Get Out of “Your Lonely”

2 Actions to shift your emotional state!

Andrea A. Fitzpatrick

Disconnection and loneliness are running rampant in 2020 with Covid19 shut-downs, lock-downs, and media hype. People are frightened and acting out of fear.

Pushed by the giant shifts and changes in our world. Media fear-mongering does little to help those already feeling disconnected and at suicide risk.

Rather than doing the crazy stockpiling and buying every scrap of toilette paper, or canned good in the store. Perhaps we could remember to breathe, sit a moment in our fear, feel it, move through it, and then let it go.

Fear is feeling not a reality, it is important to remember that. See things as they are, not worse than they are.

We tend to think of our gadgets as our connection to the world. Your phone isn’t true connection and neither is your laptop.

Connection comes with connecting genuinely and feeling heard, seen, understood. Whether in person, virtual facetime, real facetime, or a phone call.

I urge anyone feeling lonely who can go take a walk outside. Be in the sunshine its good for your soul, and it adds Vitamins D.

Action steps to shift lonely are simple and sometimes profoundly difficult in the depths of loneliness and depression. I urge anyone in the this space to coax, nudge, push your way out!

Action step number one:

Put on the happiest, most upbeat music you can stand, love, and turn it up! Sing, dance, scream even, get your body MOVING change your physiology and you change your emotions.

Think of anything that brings you happiness and stay in those thoughts! When fear or depression tries to creep back in move, dance, clean your house, go for a run, walk, cycle, jumping jacks: it doesn’t matter simply move bring your attention to your physical body through intense awareness and physicality and shift your thoughts again to the positive.

Its better if its movement that has brought you joy in the past but it can be any really active movement.

Action Step number Two:

Call a friend, call a life coach, call a therapist, call family, call support groups and 1800 help numbers.

What ever you do don’t separate yourself emotionally while quarantining physically.

This leads to isolation and feeling disconnected and alone. Use this time to invest in yourself. Cultivate your mind and body.

Reach out for help!

While the state of the world shifts you can still be healthy so that when our new reality settles down; you can move into life healthy and happy.

When you reach out to family and friends be sure the people you are reaching out to are kind, calm, joyful, and encouraging.

Stay away from toxic or strained relationships if you are feeling vulnerable. Do an emotional check in before you make the call. If you are stable and up for a difficult call go ahead and connect with a loved one in that way.

However, if its going to put you deeper in depression and fear find a more positive person to call and if you don’t have that in your circle of family and friends.

Call a coach, a therapist, a friend, or support groups or someone at a 1–800 number that is what they are there for.

Remember when you allow another to help you: You made the helpers heart glad to be alive.

NEVER feel it is an imposition to call a a coach, a therapist, support groups, or 1–800 person, they are all there to support you.

When you allow them to give of their time, love, and energy you help them in their life purpose. Your reaching out is gift!

-Andrea A. Fitzpatrick, is a Life coach at Flicker Coaching, Freelance writer, Blogger, Researcher, Personal curriculum builder, who often thinks outside the box for innovative solutions for those she works with. You can find her work on medium.com in addition to LinkedIn and can follow her twitter at Andrea AF@AndreaA61770623. Or contact her at [email protected]