The Gifts of Imperfection: Self-Discovery, the Grammys, and Embracing Who I Am

Perfectionism in the world of professionalism and creativity can be debilitating. It's a trait and symptom I've struggled with since creating my very first painting and bespoke garment. To address this, and as recommended by my therapist, I listened to The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown. This critically acclaimed book offered me refreshing perspectives on my personal and professional development, as well as my hesitancy to share my artistic talents. Inspired by Brown’s teachings, I’ve now incorporated her "Ten Guideposts for Wholehearted Living" into my daily routine.

Personal experiences, compounded by societal labels and false narratives, have kept me from fully embracing my talents and achievements.

In the chapters "Cultivating Meaningful Work: Letting Go of Self-Doubt" and "Supposed To," Brown references the research of Marci Albohoner, whose work emphasizes the importance of rejecting the idea of being defined by a single career, coining the term "slash career." Albohoner’s research deeply resonated with me, as I have always been a multifaceted and uniquely complex individual. From a young age, I’ve been driven to learn about a wide range of subjects, often spontaneously breaking out into song and dance. While this may seem quirky, as an empath, I’ve often fallen into the cycle of neglecting my own needs, putting on my oxygen mask last, and spiraling into feelings of unfulfillment.

Personal experiences, compounded by societal labels and false narratives, have kept me from fully embracing my talents and achievements. However, within just a few days of creating my 2025 vision board, adopting wholehearted living practices, and committing to daily meditation, I was unexpectedly called upon to help a sister-friend with her Grammy's red carpet look. This shift in mindset, no matter how small, allowed me to tap into my decades of experience in pattern and garment construction.

The red carpet look featured a second-hand, bespoke Japanese kimono that was carefully cleaned and restored (watch the video below). The restoration process began with researching the kimono’s construction and history, followed by a long soak, flat air drying, and endless pressing and steaming. I then carefully re-applied all the crucial white base stitches (shitsuke ito) at high-stress points—yes, these stitches are measured—which is the hallmark of Japanese craftsmanship and tailoring. Wearing second-hand and thrifted apparel isn’t just eco-friendly, it’s rejuvenating. After all, the archival pieces worn by celebrities on the red carpet are often second-hand and borrowed.

The kimono was paired with a Y. Vestis 1970s jumpsuit, which I had originally purchased for my personal vintage collection nearly 15 years ago. The jumpsuit was perfect for the occasion—not only for its comfort and versatility but for its personal significance. The first and only time I wore it was when I met Sonia Sanchez, a woman I deeply admire, who represents the epitome of resiliency. This was the ideal outfit for a Grammy’s moment, celebrating the talents of a renowned Philadelphian jazz musician and nomination, friendship, self-discovery, and Black excellence during Black History Month. Talk about the stars aligning, right?

The current state of our nation has certainly dampened my spirits, but I refuse to give up and lose hope. By utilizing the resources available to me—therapy, daily reminders of self-worth, and compassion—I believe the impossible can become reality. As I embarked on this journey, one of Brené Brown’s quotes echoed in my mind: “The only unique contribution that we will ever make in this world will be born of our creativity.” Whether this opportunity came by pure coincidence or through manifestation, I am committed to embracing my creativity and refuse to be confined to a single identity—or deny any part of it.

Let me reintroduce myself: my name is Yashira Marie Rivera-Calero, and I am a Latina, Black, Indigenous, Event Extraordinaire / Project Manager / Flower Enthusiast / Corporate Fundraiser / Avid Runner / Curator / Dressmaker / Artist / Autoimmune Warrior / Diversity Advocate / Star Wars Connoisseur / Lifetime Partner / Augustus and Valencia’s Mother—and so much more!