Getting Positivity in Negativity!

Don't take the negativities with us through Christmas to the New Decade of 2020; just 3 simple steps and we will be positively to begin the New Year!

Most of encouraging quotes tell us that, “The negative will past, and the good and positive thing will be coming soon!”; or just like “the beautiful sunshine after the rain storm”. Not that this kind of quotes were wrong, but what if we can begin to appreciate the positivity within the negativity? The “waiting” for good things to come sometimes is harder than anything; and it may become the source of negativities or even worst, it could magnified the feeling of negativities. People experiences depression or anxiety eventually getting worst while waiting. So instead of telling people to wait; here’re 3 simple steps to turn the negativity to positivity.

Step One — Admit to yourself that you’re responsible for what’d happened to some extent

Most of time, because of our nature, we tend to blame others when negative things occurred, however, we may not seeing the reality. The truth is that, we usually are partially of why the negativity happened. For example, when your direct manager call you to their office, and then they begin to doubt about your work — what a bad day right? Once you finished the discussion with your manager, you will hear a voice in the back of your mind, the manager must having a bad day or either they’re in bad mood with something else! — Hello Ego! Yes, that’s your ego talking to you! In human nature, we tend to blame others no matter it’s our fault or not, but how many of us really looking into what’d happened and trying to figure out how much extents that we should be accountable for? 

In order to take the first step, we will need to review our part, and admit to whether if we’d lost our focus and made some minor mistake; or if we have been distracted. Admitted to what you should be responsible is the most important step that you will be able to make change and learn from the experience.

Step Two — Look at the gain instead of the lost!

Negatives come from what we considered as “Lost”; it’s actually the feeling of lost, defeated or failed that brings in the negativities. These feelings were implemented in our emotions since we’re born. In order to appreciate the gain from the negativities; it’s just as simple as we learn how to look at the other side of the coin. For example, you fell in love with someone, but turned out you realized the relationship wouldn’t last and ended. You may started to count what you’d loosen; time, effort, love or money; no matter which part you’re counting, none of them would be helped to get you out of the negativities; if you think these counting will help you to past the “waiting”; then you will have a higher possibility to be either depressed with your past or; being anxious for your future. The key is that, listen to your ego and blame the other one usually will be a great feeling; but being able to identify your own potion of accountability would be even better; not only you would be able to understand better of the “Why”; but also to understand what you really want! This is the gain! Love is emotions, but when a relationship ended; you need to be rationally review what’d can be done better next time! 

Step Three — Take what you learn and move on

Learning means when we learned something, we move on to the next level. Just like when we finished kindergarten, we move on to primary school. If we already took Step One and Step two, then it’s time to move on in our life. Past is the worst best friend, if you stuck with only one friend even it’s best friend, your world still too narrow; but if you take what your best friend taught you, you will be able to keep the past in the best way while you also would be building your new friends. Take what you learned and move on to the new challenge in life, continuing learning and be a better yourself everyday. 

The formula of facing negativity is never only “waiting”! The aimlessly waiting only will get you into more negativities. Take the first step to admit to your accountability; it’s okay to make bad decision or did something wrong, we are no Saint! Follow these steps; review and learn from the experience, understanding, study and learn from it; once you’re gratulated from these steps, move on to the new adventure. 

Don’t just sit there and look at the sky to wait for the sun; take your steps, go out and move to the place where sun is up! Your proactive attitude counts!

“There may be “Good Luck” and “Bad Luck”; but we only know the “Good” because of the “Bad”. Therefore, getting into “Bad Luck” is also a “Good Luck”!