GET HER UP!

“He pushed me from a moving vehicle”

“He slept with my sister and said it was my fault”

“As I sat in his office, he came around, slipped his hand into my buttoned-down shirt and cupped my breast, squeezing it”

“He hit me in front of my daughter, but it was a mistake”

“He said he would leave me”

These are the actual words of women just like me, different in the color of their skin, their motivation and aspirations, the shapes of their bodies, their choices and their reality.

Every day, women are pushed and shoved, physically and mentally in all the reaches of human life. Now gravitating towards pandemic proportions, domestic abuse is so rampant and downplayed that victims resign to fate or end it all.

“Domestic violence includes behaviors that physically harm, arouse fear, prevent a partner from doing what they wish or force them to behave in ways they do not want. It includes the use of physical and sexual violence, threats and intimidation, emotional abuse and economic deprivation. Many of these different forms of domestic violence/abuse can be occurring at any one time within the same intimate relationship.”

Unfortunately, humans of all gender experience these harrowing feelings of pain and desolation but now repress their sufferings and rage to function in their everyday lives unable to access help via the existing infrastructure.

“the strongest predictor of whether a physician endorsed a management plan in response to violence was whether the woman acknowledged or revealed the abuse”

Indeed, there should be a middle ground here, where she can reach out for help or help can fish her out in the wallow of self-pity and unawareness. Because, every day, we are her and before it is too late we must do better in finding ways to reach her.

And One day, I will speak books/volumes that will GET HER UP!

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