Gifts from Grandmothers

Every year during Women’s History Month, I am reminded of the women who shaped my sense of self — who demonstrated the varied ways women can thrive. The earliest influences were my grandmothers: Gigi Susman and Birdie Sachs. They lived long (96 and 101 years old, respectively) and I was lucky enough to know them well – something I consider a gift.

From Gigi I learned the importance of family. As a twin, she naturally saw herself as enmeshed with another. She defined herself that way: sister, wife, auntie, mother and grandmother. She loved nothing more than to be surrounded by her six grandchildren. She served holiday meals on a table that seemed to grow as if by magic to accommodate as many aunts, uncles and cousins as we could find. As the eldest grandchild and only granddaughter, I inherited the silver she used on those occasions. I treasure it.

From Birdie I grasped the power of personality — hers was enormous. Born in Muskogee, Oklahoma, the little sister to three older brothers, Birdie had an indomitable spirit. At only five feet tall, she was larger than life. She never let hardships — from financial downturns to family illness — grind her down. She loved to laugh and party. Her favorite meal was hors d'oeuvres — little pizzas made on English muffins or Fritos served with onion dip. The secret to her long life? Vodka and friendships. I often quietly raise my glass to toast her.

I am grateful for Gigi and Birdie in so many ways: for their attention and compassion; for their strength and confidence; for their long and full lives. These are the gifts I hold closest.

I’d love to hear from all of you in the comments section below – what’s your favorite memory of your grandmother? How did one or both of them influence you growing up?