Create Impact Through the Power of Your Feelings
Michael Barris
Dow Jones & Wall Street Journal Editor & Writer | Media Trainer | Rutgers University Public Speaking Adjunct Professor | Author & Speaker
IF YOU WANT TO STAND OUT as a speaker, let the audience catch you in the act of revealing deep feelings in public - feelings so strong and acute, you can't help letting them out.
Instinctively, the crowd will move to your side.
I learned first-hand the importance of emotion and of digging down into your stories to arouse the audience emotionally.
I was in a regional speaking contest, talking about my experience singing to my ailing mother in the last days of her life while she lay in a morphine-induced coma.
I had chosen to serenade Mom in her private room at the facility where she was living, because in the years before her debilitating stroke, she had enjoyed singing. Possessed of an uncanny ear for singing harmony, she had been in an amateur choir, and sometimes when we watched TV as a family, she would spontaneously join the movie or TV show actor singing, in perfect harmony.
OUR DYNAMIC DUET
My fondest memory of her, I told my audience, was the time the two of us sang a duet, over the kitchen sink, as we did dishes together. Mom washed and sang the harmony while I dried and sang the melody.
"Not only did our dishes sparkle," I told my contest audience, "but so did the harmonies we created as a mother-and-son vocal duo."
Now, at Mom's bedside, I told the crowd, I decided to sing love ballads from the 1930s and '40s, not only because they were in vogue when Mom was growing up, but also because they were the soundtrack of my parents' courting days.
(You can see the two of them, Albert and Gloria Barris, late in their lives, in the photo I'm gazing at atop this article.)
Dad had died the year before, and Mom had lamented on previous visits how much she missed him. I'd long heard that people in comas could hear you speak to them even if they didn't show it. I thought hearing these great old songs might bring Mom back momentarily.
And so, I pulled up a chair next to her bed and started crooning all the Great American Songbook love songs I could think of.
EXTRAORDINARY MOMENT
I had sung about 12 tunes when the extraordinary thing happened.
My mother was lying motionless in bed with her eyes closed as I sang Cole Porter's epic love song, "Night and Day." As I finished singing the first verse and was about to start the next line, which begins with the words, "night and day," Mom opened her mouth and started trying to sing along with me.
The caregiver and I looked at each other across the room; we could not believe what we were seeing.
I felt my speech audience grow still as I recounted pulling my chair closer to my mother, my feelings beginning to roil.
Speaking directly to the figure in bed, I said: "Mom, you love these old songs, don't you?"
And Mom, still lying motionless with her eyes closed, opened her mouth and said one word: "Yes."
And those were the last words I ever had with her.
Reliving my mother's demise and re-experiencing that one final incredible moment of bonding with her brought me to tears (as it is as I write this). It took me a moment to regain control of myself before I could carry on, but I did.
Needless to say, the speech had tremendous impact and I won the contest.
HOW TO DRAW IN CROWDS WITH FEELINGS
Here's my point:
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If you know you want to cross the threshold to the next plateau in your career but feel worried about making an impact, overcoming speaking anxiety, or translating technical matters into simple English for your stakeholders, know that you not alone.
These issues can be managed successfully. It's a matter of helping you to take the first step.
And then, once you take the first step, you can take a second, and a third.
Because confidence is knowing that because you once did a little thing, you can do a bigger thing ...
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1 年Michael Barris what a wonderful tribute to your Mother. The music got through. I appreciate that you timed your post for today which is my own Mother's birthday...
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1 年Great addition to your offerings Michael Barris. You will be able to bring even more value.