their day expecting to be neglected, go into a relationship expecting to be heart-broken, living in a partnership anticipating to be abused even. These are all fathering failures if you ask me, we have a duty to build women that will give birth to the nation that we will all be proud of Gentlemen, not to be taken lightly.
Even in times you're going through a rough patch with the Mom and you don't see eye to eye, an international treaty must be signed for a ceasefire every time your daughter wants to see you, this must be a standing truce even when you cannot stand each others side, just exchange the daughters and you can both disappear to wherever you came from, the importance here cannot be over emphasized, it must be done. The bombing in Gaza can then resume when your daddy duties are done.
When you're getting a new girlfriend too, you have to declare to your new person that there is already a little Princess whose schedule she may from time to time have to navigate. If she's a well built person she will respect you more for that, if not love you even more?
Let us please raise good daughters, humanity depends on it.