Getting Toxic, Negative, Manipulative People OUT of Your Life

This article is about 26 signs of Toxic people plus 76 ways to remove toxic people from your life plus 22 types of toxic people you should get rid of plus 19 signs you are in a toxic relationship.

All of us have come across, lived with are with people in our own family, friends, social circle and professional and work places people – who are Difficult people, Manipulative people, Controlling people, Dictators, Toxic people, Negative people, Demanding people and so on.

When we are unable to handle them effectively we lose our own self and start having a miserable existence.

Some types of people help us become better and some push us to make our life hell.

A toxic relationship is when two people are emotionally-dependent on each other – and - A healthy relationship on the other hand is when two people are emotionally-interdependent.

It is not possible to avoid toxic people and unless we know how to handle them or get them out of our life – we may ourselves need to seek expert professional help.

Many times we don't realize and recognize to spot the life-threatening impact of these life-su*king vampires.

 Manipulative and toxic people drain our resources by constantly pushing us to work harder and harder to please them by making us compromise more and more. They do this because they feel bad about themselves and want to use somebody else to cover their own feelings.

Irrespective of their show-off of their power, shouting and breast-thumping and aggression and violence – all these people are deeply insecure people with lowest self-esteem, self-respect.

In fact the more someone displays the aforesaid behavior – the more insecure they are internally.

Their toxic behavior is just a mask or facade to hide their weaknesses.

Many people we come across in life are actually annoying, difficult, demanding or unpleasant – but These people are not toxic – They are just undesirable. They help us improve ourselves – if we can learn how to handle them properly.

There are distinct differences between people who are harmful to our well-being and those who have a negative outlook because they struggling with sadness, failures, ill-fortune etc.

In this article we are talking about truly toxic people — the kind that infects, affects, impacts and makes us feel worthless.

How to recognize Toxic people These people could be might be narcissists, BPD or any other anti-social disorder.

Signs you need to spot and get rid of – these harmful people

1.                  They only call when they want something – there is no reciprocation of help, support, understanding etc from there side

2.                 When they need something badly from you – they are all charms and when they don't need – you get ignored completely

You get blamed for things which you neither did or were not connected with

They put you down, insult you and make you feel horrible about yourself. Draw a line over any friendships like this immediately.

3.                 You always feel bad about yourself when you spent time with them

Whatever you say – especially those which is not directed at them – they take it personally

4.                 Tantrums and drama are part of your being together

5.                 They are very suspicious of you, your intentions – of whatever you say and do

6.                 They never accept their mistakes – even when it is evident. In fact they may find a reason in their mistakes to blame you, e.g., I murdered that person because you did not do this for me

7.                 They will never apologize or say sorry

8.                Thy will say sorry ONLY if they need you badly [and you have put your foot down and asking them for apology] – they will say sorry – BUT WHEN YOU ASK THEM WHAT THY ARE SORRY FOR SPECIFICALLY – they will look at you as if you don't exits

9.                 You will find them that They are aggressively competitive and jealous of you – your accomplishments will actually make them even more cruel towards you

10.             They are never happy for you when good things happen, although in public they may show

11.              They often backbite behind your back

12.             Every responsibility of making the life work with them is your responsibility

13.             They will never ever commit anything

14.             They will never ever accept their mistakes

15.             In case they accept their mistake, it is only that they are planning even more trauma for you

16.             They will accept to you see and understand but they never would ever see from your side – absolute lack of empathy

17.              They use your secrets against you and use it to make you feel guilty

18.             They can be so magnetically powerful – that you start feeling attracted towards them in such way – that even the thought of leaving them may feel you with helplessness

19.             They may force you do things to get you into trouble

20.            They will always talk bad about others

21.             They will play the triangle of Victim, rescuer and persecutors as per their situation

22.            They will try to cut you off from your close people and support lines

23.            They will threaten, shout, and even tell you that thy will kill themselves if you don't do what they want

24.            They will constantly rake up the settled issues again and again

25.            They will always talk about in grandiose terms on how great they are

26.            They will also expect you to glorify them everyday basis

Types of Toxic People You Should Just Get Rid Of Immediately

1.                  Those Who Spread Negativity through being angry, resentful and unhappy, complaining 24/7

2.                 Those Who Criticize You All The Time or most of the time

3.                 Those who take advantage of you all the time or most of the time

4.                 Those Who Waste Your Time, with the purpose of making you lose or fail

5.                 Who abuse you verbally and or physically

6.                 Those Who Are very Jealous of you

7.                 Those who compete with you even though there is not competition

8.                Those Who always Play The Victim

9.                 Those who never take responsibility

10.             Those who hold onto old grudges

11.              Those who always try to argue or make you get into arguments

12.             Those who always feel sorry for themselves

13.             Those who use all the tactics to manipulate you into doing things that you feel bad about

14.             Those Who Don’t Care for you at all

15.             Those Who Are only focused on ONLY their own agendas

16.             Those Who never Keep their promise

17.              Those who keep Disappointing You

18.             Those who always try to control you

19.             Those who disregard your boundaries

20.            Those who only take-take-take from you without giving

21.             Those who always try to prove that they are always right

22.            Those who are people are never honest

YOU MIGHT BE IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP plus When to Cut a Toxic Person Out of Your Life

1.      Are you thinking and talking about them all the time? It's time to make a break

2.     You can’t imagine having a happy life without your relationship

3.     The relationship harms other relationships in your life

4.     The more love you give, the more hurt and angrier you become

5.     You talk about them a lot Talking about toxic people when they're not around gives them more power over your life.

6.     You lose your temper - whether you're dealing with a master manipulator or the office gossip, toxic people can stir up strong emotions

7.     You blame them for your behavior -Placing blame for what's going on in your life, however, is a clear sign that a toxic person has too much power over you

8.    You dread spending time with them

9.     You stoop to their level

10. You resort to unhealthy coping mechanisms They always need to be right, no matter how large or small the topic.

11.  They act differently around others than they do when you are alone together.

12. They seem to switch on a dime — one moment they are delightful, and the next they are excessively angry or cold for no apparent reason.

13. They turn other people in your life against one another, or try to convince you that others are untrustworthy.

14. They lie about small and big things, regularly and without acknowledging it. They may mislead people or purposefully withhold information to hide their personality flaws.

15. They are never at fault and are always the victim

16. You feel like you're walking on eggshells. "The person you are with is unpredictable and could get upset at the drop of a hat," Campbell says. "So, you constantly monitor what you say, how you say it, and when you say it to avoid rocking the boat."

17.  You are investing a lot in terms of time, emotions, and money, and getting little in return

18. Your partner holds you back

19. You lack independence

How to effectively remove toxic people from your life – all * the marked ones have separate DIY tips in the respectively titled blogs in my two websites success unlimited mantra and relationshipandhappiness - for full please read getting a toxic person out of your life - in success unlimited mantra